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3rd Trimester
AugustSkye
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Holidays: Family Stress.
AugustSkye
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Went to DH's grandmother's house to start cooking for Christmas dinner today (we gather there the 23rd of every year). DH's 14-year-old cousin was there helping out. This cousin is OBSESSED with babies. Obsessed to the point of holding them for so long that they cry because they can't get away. (Wtf, right?)
Anyway, DH's aunt and I were talking about my pregnancy and the baby in general, and Cousin butts in and says, "That baby is gonna call me Mama before she even knows your name!" Okay... I was so floored by the rudeness of that statement that all I could manage to do was give her some side-eye.
About an hour later, DH's aunt and I were talking again, this time about my high school activities. I was a cheerleader, and I guess this is frowned upon by Cousin. She practically yelled, "She is NOT going to be a cheerleader!" Wow. (Disclaimer: I know my baby is going to do what she wants, and I am perfectly fine with that. I want her to be her own person.) All I could manage to say was, "Well, you know little girls want to be just like their mommies so if she wants to be a cheerleader, she will be."
Aaaaand finally, we were eating dinner with SIL, FIL, Cousin, and Cousin's mom tonight. Out of the blue, Cousin's mom tells me and DH that we "better wait awhile before having another one!" Ha. First of all, I haven't even had THIS baby yet... Plus, I think we'll have babies when we see fit. By then I was pretty tired and fed up with all the unsolicited advice and whatnot, so I said, "Actually, I plan on staying barefoot and pregnant until I'm 30." That shut her up.
This isn't even the half of what all was said today, but I am too tired to type it all out. LOL. And this is just from members of DH's family!
Oh, the joys of Christmas. 
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Re: Holidays: Family Stress.
Was the aunt in the first two examples the cousin's mother? I'm wondering because you switched to "Cousin's mother" in the last example.
The things she was saying was rude, but not out of the realm of a 14 year old who, albeit awkward, might be trying to "chat" like she was one of the grown ups. More irritating than truly stressful. I was wondering if your stress is mainly coming from trying to be tightlipped and not saying "wow, that was inappropriate" in front of the mother?
As for me, I'd love right now to get unsolicited advice instead of the horror L&D stories and dead-baby stories I seem to have collected throughout my pregnancy. (I've only received one bit of unsolicited advice, from my MIL, and as unwelcomed as it was, it was all I could do to *not* say "Thank you!" for the change.)
She is just a 14 year old... who cares, what's the big deal? She is just excited.
Hormones...
I care. This happens on a regular basis; every time I'm around her something similar comes out of her mouth. And I really LOVE how she refers to LO as "her" baby.
And no, PP, the "aunt" I referred to is not her mother. It's Cousin's grandmother, if this is making any sense. LOL. That's why I switched to saying "Cousin's mother."
I'm just lurking but when I was 14 I would have gotten smacked for saying rude things and butting in to adult conversations. The 14 year olds in mine and DH's family don't act like that.