I'm a bad person... (kinda long rant)

erineileen317 · December 2011

I was so excited for MH to be off from work for Christmas. He was going to work from home today and take all of next week off (which includes our 5 year anniversary) and not go back until the 3rd. He tends to work late and travels a lot for work, so I really value our quality time together. Also, the nursery is nowhere near done and the house is a mess, he promised to work on both while home. So what does the genius do? Trips over the vacuum last night and breaks 2 of his toes. Now he's useless.

And I feel like such a bad person, I feel terrible that his foot hurts so much and he's limping around and has to crawl up the stairs and I'm whining about how it's affecting me, but I was looking forward to be a little taken care of this week. I haven't slept well in weeks and it sucks doing everything for myself and around the house when he's out of town. Then I wonder how long he's going to be gimpy, I know it's just two toes, but he's broken toes before and it takes him forever to get over it (not sure if it's physical or mental, I swear sometimes he can be a big baby). I did help him around the house last night, he didn't want to lean on me, but I told him it'd be fine (I do weigh more than him at this point!). I just better not go into labor and have to help him out to the car. That would be my luck. Oh and tomorrow he's supposed to help load my 2 metal dog crates (like extra large, for my 80 lb dog crates) into the car to drop them off at the kennel for the weekend.

Does it make me a bad person that I just want to be taken care of a little in my last month of pregnancy? By the way, I haven't whined to my husband about his toes/foot/gimpiness. I'm just using TB as my outlet, so I don't make him feel bad about it. I know he's frustrated because he wanted to get so much done this vacation. I guess I can't be frustrated with him, just the situation.

Thanks for listening to me whine. Pity party over.

SmittyPants · December 2011

Nah, you're not a bad person. I'd be upset about it too. It's really hard to move around at this point and as far as doing any real cleaning or moving of things? Forget it. I'd be frustrated that the help I was expecting is no longer there.

You're probably a lot nicer than I am though because I'd probably just tell my DH to pop a few Tylenol and get over it. It's your toe, not your tibia.

namara5532 · December 2011

Even though it's a situation out of your control, it's understandable that you'd be disappointed in how it turned out. I'm sorry you're not going to be getting the kind of help you were looking forward to.

Maybe the vacation can be salvaged somehow though. Ask him what he would still be willing to help with. Even with a gimp foot, he may be willing to at least try to move stuff for you. Or if he really can't be on his feet for very long, he could volunteer for some of the stationary jobs, like organizing or assembling furniture. Let him tell you though what he thinks he can and cannot do. He may be more willing to at least try to do the task that way. Your health is just as important though, so although things need to get done, allow both of you rest breaks when you need it.

Good luck, and don't push yourself too hard!

Kristine Schilling · December 2011

Sounds like it is time to call in the cavelry. Got any friends who come over and help get the nusery set up? Guys or girls could help with all that.

rosebud218 · December 2011

Honeslty I would be upset too. Granted its not like he did it on purpose or something that can easily be fixed. Sorry this happened.

Rsoc23 · December 2011

I would tell him to tape his toes together, take some vicodin and motrin and suck it up!

rachel.wenger · December 2011

SmittyPants:
Nah, you're not a bad person. I'd be upset about it too. It's really hard to move around at this point and as far as doing any real cleaning or moving of things? Forget it. I'd be frustrated that the help I was expecting is no longer there.
You're probably a lot nicer than I am though because I'd probably just tell my DH to pop a few Tylenol and get over it. It's your toe, not your tibia.

Lol, THIS = Awesome.

Men have such a low pain tolerance. It is a good thing that they can't give birth or the world wouldn't have any children.

My advice, call in friends and family to help...and poke fun of your DH at least a little bit, for all of our sakes. Big Smile

mrs.larry · December 2011

if you're a bad person, I'm right there with you.

the other night I came home and DH told me he had a bad sore throat. I had to fight the impulse to A) just walk right back out the door and/or drown him in a bucket in the back yard. i think I did tell him, "you may NOT get sick. There is too much to do and I can't do it myself."

real sympathetic. I'm such an awesome wife.

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