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2u2, twice the love, twice the pressure!

ALICHICK17ALICHICK17
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I recently has my second daughter, 9 weeks, and my older daughter is 21 months. Loving having my two girls, and I feel like I am handling the logistics of my new life OK, luckily DD#2 is a great sleeper! BUT, I am starting to feel like there is no time for "me." I feel guilty even saying that. But I am constantly entertaining both kids, trying to get one on one time with each when other is napping or occupied, then hubby gets home and then we try to spend 5 minutes together. But by time both girls are in bed, there is so much to do, then I pump and then pass out lol.

Is it wrong that I would love to be on an island by myself for a few days? Silence would be great, lol

 

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Re: 2u2, twice the love, twice the pressure!

  • kagl08kagl08 member
    Haha!! I know the feeling! I want to be on an island by myself just to sleep in peace! My DS is 12 weeks old and my DD is 16 months. It's constant entertainment all day and I have really GOOD kids. My DD is awesome with independent play and my DS likes to hang out and watch her and is an awesome sleeper. But I'm always "on" and I really want to turn off. My DS doesn't go to bed until 10:30 or so and it's hard because my day is well over 12 hrs long and there is his getting up at night.

    You definitely aren't wrong for feeling this way! Silence would be amazing right now! I can see the light though. DS just found his hands and is able to self soothe slightly. It's a little less hectic already.
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  • rosesandpeoniesrosesandpeonies member

    yeah I know the feeling.  I have no family nearby and my dh and I haven't been on a date since the night before I had my first daughter over two years ago.

    I told my friend that I want to go to Hawaii and my kids can come...but I just want to sit on a beach.  Lol

    I have to make time for myself.  Even if its just an hour here and there.  

    DD (8/12/09), DD (2/8/11)
    BFP 12/16/14| EDD 8/19/15 |MMC 1/15/15 (9 weeks 1 day)
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  • December192009December192009
    You are totally entitled to feel that way! DH and I have not taken a vacation since 2009.... we are going on an adult vaca this summer if all is well and our finances work out as planned! I've made peace with the fact that "me time" is a thing of the past and hopefully will be a part of my distant future when the time is right! :) One thing I can relate to in your day that changed for me was after 4 wks I stopped breastfeeding. This really helped me find time just to get my energy levels up to care for two on the move. I am not insinuating that your should try it, b/c breastfeeding/formula is such a personal choice, but giving into formula really helped me find some rest and sanity. 
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  • Mr.&MrsSMr.&MrsS

    I felt that way, and I can assure you that it gets better!

    Once both your kids have a bed time and a normal wake up time, it will be much better. Mine go to bed at 7 on no nap days, and 8-8:30ish on nap days and they usually wake up around 6:45ish. So DH and I put the kids to bed, then we have the night to ourselves. Sometimes we are so tired we just go to bed, sometimes we have to work, but other times we have some wine, watch a good movie and just hang out and have fun.

    Also, now that mine are older they can play together and entertain themselves for small periods of time. I dont have to wait until they go to bed to fold laundry, or do the dishes. So that is nice too. It gives me more down time at night once they are sleeping.

    You will get there soon too!! In the meantime, do you have anyone that can come babysit for a few hours so you can get out? Or just take a nap?

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member
    imageALICHICK17:

    Is it wrong that I would love to be on an island by myself for a few days? Silence would be great, lol

      

    Nothing wrong at ALL!!!

    For me?  I would force myself to go to Target or a book store once both kids were in bed from time to time.  I know it sounds stupid but seriously.... shopping ALONE?  Having a minute to browse, maybe sit and have a Starbucks and read the internet?  All without waiting for the other shoe to drop/someone to cry/someone to need a diaper changed or feeding?  

    HEAVEN. 

    DH laughed and called it my shopping sanctuary!

    Hang in there, Mamma.

    It's a rough year or so but eventually they'll play with each other and you'll find even simple tasks like cooking and laundry are easier with 2 than they were with just one.

     

     

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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