Confession.

Chicky0727 · December 2011

Sometimes I wish my house was as bad as a hoarder (not really gross but just full of stuff), because then my H would actually be forced to get rid of stuff on the spot! I swear I have gone through the house and thrown stuff out and somehow it manages to make it's way back in! So frustrating. I love my H, but holy shiit his junk collecting drives BSC! ::sigh:: I feel better. Can anyone else relate? This has been an ongoing issue from day one and while it has gotten better, it still drives me crazy. I grew up where if it didn't have a use you put it in storage or found it another home. He grew up where his parents, mainly his dad, would hold onto everything. Their garage is out of control. But thats okay cause thats their house, mine though I do not want it to look that way. Anyone else or am I alone in this?

MrsMommyQ · December 2011

I'm with you. WHen it comes to my stuff DH is more than willing to get rid of it. Ask him to get rid of his stuff and he rationalizes why we need it or should just keep it a "little longer".

Before DH I lived alone in my own place so I had a lot of furniture that was nice stuff. It is currently in our basement bc we will need it and use it when we get a house. DH constantly moans that the stuff is down there "clogging up the basement". It's an unfinished basement that we use for storage so I dont know exactly what the problem is.

A few weeks ago I rearranged the living room to make room for the Xmas tree and I decided we needed to get rid of the stereo. It's DH's old stereo from like 15 years ago and it doesn't work properly. He agreed to get rid of it and even took it out to the trash for me. Except that he didnt take it to the trash--he took it to the basement! I busted his chops on that one so much. Cause he says MY stuff clogs the basement Stick out tongue

Chicky0727 · December 2011

MrsMommyQ:
I'm with you. WHen it comes to my stuff DH is more than willing to get rid of it. Ask him to get rid of his stuff and he rationalizes why we need it or should just keep it a "little longer".
Before DH I lived alone in my own place so I had a lot of furniture that was nice stuff. It is currently in our basement bc we will need it and use it when we get a house. DH constantly moans that the stuff is down there "clogging up the basement". It's an unfinished basement that we use for storage so I dont know exactly what the problem is.
A few weeks ago I rearranged the living room to make room for the Xmas tree and I decided we needed to get rid of the stereo. It's DH's old stereo from like 15 years ago and it doesn't work properly. He agreed to get rid of it and even took it out to the trash for me. Except that he didnt take it to the trash--he took it to the basement! I busted his chops on that one so much. Cause he says MY stuff clogs the basement

haha. My husband did the same exact thing! Men. Cant live with and cant live without them. They're lucky we love them so much. Lol. But yeah he complains about all my clothes when he has a closet full and a whole dresser full of clothes! Heaven forbid i bring up the idea about donating them! Haha. Silly man. Glad to know Im not the only one who struggles with this.

searcy7 · December 2011

I know how you feel my DH wont even let me throw away jeans with holes all in them without pouting. He has so much crap no wonder he has 4 unfinished projects.

Married2003 · December 2011

After awhile he forgets he has somethings and I just throw it away and he doesn't miss it. If I don't do this our house would look like crap.

mbgreenwalt · December 2011

DH and I have about the same amount of crap and we go through it every now and then and get rid of stuff. What I really hate is that DH holds onto clothing. He has work shirts that are falling apart at the seams and coats from shops that he doesn't work for anymore. I've been pruging crap from this house since my mat. leave started and I actually got him to part with a bunch of stuff!

honeybee111 · December 2011

I have joked around before with DH that he is a total hoarder. I don't even go into the office closet anymore, because it makes me irritated. That's become his place to store whatever as long as it's not in any other place. What really bugs me is that he keeps random EMPTY boxes for stuff. The last time I looked in there, I found the empty box for my cell phone. Except it was for a cell phone that we had donated 2 years ago. So, I mentioned we should throw it away and he swore he needed it "just in case". Yeah, so ever since then, we have an agreement: he keeps whatever junk in his closet where I don't have to look at it, and I don't bother him about it. When the closet is full, he needs to get rid of stuff. So far, it's worked pretty well.

rnfromtn · December 2011

Wow, this post really hits home. I can check off each issue from all of the above posts. When DH moved in he still had jackets from 8th grade. I kid you not. Not to mention, four bags of clothes from when his grandfather died. I get it, he missed his grandfather. But I explained to him that holding onto all of his grandfathers clothing just didn't make sense. He has too many hobbies, too much clothing and has a really bad habit of checking out Goodwill to see if there is anything "cool". (he loves american pickers and Pawn stars BTW.) I finally blew up (a day before AF) and told him he was literally driving me BSC by bringing in junk that others couldn't sell in their own garage sales. I have begged him to stop. Oh, did I mention he collects Legos and tow trucks? So our doorstep is often frequented by UPS dropping off another 3 or 5 dollar tow truck he got from Ebay. Ugh. The madness will have to end eventually. Until then, I am going to slowly start going through this stuff. Still far from a hoarder, but my basement gives me anxiety attacks.

melody921 · December 2011

Anytime my DH's "stuff" gets on my nerves, I try to remind myself it could be so much worse. His mother is a borderline hoarder. She seriously does not throw away anything, and as a result, her house is packed with crap. DH actually purged a lot of stuff when we moved this fall. But he's definitely still the one who hangs onto things more than I do. I'm with you -- if you're not using it, toss it or give it to someone who will. I can't stand clutter.

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