when to try again?

agrobins1 · December 2011

We lost our little one on November 21, a month ago today. Mentally, we are doing better than I thought we could ever be at this point. We are very eager to have a family of our own. We suffered a miscarriage last year and after seven months we found out we were pregnant again. I was 40 wks and 1 day when we found out Ava had no heartbeat.

Our doctor suggested waiting 6 mths when we were still in the hospital, I've heard others say their docs recommended a year but we feel that we're ready. My quesiton is, do you think it's too soon to begin trying again?

sandykins · December 2011

I think physically - you can start right away. My doc said two periods. Emotionally, that it up to you.

Hugs

Petunia844 · December 2011

I don't think there's really just one answer to this question, we are going to start TTC next month. I am super scared, but I know my love will overcome my fear and I can survive another pregnancy. Make sure that the reason your doctor wanted you to wait was emotional and not physical if you are going to go agains his/her suggestion.

krysiahamaty · December 2011

My doctor said to try as soon as we were ready.

Big hugs.

mdluv21 · December 2011

Because of the surgery I had - physically I had to wait 6 months but I wasn't ready to start trying again emotionally until just recently so about 10 months in total and my doctors are pleased because they said a year between pregnancies is ideal. I know other who got pregnant very soon after though and are just fine.

It just depends on the person. ((hugs))

Buckets of Moonbeams · December 2011

Emotionally it's up to you. Physically, my OB said 2 periods so the uterine lining was "thick and beautiful" again. I waited 2 cycles and I found out I was pregnant again less than 2 months after my loss. If you had a c-section that may be why your OB recommended you wait 6 months.

To be honest though, the back-to-back pregnancies was difficult on my body. Pregnancy has always been easy for me, but that last one was difficult. I had pubic symphysis disorder from 24 weeks on. My immune system is still feeling the affects, I've caught every little bug that's gone around this winter when I normally go years without catching anything.

Carolee · December 2011

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Ava. My loss was at 37 weeks, and we were cleared to TTC as soon as we wanted. I think doctors often suggest longer to allow emotional healing.

NicoleD54 · December 2011

My doctor told us we could try right away. I was surprised because I had a lot of complications(chorio, placental abruption, IC). We wanted to try right away, but decided to go without meds the first 2 cycles. My next cycle will be medicated.

I know medical opinion varies widely about how long to wait. If he said 6 months ask him why. There may be a physical reason to wait.

krissywave · December 2011

Part of it depends on your body. You body has to heal as well as your heart. I would think with the fact that you went to 40 weeks and a c section you should wait the 2 months min that you would have had to wait if your sweet baby had a hb. But the biggest thing is I would say to see how your body is. You want to make sure that everything goes back to the way it should be before trying again.

magdalina.h · December 2011

We were told to wait 6 months because of my c/s. At 4 months my OB called to check on me and to let me know my blood work (additional testing after the first round) came back normal and that we could start trying then. I got pregnant on that cycle with Lucas.

If you feel that you are ready, then it's not too soon. I know that I needed those 4 months, maybe even more, to continue grieving. I was on a wild roller coaster with the thoughts of trying again or waiting.

agrobins1 · December 2011

Thanks ladies! I had a completely normal pregnancy with the exception of a subchorionic hematoma that caused spotting at the beginning. It evetually reasborbed into my body and the rest of our pregnancy was completely normal and very low risk.

Induced labor lasted exactly 9 hours 17 mins from beginning to birth. I had a very small internal tear that required a couple of stitches. Other than that, I am completely fine 4 wks out, back to work & driving, and even trying to have sex again. (it was painful just because it has been a while since the last time). I go back and forth because I am terrified of having another m/c or stillbirth, or just not being able to conceive at all but we want a take home baby so I feel it's worth the risk! But if I have to continue to fill heaven with little angels then I'll do that too.

drvst8 · December 2011

I went 40 wks also and had a vaginal delivery. My doctors told me we could start trying whenever we wanted. Although they recommended waiting 2 cycles. SO that means we are offically trying again starting this month.

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