January 2012 Moms

NBR: Need your opinion

A few weeks back a coworker talked to me about doing a gift for our bosses. He had bought a bunch of cookies and snacks and "couldn't stop eating them" (his words) so he asked if I could help out and grab some baskets to put them in and make them pretty. I did it without hesitation and spend about $20 on baskets and that grass stuff, plus another $10 to supplement the baskets with Godiva.

Today he tells me he was "planning on just making it from him and the only reason he brought me into it was because he couldn't stop eating the food". I was so taken aback since I thought this was going to be a gift from the two of us, so I didn't say anything... but now I am thinking, I spent $30 (about the same as him) on these gifts and get no benefits from it.

Would it be rude to ask for a reimbursement on the money I spent? I am super non-confrontational, but DH said it was BS and it doesn't make sense that he would make this gift from him and not us. 

DD 1.18.2012

Re: NBR: Need your opinion

  • I would absolutely ask for reimbursement or to be included on the cards for the gifts!   I can't believe he would assume otherwise?!?!?
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  • Wow, what an idiot! I would definately ask for the money you spent.  Who even does that?!

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  • NO WAY would this fly with me..."If you'd like it to be from just you, I'm OK with that but I'll need the $30 I put into it reimbursed.  Otherwise, if you'd rather just leave it from me too, that works.  Whichever you want to do..."  Throw it out there, leave the ball in his court, and either get credit for money spent or get your money spent back.  What an SOB.
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  • imagenothingbuthappy:
    NO WAY would this fly with me..."If you'd like it to be from just you, I'm OK with that but I'll need the $30 I put into it reimbursed.  Otherwise, if you'd rather just leave it from me too, that works.  Whichever you want to do..."  Throw it out there, leave the ball in his court, and either get credit for money spent or get your money spent back.  What an SOB.

    At this point, I don't even want to be a part of the gift. The sad part is, we are pretty good friends, and I would have NEVER expected this from him of all people. Hence why I walked away without saying anything. So surprised.

    I like this wording, though.  

    DD 1.18.2012
  • wtf? some people are so clueless!
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  • imageLibraryChica:

    Also, have you ever read Play like a man, win like a woman? A coworker of mine recommended it and I found it very helpful. 

    I will be buying or renting this book immediately. Being in science I am surrounded by men, and I've found that I am often the "organizer". I don't mind, but I see what it leads to (this problem, for example).  

    DD 1.18.2012
  • imagenothingbuthappy:
    NO WAY would this fly with me..."If you'd like it to be from just you, I'm OK with that but I'll need the $30 I put into it reimbursed.  Otherwise, if you'd rather just leave it from me too, that works.  Whichever you want to do..."  Throw it out there, leave the ball in his court, and either get credit for money spent or get your money spent back.  What an SOB.

    This. I totally agree 100%. You could have used that $30 to buy something for LO or to get yourself a manicure or pedicure or do something else nice for yourself. Since you chose to help him out, he either needs to acknowledge your contribution with the gift or give you your money back.

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  • I would ask for my $30 back.
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