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Wow. I know I should be happy but...

candacek31candacek31 member
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It's really hard when you are PGAL.  I have a friend/former coworker from when I lived in SC that had her little girl 2 days after my d&c in May.  She just posted on FB that they are expecting #2.  She was there for my first loss and I never told her about my second since she had just had her daughter.  It was so hard to see her and her little girl after all I had been through, and now, 6 months later, she is pregnant again.  I want to be happy for her but damn, its tough.

Thanks, just needed to get it out now so I can figure out how to congratulate her sincerely.

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  • pottermommypottermommy member
    Remember you are happy for her, you are just also sad for you.  Sometimes it is hard to see one smotion over the other.
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  • Eris-AlexisEris-Alexis
    ((Big HUGS))  I think I would be struggling with that too if I were in your shoes.  It's not fair that it is so easy for some people, and so hard for all of us.  It's totally reasonable to be happy for them, and sad for yourself. 
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  • Ladiebug710Ladiebug710 member

    There is no justice in pregnancy.  Big hug.

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  • unstuck6jbunstuck6jb member
    imageLadiebug710:

    There is no justice in pregnancy.  Big hug.

    Yes You said it...it's just not fair. 

    I would feel the same, I actually still find myself jealous of other girls in my life that are PG and due around the same time as me just because I know they haven't had any trouble with TTC or losses to deal with.  They just post on FB and feel so confident about it all.  I can't relate to that at all and it kills me.  I don't think it makes us bad people...we just have to deal with it the best we can.  ((Hugs)) to you...

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  • xoladiebugxoladiebug member
    imagepottermommy:
    Remember you are happy for her, you are just also sad for you.  Sometimes it is hard to see one smotion over the other.
    That is some very well put advice! I never thought about it that way! I'm sorry you're having a hard time coming to terms with things Candace...guess we're both in that stage where we think about the things we should have. It sucks, but hopefully it gets better. ((Hugs))
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  • candacek31candacek31 member

    Thanks ladies!  I think I would be dealing with this a little better if I didn't have such a bad couple of days coming up.  I just can't stop thinking about how I am going to get through New Years Eve and Day.  One was my previous EDD and the other was my first m/c.

    I am just so sorry for all of us that have to be here.  You ladies just put things into great perspective and have far better ways of saying it than I ever could!

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  • kimberly95kimberly95 member
    imageunstuck6jb:
    imageLadiebug710:

    There is no justice in pregnancy.  Big hug.

    Yes You said it...it's just not fair. 

    I would feel the same, I actually still find myself jealous of other girls in my life that are PG and due around the same time as me just because I know they haven't had any trouble with TTC or losses to deal with.  They just post on FB and feel so confident about it all.  I can't relate to that at all and it kills me.  I don't think it makes us bad people...we just have to deal with it the best we can.  ((Hugs)) to you...

     

    This exactly.  [HUGS] to you.  I feel this all the time as everyone around me seems to have no issues.  

    1/4/2012 - First US w/HB 129, EDD 8/25/2012 2/2/2012 - Second US w/HB 162 2/29/2012 - HB 150 Pregnancy Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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