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PLEASE help! re:bedtime

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Every night is a struggle to get DD1 to go to bed.  Tonight she stood at the door at the bottom of the steps, yelling and crying for me to unlock the door (I put a doorknob cover on her side) for 45 minutes.  I finally let her down when she said she had to use the bathroom and then when she was done, she let me take her right up to bed and went right to sleep.  I don't know what to do anymore.  I have tried begging, bribing and threatening.  I have tried letting her look at books in bed.  She goes to bed with her bedroom light on.  It's at the point where I start getting her ready for bed at 7 hoping that she will be asleep by 9:30.  I can't put the doorknob cover on her bedroom door (I don't have a problem with putting it on the door at the bottom of the steps though).  I guess part of the big problem is, I am alone at bedtime most nights and DD2 needs attention too.  Add to that the fact that DD2 can't go to sleep while DD1 is freaking out and my nights are horrible.  And then DD1 only STTN 70% of the time and DD2 has never STTN.  Any suggestions? 
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Re: PLEASE help! re:bedtime

  • jewelbug79jewelbug79
    Have you tried a reward or sticker chart with her yet?  We started small with DS to try and correct certain behaviors with only three boxes so the reward would be quick and re-inforce the desire to earn stickers and then we added more boxes later as he got the hang of it.  It worked pretty well for us on some things.  Not sure this would work or not for your DD, but it might be worth a try!
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  • BrewtowngrlBrewtowngrl member
    If DS goes to bed like a a good boy he gets a reward from the reward bag first thing in the morning.  All dollar store stuff.  I also address all his delay tactics before I turn out the light.  Potty, ask questions, drink of water, and make sure all the bugs are gone (bugs are his monsters I guess).  He also has a candela night light that he sleeps with.  Might help with you light issue.  She can hold onto it and it lasts all night.  It isn't too bright to disturb sleep.  
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  • DoughGirlDoughGirl
    DS was having compete meltdowns about going to bed a few months go. As soon as we started the routine, he'd go nuts and it would sometimes take an hour to calm him down enough to get him upstairs, into pjs and get his teeth brushed. Then we'd go into his room and it would start all over.
     
    We bought this timer ( I hope the link works) 
     
     
    It has worked wonders.  We showed DS how to turn it on himself and we do it an hour before he has to go upstairs to get ready for bed. It stays green, then flashes yellow at a warning time, then flashes red and dings when the full time is up.  DS knows, "red means bed". The yellow lights lets him know it's coming and he can anticipate it.  We make sure there is enough time set between yellow and red for clean up. We "race" to see if we can do it before it turns red. It really has completely changed bedtime for us.  
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