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Stupid FB (baby mentioned)

BlueEyeZ1981BlueEyeZ1981 member
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My BFF growing up just had her 3rd unplanned child today and the only thing I can think is Stupid B*tch stole my name and altered it just so.  She knew that I plan to name my daughter one day Emma so she named her daughter Gemma.  The first thought is not oh how cute or congratulations as it should be.  Yes I realize it's just a name but for some reason it really pisses me off that she did that. 

I can't even bring myself to text her or FB her since we have barely talked the last six months.   I know i should, but our friendship has been on the rocks all year.  I should feel bad about losing a friendship of 20 years but I just don't. 

 

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  • sammyslicksammyslick member
    So Im going to play Devils Advocate Here. I can understand why you would be upset if someone ?stole? your name that was close to you and knew this was your plan. However, a few things to consider: 1. You are not pregnant with a child, so you have no child to name. You cannot call dibs on names. 2. Gemma in mynopinion is nothing like Emma. Yes, they may sound the same, but Emma to me is more like Emily. Gemma is like Gem, like a jewel. So I would continue to consider the name Emma for your unborn child and move on with your life.
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  • BlueEyeZ1981BlueEyeZ1981 member

    imagesammyslick:
    So Im going to play Devils Advocate Here. I can understand why you would be upset if someone ?stole? your name that was close to you and knew this was your plan. However, a few things to consider: 1. You are not pregnant with a child, so you have no child to name. You cannot call dibs on names. 2. Gemma in mynopinion is nothing like Emma. Yes, they may sound the same, but Emma to me is more like Emily. Gemma is like Gem, like a jewel. So I would continue to consider the name Emma for your unborn child and move on with your life.

    Thanks.  I know it's stupid, really I do but for some reason my emotional mind will not wrap around the rational thoughts right now.  I know it's jealousy as I want nothing more to get pregnant and she didn't even try to get pregnant and was able to.  I know that I need to just continue to keep my distance because there are other issues with our friendship that should not be dealt with right now because it's her time to be insanely happy but again my emotional mind right now does not want to be.  It wants to be mad and jealous and why can't that be me. 

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  • sammyslicksammyslick member
    So be mad and jealous. No one says you have to be fakely happy for people. It is your right, that if you honetly have those feelings, own them, let them run their course, and then move on. Of course, like everything in life, there is a happy medium between acknowledging emotions we have and letting them come and go, or just acting immature. I think given the situation, she was a close friend, and you feel hurt and thats ok. But I wouldnt change things like what you were planning on naming your child just becuase someone else used a name similar. :)
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  • MsGMChickMsGMChick member
    Raw emotions suck and can really put us in dark places. I'm there often- that place where you're like, "meh yay for you". But I'm with Sammy.. Keep Emma!! I love it and agree its nothing like Gemma.
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  • RealMommaRealMomma

    I always say, If feeling were rational and we could chose em, they'd be thoughts. Feelings are out of our control and how you are feeling is normal.  My BFF since Jr. High is pg with #4 unplanned! Trust me, I understand completely. It has put a strain on our friendship because I have to listen to her b!tch and complain.

    I hope you feel better soon. Hopefully both of you can get through this. Also, I agree with the other post. I think that Gemma and Emma are different enough that it would be ok. Smile

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