We're expecting our first and DH is due to be deployed anywhere between 1-3 months past baby's due date. (we tried to time it so baby would be born after he got back... oops!...) I feel so bad for him, because that is such a big moment. He doesn't mind, he say he wishes he could be there but he knows that he can explain it to our LO when they get older and not feel guilty, that and being gone will put us in an even better financial situation (not saying that we would trade the money for him being there of course... he just wants to make sure he can provide and then some).
But for those of you who did, how did you do it? Did you have a chance to talk/skype while you were in labor/giving birth? Did you have someone film it? Just lots of pictures?
I've heard that the red cross can fly them home 'sometimes' but not always, so this is something we aren't banking on. The only thing we've decided is that only grandparents and my sister (god mother) will be able to hold the baby before he gets home. So that not everyone has held our child before him.
Thanks in advance for all your help/input!
Re: Did Any Of You Give Birth While DH Was Deployed?
My H was deployed when our second was born. He had a reliable Internet connection, but our MTF didn't have wi-fi, so my mom sent him e-mails and photos from my phone while I was in labor. The Red Cross does not bring deployed service members home for the birth of a child--put that thought out of your mind lest you be disappointed later.
I'd caution you against any hard and fast promises not to let people hold the baby until he's home. Unless you're going to seal yourself off from the world, other people may need to hold him/her while you use the bathroom, take a break for your mental health, or for any other reason. Not letting anyone save close family hold the baby seems like a romantic idea now, but in practice you may really come to resent your H for it.
Good luck!
I am a pretty quiet person, I only have 3 girl friends where I am so I'm not too worried about people holding the baby. My MIL will be staying with me for a lot in the beginning, or my father since he won't be living that far away. Other than to leave the baby with them to go pick up things at the store or go to doctor appointments I have no intention of leaving the house.
It was DH's request that not everyone we know hold the baby before he does so I'm going to do my absolute best!
I like the idea of NOT having someone film the birth... cause I don't think I'd want him to be able to re-view me like that, even if he was there. Probably just pictures after.
Thanks for the input! I appreciate it.
I haven't given birth yet, but I totally agree with the PPs. I think the notion of not allowing others to hold the baby is romantic, but it just doesn't seem realistic. I'm sure you want to honor YH wishes, but I'd hate for you to stress yourself out too much trying to honor his requests. MH will not be back for a couple months after LO gets here. I hate that he'll miss it; however, life has to go on as normal while he's away. My only restriction I'll put on family and friends is posing pics of LO on public sites before he's had the chance to see her. GL
Mine does. You can't do the whole thing from start to finish, but once LO has crowned and he/she is pretty much on the way out you can.