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anyone else have guilt about not BF'ing (formula only)

susanb1102susanb1102
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I bought the twins nursing pillow and everything but they got on bottles in the NICU and fell asleep at my breast every time I tried to breast feed.....guess I should have tried harder but I cried every time. I pumped for two months (they're 2 months old now) but I've dried up and we're on to formula only. I know it may be silly but I just feel guilty...anyone else out there feel the same?
Spontaneous twin boy expected in November 2011!!!
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Re: anyone else have guilt about not BF'ing (formula only)

  • MrsLntMrsLnt member

    Don't feel guilty!  I tried to nurse a few times and both babies were too sleepy to latch and pumping just hurt too much.  We were on 100% formula by the time we left the hospital. I felt guilty for awhile but, after awhile, I was completely okay with my decision. You did a good job pumping for as long as you did and they will thrive on formula. Just remember, they don't ask on a college application how a child was fed. :) 

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  • JosiePosyJosiePosy

    We never got the hang of it either. They took to the bottle faster and by week 5 in the NICU I was willing to do whatever it took to get them home. I was only able to pump for 10 weeks. I felt the guilt but not for long. There were so many things going on that I just let it go and was grateful for what I could do. After that I was too busy to care. 

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  • Fancy3FaceFancy3Face

    I could have written this.  I regret it everyday.  I actually toyed with the idea of re-lactation.  I intended to ebf, but they were early (36w) and on cpap for a couple days.  I tried bf and they'd get it every now and then.  I mostly pumped though and pumping with twins and a job is HARD.  The stress of it all was too much. 

    I'm fine with them being on formula and bf was a HUGE struggle for us, but I get pangs of jealousy when I see successful bf posts, etc. 

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  • Sharra711Sharra711
    I tell everyone that BFing my DD was the hardest thing I ever did in my life, now double that and add complications and THAT is what every MoM is up against. There is absolutly NO reason to feel guilty! They are happy and love their mom no matter how the food comes.
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  • susanb1102susanb1102
    Thanks guys:)
    Spontaneous twin boy expected in November 2011!!!
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  • missfiremissfire member

    For me, it just took time for the guilt to fade. It gets easier as your postpartum hormones start to even out, too - with my singletons and my twins, I was an emotional wreck about it for months. Now - meh. I would have preferred to breastfeed, but it didn't work out, and that's that.

    There are a lot of decisions I've made in parenting that are NOT what I planned! I used CIO, I didn't carry my kids in carriers 24/7, my older son eats more goldfish crackers than any other type of food, etc. But we have to adapt to what works best for our particular kids and what keeps the family healthy and happy and somewhat sane. I imagined my family so different than we are, but I also didn't know how hard this was all going to be. 

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  • MyeMye member
    Me! I feel like an asshole_ about it. I am pumping and bottle feeding, lets see how I do. I am hoping for the best, and to pump for as long as possible. 
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