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KathrynMD
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I shouldn't engage on FB about CIO, right?
KathrynMD
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To each their own, etc. but one of my friends posted a link to that CIO study from last week - its one study - but apparently it means CIO is awful. I know its controversial, but jeez - don't post it like "I could never imagine doing _____"
also the pics in the story she linked to are misleading - pics of days/week old NBs howling - of course no one is saying to ignore them - CIO is a sleep traiining method for older infants. ugh
I don't know enough of her friends, etc. it won't end well.
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Re: I shouldn't engage on FB about CIO, right?
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well - and its bullshit too.
Its like one STUDY by one person - and I think in some of the stories about it, they are trying to draw a conclusion about sleep training babies using CIO to ignoring week old infants for extended periods. Sleep is good for everybody and teachign your child how to fall asleep on their own - if that's how they sleep - alone in a crib - is good for them, for you.
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At the end of the day we all want whats best for our children. We have enough worry about eeeeverything else that comes with being a good mom to be judged by people who are in exactly the same situation as you and really have no 'extra' expertise on the matter. CIO debate never ends well but don't shove your concepts down my throat as I don't expect to do that to you..
I don't judge people who CIO or not. If my opinion is asked of me I would give it, but I most certainly won't be rude or nasty about it.. we are all just doing our best!
A friend of mine was telling me that a family she knew couldn't get their child to go to sleep and struggled forever to so, it was such a challenge. (could of been up to 5 yrs old not sure) they went to see the Dr got referred to a sleep specialist and it turned out he was so used to have his back patted to fall asleep that he couldn't sleep without it. Point is.. i'm sure they didn't think patting him was bad for him!! all just doing what we think is right!
omg don't engage. don't engage!! Those posts never end well.
I haven't seen the study you are talking about, but my problem with some people who are super pro CIO (and its not a "problem" per se) is the same one i have when people are super anti co-sleeping (or vice versa in both regards.) Different methods, different babies, different families. Different things are going to work.
But I'll say that I will never forget one post I saw on the bump a few months ago where the mom was so freaking happy bc her baby was sleep trained!! CIO worked!!! It was a miracle! The baby was a whopping 3 days old. So I think some of these people who are so anti-CIO think that is what every CIO-advocate is doing, you know? It's not accurate but I figure that's where they are coming from to explain the extremeness (is that a word?) of their views.
And with that, i'll conclude by saying the mommy wars exahust me and this kid isn't even out yet. i really don't give a flying eff how you get your kid to sleep as long as its not abuse, you know?
yeah. .. the article that's been flying around the last week is sort of all over the place. I think the original study is anti-CIO as a sleep training method, etc. which is fine and good and open for debate, but the articles about it, seem to indicate that CIO is some kind of general parenting technique where parents refuse to respond to the cries of their babies any/all the time - which is not what CIO is.
That particular article is poorly written, has no real substantiated sources and is just awful and misleading.
Post this in response:
https://skepticalmothering.com/2011/12/13/the-dangers-of-being-insulting-and-misleading/
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I think it's kind of funny how people attack on others for doing it the "wrong way". And, it's on everything...
You shouldn't let them do this or that...
I remember when I posted about carseats, pretty much the census was that the best car seat was the one that fit my car the best. Well, I think that goes well for this too. The best method is the one that works for you, your baby and your family. Same with the turning around the car seat at 2+, sometimes you have to before that due to their height or weight because that's what fits YOUR baby's needs. That's what it means to be a parent ~ finding out what your baby's needs are and adjusting.
I don't judge people on CIO in anyway - personally, I didn't do it with LO until he was about 6 months. And, if it's go for a certain amount of time, then I go in there to comfort him - but it usually never gets to that point because he gets that it's bed time and falls asleep. But, he is still the happiest kid the next day - happy to be with me and DH, happy to play, happy to smile at people, etc. That's all that matters to me.
I LOOOOVE THIS - thanks for sharing!
I don't want to get into w/ her, her friends and husband.