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January 2012 Moms
Enough already... (long vent)
Ok, so first off, yes i know kiddo needs to bake longer, and i really do want her healthy and all that.
I have been super uncomfortable this whole pregnancy, its like every time she moves she finds some nerve in my pelvis that is an utter pain. I swear I've done more waddling than some penguins, which is utterly frustrating cause last time i didn't have issues till like week 38.
Gestational Diabetes this time, diet controlled which is good, but its the holidays and while DH, who does the majority of the cooking, is very supportive, i would like to kill my ILs. FIL has type 2 and therefore MIL thinks she's an expert (lets not mention her health issues) and thinks the sugar ranges i'm supposed to stay in are ridiculous, and likes to bring that up tons. Also since we are hosting Christmas because there isnt a chance i'm driving 2.5 hrs with a 21month old while i'm 35 wks, she feels the need to critique the menu choices as not enough. (seriously its 5 adults, we dont need 6 sides and 5 deserts, all of which i cant eat!)
Speaking of christmas and my MIL. I'm a planner, as in i have lists of things that need to be purchased for the baby, for christmas, for whatever, and i have a general time line in which i would like to cross these things off. But since, oh say October, my MIL will jabber about how she's bought something for DS or DD, but then not tell me what, when or if she's gonna give it to us. So after countless "oh i got the cutest thing" i had a minor melt down after thanksgiving and went clothes shopping for LO so that she'd have seasonally appropriate things to wear, cause if i knew MIL, they would all be wrapped up as a gift for me cause i'm nothing more than an incubator.So a few things acquired and i felt much better.
Since then, she has purchased a LOT of gifts for DS for christmas, so much so that i feel completely inadequate about what's sitting under the tree, but come to find out for every 3 gifts she buys, 3 get returned and repurchased. So what she has bought has changed 6 times over. Not to mention she buys things that aren't age appropriate at all, that he's by no means interested in, but she doesn't care and says oh "DH loved those when he was young" cause i dont think she realizes that DD is not DH. Its messed up.
All of this i realize is well intentioned, but wears on my nerves a ton. With the holiday Rapidly approaching, her having poached gift ideas from everyone in the family, so much so i've had to change what i was getting DH 3 times now. I've been either kept awake or woken up with mini anxiety attacks for 4 days straight. And no the 2x weekly NST's, the BPP's and all the extra appointments that come late in pregnancy are not helping. (though luckily DD has turned head down finally, and hopefully will stay that way)
So all that being said. I'm done, Stick a fork in me, i don't want to play anymore. Send me someplace thats padded and warm and no one looks at me funny when i cant decide if i want to throat punch someone or burst into tears, or maybe even both.
Thanks for reading my middle of the night everything is horribly wrong post, its better than waking up DH so i can cry about it all...
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Re: Enough already... (long vent)
I'm sorry, but this made me laugh. I may have to steal this quote when I'm frustrated with still being pregnant.
I'm sorry you've got this kind of crap going on. Just remember, after Christmas you'll know exactly what you do and do not have so you can go shopping guilt free. I'd probably have yelled at her by now and set some boundaries she wouldn't like.
First off, breathe! And if it would make you feel better, go ahead and throw a punch or two. Because you know what? MIL should be supportive! This is her grand-baby in there, and she needs to remember that she is going to miss all the good stuff if she treats you like merely an incubator!... Ok, so maybe some of my personal issues were triggered with this one. lol.
But joking aside. I am so sorry it is so stressful for you. Luckily, we are at Christmas Eve, and soon, the holiday will be over. Then, before you know it, LO will be in your arms, and her little smile will make you forget how crazy things get. And while your to-do list feels about a million miles long, just remember to take one thing at a time. I hope it gets better! ... and if not.... punch someone in the face! ;-)
Don't be sorry its supposed to be at least chuckle worthy. My family always has had cheesy jokes about "stick a fork in me i'm done" i think it applies a bit more during pregnancy, that or my brother asked me if my turkey timer popped, in regards to my belly button...
On a slightly more serious note, DH and i have had many a conversation about appropriate boundaries with her and while things were getting better, the Holiday's hit and she seems to have regressed, again. It took months to get her to start just calling at reasonable hours, so that she wasn't waking DS up.
I know logically it will get better, and all that. The stress has just been accumulating more than usual. Thanks for the support though, its always nice to hear i'm not crazy!
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