Is it worth it to make them leave or just ignore them where they are?
Backstory - DD had a breakdown this morning b/c there was no pink skirt to wear (horrible mother here!!) I was nice and tried to show her the pink stripes in the leggings, etc. but she was still really mad about the no pink skirt and proceeded to cry/scream about it and fake hit the air about it too.
I told her I was sorry she was mad, but she should go to her room until she was done being mad. Of course she didn't want to do that and screamed louder about that. I wanted to get dressed and she was in the middle of my room. I basically just ignored her while I got dressed and put make up on - and after ~5 minutes she was done, but it was super obnoxious. I see this tantrums happening more and more and I'm less able to talk her out of them like I have in the past - so I want to get a handle on it now.
Re: during a tantrum. ..
3 is fun, huh?
I ignore tantrums - i stay VERY calm... and remind him (which ever him it is at the time) "when you are done crying and are ready for a hug, mommy is going to be over here".... but other than that I don't give more attention.
once they stop crying, come and hug- i say "mommy loves you. When you are angry about XYZ the better words to say are 'i'm sad I can't wear my favorite shirt. I guess I'll wear it once it's clean'"... and then have him repeat it.
Griffin has done really well with that and now when he starts to whine about something and i tell him "whining gets you nothing" he'll say "but what's the better words to say?" if he doesn't know how to explain his feelings... kids need help with that.... but don't give attention to tantrums
Sometimes I ignore it, but when it goes on for a long time I tell DS to go in his room. If he still keeps it up we put him in timeout. He usually says, "I don't want to go in timeout" then we tell him that he can stop crying and get out.
3 is worse than 2 because they're 2 year olds with understanding and motive...and willpower.
Also, if available I'll give a choice. You can wear this with pink stripes or this with no pink at all. If you don't pick, then I will.
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I ignore it as well. DS throws a tantrum when he can't get things his way or if he's having trouble doing something.
When he throws a LONG tantrum he typically just wants attention. I'll ignore him and then he'll eventually calm down.