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Why does it hurt?

LadyLissameLadyLissame member
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It has been 2 months since STBX said he wanted a divorce. I just found out today that he is dating the homewrecker he cheated on me with now. We aren't divorced yet. I wish it didn't hurt like this. I know I am better off without him but that doesn't make it hurt less.
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Re: Why does it hurt?

  • scout426scout426 member

    I feel you on the "I know I'm better off without him but that doesn't make it hurt less."  Just add on a guilt trip for crying and leaning on my family bc I'm usually the strong never cries person in the family and they have no idea what to do for me.  

    I just keep telling myself eventually I will feel a sense of pride for doing whats best/right for me and dd.   

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  • Annplus1Annplus1 member

    Yeah, there are tons of words, you are better off without him, you can do better, you and your daughter don't deserve this... All true, none of which are the magical combination to make you feel it.

    I do know that it gets easier. Not Easy, not saying that, just easier as time goes on. Which of course you already know, and that doesn't help either. 

    Know you aren't feeling this alone. I am right along side with you with, feeling my own version of it. (Hugs)

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  • htomeohtomeo member
    It hurts because you love him. It hurts because he hurt you. It hurts because it is a loss. It hurts because you are human. Unfortunately hurt is just one of the many emotions that we are gonna feel. And we may go through rounds of relief then hurt again. But the fact that your hurt comes out of loving someone so much, means that there is room for you to love again. And you will love someone that will show that love back. It means you have a kind open heart. Hang in there. I know it is hard. We all know it is hard, but it will hurt less as time goes on. (hugs)
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  • clichequeenclichequeen

    I feel the same way.  While I know my children and I are so much better off without STBXH, I am so sad and drepressed.  I try to keep remembering the things he's done when I feel like this, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.  I wish I had advice for you, but all I can say is I know how you feel.

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  • MamatoA2010MamatoA2010 member
    I feel your pain! I too am going through a divorce and its been going on for 5 months. Its hard but it does get a little bit easier every day. PM me if you want to talk! I have been through it and I know exactly how you're feeling Sad
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