Sometimes I really dislike my family

apiffanynow · December 2011

First a little back ground- My two sisters live with my aunt. My youngest sister has two kids and her youngest is 9 months. I currently live in an apartment and my vehicle is in the shop. DH got in an accident with his car so we are without a vehicle at the moment.

So to help me out with things right now I asked my sister if she did not mind washing the newborn clothes for my LO (since they have a washer/dryer at home) I am not comfortable with washing LO clothes in my apartments laundry mat. My sister came and got the clothes from my house and took them back to her house. Well from what my sister told me my aunt completely lost it when she saw my sis walk in with a plastic storage tub full of clothes. Saying stuff like well is she (ME) going to help me pay the water bill and why can't she wash clothes where she lives at? Next my aunt calls my MOM and says that she is completely PISSED OFF at me and she doesn't understand why I can't wash LO clothes at my apartments and that her water bill has gone up. Then my mom calls me saying she is just relaying a message to me from my aunt because my aunt is on her way to her birthday dinner. (At this point...I was completely floored!)

Well birthday dinner or not I politely called my aunt and told her that I apologized about any inconvenience I may have caused her and that I was not trying to upset her. I also reminded her that I had asked to come over and wash some of LO clothes the previous week and she was ok with it but my uncle was currently fixing something on it because water had been leaking all over the floor. therefore I could not do any washing at that time. And then I told her that instead of calling my mom she should have just called and talked to me herself instead of passing messages through my mom.

She then replies, "well since the clothes are already there they can go ahead and get washed." I replied no thanks I do not feel comfortable with that and I will be by tomorrow to pick them up. I love my aunt dearly but this makes me not want to go over her house or ask her for anything no matter how small this may be. I have to wonder if this blow up is really about a bigger issue than just some clothes.

Sorry for the long rant but I am still stunned.

apiffanynow · December 2011

Does this make since to anyone?

erineileen317 · December 2011

Wow, so much for "that's what family is for", which has always been my motto. I'd hope if you explained to her that you are not comfortable using your laundry mat (I don't know if it's shady, my old apartment's mat was a little shady), that she would understand and not want you to compromise your safety. I would maybe understand if you wanted this to be a regular/reoccuring thing that she would expect some compensation for the water bill, but not for a one time thing. Sorry she was so unhelpful!

namara5532 · December 2011

LibraryChica:

Yup, that load or two of laundry really will up the water bill.

Sorry your aunt overreacted and flipped out on you by way of your mom. Great way to handle it, though. Nothing's more annoying than people "relaying messages" when they really want to b*tch but don't want to actually confront the person they're angry at.

I hate it when people do that. Sounds like your aunt was expecting you to be a mind reader and anticipate that she would have a problem with it. At least your mom was good enough to let you know the problem so you could address it.

theaterbahai · December 2011

This sounds vaguely familiar.... does your aunt know my family? Maybe she took some pointers from my grandmother. LOL. So sorry you are going through this. You are certainly not being unreasonable, and you handled the whole ridiculous "ordeal" beautifully. It sort of sounds like Aunt is competing for attention. Some people do that in these really convoluted ways. They make a mountain out of a molehill just to be noticed. Is this kind of behavior at all typical for her?

I hope it all gets worked out and cooled off before the Holiday. Good luck.

SoonToBeMsP · December 2011

apiffanynow:
Well birthday dinner or not I politely called my aunt and told her that I apologized about any inconvenience I may have caused her and that I was not trying to upset her. I also reminded her that I had asked to come over and wash some of LO clothes the previous week and she was ok with it but my uncle was currently fixing something on it because water had been leaking all over the floor. therefore I could not do any washing at that time. And then I told her that instead of calling my mom she should have just called and talked to me herself instead of passing messages through my mom.

THAT is why her water bill would go up. Not because you did a couple loads of laundry. Good gravy she needs to take a chill pill.

Jess084 · December 2011

I would have written her a check for 25 cents and put it in a thank you card! What a psycho.

Kristine Schilling · December 2011

Whats wrong with washing them in your apt laundry room? We do all our clothing here at our complex with no issues. A washer is a washer right?

apiffanynow · December 2011

Kristine Schilling:
Whats wrong with washing them in your apt laundry room? We do all our clothing here at our complex with no issues. A washer is a washer right?

DH and I usually go to a different laundry mat but since the cars are down we can not get to it and by no means are all washers the same. I was just trying to get a jump start on washing LO clothes. It will just have to wait.

rosebud218 · December 2011

A couple loads of laundry? There might be more to it than she let you know. Sorry you had to deal with that stress though.

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