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C-sections
lorist202
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Visitors and your dignity
lorist202
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When I had my c/s, I would absolutely not have anything around my waist, except the mesh underwear while in the hospital. I brought plenty of nightgowns. Getting in and out of bed was slow and awkward.
I had LOTS of visitors (during visiting hours), which was fine. If I had to get out of bed with visitors present, I tried to maintain my dignity, but... stuff happens. I was recovering after all, and it seemed I was always getting in and out of bed or repositioning, etc.
Did anyone else have this situation arise? I think about it now and I'm a little embarrassed.....
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Re: Visitors and your dignity
I struggled with the same issue...
To make matters worse, I was at the hospital during the superbowl. FIL and his girlfriend stayed in our room for the WHOLE THING! I was in a lot of pain, had gas and just wanted to be alone. (Of course, I didnt' speak up).
I also had an episiotomy, so the nurse had to keep checking down there as well. It was awful to have people in there for so long.
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I didn't really care what my mom or dh saw, but my mil and fil were there when dd wanted to eat and we just don't have that kind of relationship. We're nursing and not very good at it still, so the hospital was even worse. They kept looking my way while I was exposed trying to get her to latch even though I asked for privacy. They didn't get the hint so I started crying from being overly emotional and frustrated and threw them out of the room while in tears.
They seriously have no social skills. They drive me nuts.
The only day I was visited I was on a mag drip, so I wasn't allowed out of bed and had a catheter. So getting up and about with dignity wasn't really an issue.
This was 16 yrs ago but I still remember my aunt sitting on the end of the bed while the nurse inserted my catheter before my c-section. She just continued reading...no big deal to her! LOL!
Both times my hubby got a show. I bled alot after my 2nd csection and when I got up to walk across the room, I leaked all over even with a pad and mess panties. He helped me, along with helping me get a shower, etc. He could care less. I plan to buy some big roomy yoga pants this time, along with a nursing cover. Visitors are certain with my family!
This was me too. I figure people knew that they were coming into a surgery recovery and a new baby. I gave warning but after that, I was going to do what I needed to do. If they wanted to see, then they could. If not, they could step out.
With DS, I had visitors in the room when we were wheeled back in (which I didn't mind, FTR) and since I was bedridden still, I didn't worry much about dignity. I just kept the girls covered up with a pillow for nursing.
When I was able to move around, I wore 2 hospital gowns to keep my front and back covered.
lol, oh yeah. I had a lot of hospital visitors. I consider myself a very modest person (I don't NIP, I don't get nekkid in locker rooms) and that modesty totally went out the window when I was in the hospital recovering from my c/s.
For example, when the nurse walked me to the bathroom for my first little spongebath/wipedown, I just dropped my hospital gown. She was like, "Oh, you want to get naked, okay. Some people don't." I couldn't care less...so many people had seen my naked ass by that point, what was one more?
Also, I was on my feet at some point on day one and MIL and SIL were in the room and I started bleeding all over the floor. Gross. I guess the pp bleeding was heavy at that point and I went right through my diaper-pad. I was just like, Oh, look at that, I guess I should call a nurse. The nurse came in and the ILs left us alone, but I think they felt more awkward than I did. My thinking was that if they want to be here to see the baby, they're going to have to see me all discombobulated, half naked, and bleeding with a pee bag hanging off the side of the bed while I recover.
All that said, I do plan to limit hospital visitors next time. I had a few friends come and that wasn't really necessary. And MIL bullied me into allowing her best friend and boyfriend to come, which were the only people I was uncomfortable having there.
I wore the mesh panties under yoga pants as soon as I showered. They tried to tell me I had to keep the catheter in (which meant I had to stay laying down) for a day after my c/s, but I pretty much told them that they had to take it out or I would.(I don't know if they put it in wrong or what, but it was super painful) From that point on, I was up and in my normal clothes, with makeup and all that. I had people in and out all day the day after she was born, and I was completely okay with it- only because I had makeup on. Yes, I know that's silly, but I'm just uncomfortable otherwise. (unless it's just family)
That being said, the day she was born was awful. I had been in labor for 25 hours (which started at the end of a day, so I never had any sleep, basically), and then thrown into an emergency c/s. Now originally, I had planned for NO visitors until the next day. For some reason, that meant that everyone just come when they please. When I got into the recovery room my H asked if so and so could come in, and then another so and so. Eventually it was about 10-15 people. And I wasn't really THAT worried about it at the time, because I was still drugged, and completely sleep deprived. But, looking back at pictures, I am completely horrified that anyone saw me like that. I looked rough. Really rough. Lol And yes, I know I just had a baby. But everyone has a different level of comfort, and that was just too much for me.
As for people seeing private things, I am pretty outspoken and just politely asked them to step out for a moment. There were a few times when MIL didn't "get" that she was included in the stepping out. So, H had to ask her again. Other than that, no one saw anything too terrible. My H saw quite a bit, but he can get over it. Lol
With LO #2, I will *attempt* to say no visitors until the next day.