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June 2011 Moms
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Going to need lots of wine on Christmas
So I expected family issues on Christmas. My mom and I don't really see eye to eye on her relationship with DD. She thinks DD is hers. We don't see her too often making it worse. It doesn't help that all her sisters have screwed up children and my aunts have raised or taken care of their grandchildren most of the time (so my mom thinks that's normal I guess).
So DH and I decided that we wanted to open presents with DD alone on Christmas morning, we would invite our families over but after noon. DH's parents (although they would love to be here bright and early) understand and are going right along with our wishes. I called my parents tonight to let them know to come over after 12 and my dad basically agreed then my aunt (who lives with them) texts me and says that I'm breaking my mothers heart and why can't she be part of DDs life, etc. I call there and my mom's not there because she left because she's too upset and my dad says that she wanted to come over early. I explain that it's our first Christmas and we want to spend it as a family. He complains that it's their first grandchild, etc, etc. And I go on to explain that it's our ILs first grandchild as well but they are respecting our wishes to spend the morning as a family. My dad agreed but I still haven't spoken to my mom.
She's going to drive me insane on Christmas especially since ILs will be here, she gets very territorial when MIL is around.
I think I'm going to hang out in the kitchen, cook and drink wine, lol. Monday DH, DD and I are going to have a mellow day alone...
Anyone else have a crazy mom?
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Re: Going to need lots of wine on Christmas
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Oh she is, we've always had our issues (well at least since I've been a teenager). She's also very flighty and really doesn't think things through, which makes me nuts because I'm a planner.
This isn't the first time she's been hysterical because of what I've said to her, the one time it was because she came over our house (when DD was still little, like 10 weeks) sick, completely coughing up a lung, and her response was "Well she's going to get sick when you send her to daycare." I went through the roof, I already had guilt about going back to work and sending DD to daycare, not what I wanted to hear. She was upset because I wanted her to leave.
Also, she grabs DD out of my hands as soon as she walks in the door and complains if I take DD back to feed her or get her nap, and the whole time is in her face..... oh man, I'm dreading this more and more...
We have similar problems only its my SILs and they expect us to get up at the ass crack of dawn and get over to my SIL's house for breakfast at 8 a.m. (with an infant).
F*ck that.
LOL, DH and I always have mimosas (is that how you spell it) on Christmas morning and I can't wait, I'm moving right onto wine. Usually I prep all the food ahead of time and I think I'm going to relax and enjoy my baby all morning then cook when everyone gets here.... sad, I don't want to spend the day with my family, it's way to stressful...
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your mom sounds a little like my mom...I made the same rule as you...xmas morning is just the three of us and then my parents will come in the early afternoon to do gifts and then DHs parents will join us for supper (we're going to their place xmas eve for gifts). Thankfully at least, she agreed to this (butI'm convinced that's only cause she's not good at waking up early!)
My mom is def a little too attached to DD. She was sick and was soo upset that she couldn't see her. Though MIL was sick and waited two weeks to see Abbey my mother says "she can't wait that long--she needs her baby fix"
Today she came over even though she's still not completely over her cold (but I figure I'm sick too and I live with A so it's not gonna make much difference) and it wasn't really convenient for me but whatever...
I'm kinda dreading the two grandmothers together but I wanted Abbey's first Christmas to be at home and I didn't want to have to pick between who's parents we'd visit.
That's fine, glad I'm not alone with the crazy family..
This, but only it is my MIL. She also pretty much raised my SIL's kids. MIL has a very, very hard time accepting our parenting decisions. I think that I have been remiss on not setting her straight before now, but I haven't wanted to buy into her drama. It is like she is pushing me to see how hard she can push. I'd hate for all of this to come out on Christmas so I've been preparing DH to deal with it. (she responds so much better to him) Thankfully he gets it and sees where I am coming from. Ugh. Family + Holidays can be a bad mix.