funeral tomorrow

lrichmond86 · December 2011

All week we've been keeping ourselves busy and preoccupied by planning the funeral for our little guy. As morbid as it may sound it's been helpful to distract us even momentarily from our pain and sadness because we want everything to be perfect for him. Now the funeral is tomorrow morning, there's nothing left to do but wait, and I'm sick to my stomach over it all. I'm worried that what we've planned isn't good enough for our perfect baby, that I won't keep it together enough to get through the day, that once this part is over I won't know how to go on with our daily lives. It will only be our closest family with us tomorrow... about 10 other people. But I don't want to feel like I have to take care of them tomorrow when I'm not even sure I'll be able to take care of myself. I guess in general, I'm just a basket case tonight and wish I could just go to bed and wake up after Christmas. I know how important it is in our healing to go through this process and experience the feelings that go with it, but those feelings sure do suck.

Petunia844 · December 2011

Big hugs. I'm sure the funeral will be beautiful for him.

krysiahamaty · December 2011

Big hugs. I am sure tomorrow will be perfect. And just take care if yourself and your little one's memory.

AmyG2b · December 2011

I'll be thinking of you and hoping for peace for you.

roxyttandme · December 2011

The funeral will be as perfect as your son - I am sure.

(((hugs)))

I am just so sorry for your loss!

Auki13 · December 2011

I am so sorry. I remember the night before Annabelle's funeral being so hard. I was terrified of all the same things you mentioned. I just want to say that up until the moment I saw her I was a mess, and then I was able to hold her and just be with her. I actually held her during the entire wake (not sure if people thought it was weird but I didn't care one bit). She wasn't the same and it was easier for me to say goodbye. We even took our last family picture, even though it felt odd at the time I am so happy we did. I felt more peaceful and everything went as perfectly as possible. I am hoping and praying that the funeral experience is similar for you. (((BIG HUGS)))

Carolee · December 2011

I'm sure it will be beautiful. Sending lots of (((HUGS)))

johnnys june · December 2011

*hugs* It will be beautiful and perfect! As for taking care of everyone else...this is your day to honor YOUR son. Take care of yourself. If anyone expects you to take care of them instead of yourself, they are utterly selfish. But I don't think they'll think that. Sending you many T & P.

drvst8 · December 2011

I am sure it will be beautiful. My thoughts will be with you tomorrow.

butterfly843 · December 2011

((hugs)) I'm sure tomorrow will be perfect. I will keep you in my thoughts.

LuckEinLuv · December 2011

I am sure everything will be perfect to honor your little boy. You will be in my thoughts tomorrow. {{HUGS}}

pottermommy · December 2011

Huge hugs!! The funeral will be perfect, your love will make it so. Take a step back and do not worry about the other people that are there. This is the time for you to remember your precious baby and they are there to support you.

No matter how you handle the day take the moment to remember that you aren't there to cater to everyone else. Tomorrow is for your son and you and his daddy above all else. The family that are there are your support system. They are there to love him and you.

Hugs and prayers.

foxxy1 · December 2011

OP, I buried my son today and let me tell you I barely slept last night and I was crying pretty much right until the service. But you will pull through this. I told my mom I wasn't sure if I could do it and I surprised myself.

Your angel is watching over you and cheering you on. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow.

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starrkitten89 · December 2011

(((Big hugs)))

I'm sure it will be perfect,but I remember feeling so anxious too.I was worried that no one would show up or that something would go wrong,but it was beautiful.And yours will be too!

agrobins1 · December 2011

We assumed that our sweet girls funeral would be mostly family but we had our entire group of co-workers, bosses/mangers and even people we didn't know from church show up, around 100 people! It was daunting to say hello to everyone and I think I was still in shock because when I greeted folks, I was smiling and trying to console them! We had our preacher make an annoucement at the end of the service that we would be taking well-wishers graveside then we went home, just us my brother and both sets of parents, to sit an reflect.

Good luck today, I'll pray for you to have strength but remember, this is your childs funeral. Something we all should never have had to plan. It's ok for you to lose it, we lost our angels so you don't need to be strong!

emizer · December 2011

I will say a prayer that you find the strength to make it through the difficult day tomorrow. I'm sure it will turn out perfectly and you will always remember the tribute to your son. (Hugs).

cookie_queen · December 2011

((hugs)) I'm sure it will be beautiful. And you are allowed to feel however you feel during the funeral. If you lose it so what? You're his mama are its allowed.

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