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Thoughts on re-gifting used things...

eav2ceav2c member
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I'm all about hand-me-downs... But what are your thoughts on giving an obviously used gift for Christmas (ex: toy) and playing it off as new? DH and I encountered this on Sunday and acted as if we "didn't know" but I was still semi-put off. However, I'd never say anything and am grateful for the gesture. We did buy a very expensive gift for the child from the family we recieved the gift from which bugged DH a lot. Thoughts?
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  • gisa886gisa886 member
    Tacky! I don't mind hand me downs at all, but to act like it is a new item is just weird. 
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  • Sunshine+LuvSunshine+Luv

    I think it is tacky, if you give someone something used, it should be told it is used.

    But, I don't think how much you spent on their child is relevant, the idea isn't to give and get the same dollar value of stuff.

     

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    imageSunshine+Luv:

    I think it is tacky, if you give someone something used, it should be told it is used.

    But, I don't think how much you spent on their child is relevant, the idea isn't to give and get the same dollar value of stuff.

    Well, I don't think so, either (on the money part). DH just gets mad because we're talking about his brother/SIL. When we married=No gift. Now, a used gift for LO. His whole grievence is we make WAY less than his brother does and have purchased gifts for every holiday and event possible. Though, I try to explain that nephew shouldn't be penalized for his parents not caring in return. I could tell you stories... like the time we bought a stroller for SIL's shower and never recieved a verbal or written thank you.

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  • ImThisBabysMomImThisBabysMom member
    I wouldn't give used as a Christmas present personally. I agree that playing it off as new is tacky. If it were me, I'd say.....oh my son/daughter already has this. Can I get the gift receipt to Exchange it?? But sometimes I think things but never wind up doing it because I hate being mean and making people feel bad.
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    imageImThisBabysMom:
    I wouldn't give used as a Christmas present personally. I agree that playing it off as new is tacky. If it were me, I'd say.....oh my son/daughter already has this. Can I get the gift receipt to Exchange it?? But sometimes I think things but never wind up doing it because I hate being mean and making people feel bad.

    I so wish I had the guts to do this! haha.

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  • in my lifein my life member

    Super tacky and rude!

    I had a similar situation happen. My SIL got a toy she already had at her baby shower (I was there and she  told me) THEN she gave it to my daughter as her Christmas gift. I was kind of appalled.

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  • DragonflyBelleDragonflyBelle

    You don't give used stuff as a holiday gift (Christmas, Birthday or otherwise). Re-gifting must only be done very carefully and the stuff must be fairly new. Hand-me-downs are fine, but go buy something....if you can't afford it, make it clear from the get-go and don't include yourself or your kids in the exchange.

     

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  • Sunshine+LuvSunshine+Luv
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    imageSunshine+Luv:

    I think it is tacky, if you give someone something used, it should be told it is used.

    But, I don't think how much you spent on their child is relevant, the idea isn't to give and get the same dollar value of stuff.

    Well, I don't think so, either (on the money part). DH just gets mad because we're talking about his brother/SIL. When we married=No gift. Now, a used gift for LO. His whole grievence is we make WAY less than his brother does and have purchased gifts for every holiday and event possible. Though, I try to explain that nephew shouldn't be penalized for his parents not caring in return. I could tell you stories... like the time we bought a stroller for SIL's shower and never recieved a verbal or written thank you.

    That would fly all over me, how hard is it to call and say thanks for a very expensive and useful gift. Sorry that they suck.

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  • FusionLMTFusionLMT member
    Tacky tacky tacky! The only way that is ok is if you asked for used stuff or they were just giving you baby things outside of it being a holiday. And trying to pass it off as new just takes it one step further.
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  • mamabear0813mamabear0813 member
    imageSunshine+Luv:

    I think it is tacky, if you give someone something used, it should be told it is used.

    But, I don't think how much you spent on their child is relevant, the idea isn't to give and get the same dollar value of stuff.

     

    This 500%. It is a little tacky. But it shouldn't have any bearing whatsoever on how you feel about the gift you got their kid. It's not about the parents, it's about the kids. And as long as the kids are happy with their gifts, who really cares.


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  • AshleyC0117AshleyC0117 member

    imagegisa886:
    Tacky! I don't mind hand me downs at all, but to act like it is a new item is just weird. 

    Agreed. If they want to give it to you as a hand me down, they should say it's a hand me down. 

    ETA: typo 

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  • TambcatTambcat member
    It's only okay if it's an extra gift in addition to a real, new gift. Or, I guess, if the person giving it is having financial troubles.
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  • eav2ceav2c member

    imageTambcat:
    It's only okay if it's an extra gift in addition to a real, new gift. Or, I guess, if the person giving it is having financial troubles.

     

    Well here's the kicker on ALL of this used gift stuff...

    Oldest B/SIL gave it to us... middle BIL BOUGHT the gift for nephew two years ago. >.> So, we get a used gift from B/SIL that they got from other BIL and they re-gifted it in front of him, too. Akward, eh!??

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