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I was nursing Hailey in my car in the Old Navy parking lot this morning, and an older lady (who had parked next to me) knocked on my window and told me to "Cover up because nobody wants to see that". I wasn't using my nursing cover, but I just had my shirt lifted a little and Hailey was latched, so it wasn't as if my whole boob was hanging out.
It was so rude, and I didn't really know how to respond. I don't feel the need to cover up when I'm in my own car. Should I be?
Ugh.
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Re: Nursing Vent
Um, that is terribly rude! You were in your car for goodness sake.
And, you have the law on your side.
Don't let one lady's comments get to you. If you wanted, you could BF in the middle of ON.
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Haley Beth ~ March 3rd, 2011
Oh hell no! What a miserable old bag she must be to say something like that.
Not ok. I try to cover up as well, though never in the car, but sometimes I can't because the only way shell nurse is all out in the open. I'm pretty sure half of San Jose has seen my tatas but who cares.
Im really sorry you had to. Hear such a rude comment.
Me too!
How effing rude. I hate people sometimes.
That's very very bold of her and beyond rude.
Although I covered up constantly, that was because it was what I was comfortable with, not because anyone else should.
How "older" was this lady? Like decade-wise?
I'd guess she was in her mid-60's.
Wow that is really rude of her! I agree with everyone else in your car you shouldn't need to cover up at all. No needs to be looking into your car at ALL!
Was this woman the driver? If so that means she walked around the car to say that to you. F-ed up!
Dude....that means she was in her teens/twenties in the 60s/70s....um, and breastfeeding in a car in a parking lot set her off?
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What a miserable old hag!! That is beyond ridiculous to actually say that while you are IN your car.. really anywhere would have been horrible but being in your car makes it beyond ridiculous.
Next time, give them the finger for sure!
i would killed for the chance to be able to nurse my child PERIOD .... any vents about what others think.. just be thankful that you CAN do that for your child. there are those of us out there who desparately wanted to but couldn't.
Wow. I'm pretty sure she is thankful she can. Nothing in her post says otherwise.
from the pp about being enraged, i think this board takes nursing for granted thinking that w/ some work EVERYONE can nurse. if some older lady made comments to me about it, i'd ignore her and not even mention it.
So because there are people who have strong opinions about this situation (myself included) we're taking BFing for granted? Not only is that furthest from the truth, but I also don't see the logic in your thinking at all.
Also I feel like this is more of a vent about people not being educated about the laws that protect nursing mothers rather than venting about her experience BFing.
I agree with Char. 100%. I just don't understand how you equate people being upset with the situation she faced to taking breastfeeding for granted. Makes no sense.
since you both were able to bf for an extended amt of time, you wouldn't understand the pov from someone who couldn't. the mere fact that she CAN bf .. who cares what others think if they see her doing it in public. that's what i'm getting at.
I don't even know how to respond to that because it's just a ridiculous assumption.
It's like saying if you were venting about having a bad day with your kid, then that must mean you don't value being a mother.
you are 100% in the right to feed your child whenever and wherever you feel comfortable. Good for you!
tehe.
I hate that anyone would be judgmental over feeding your baby - insane! GRRR
As Char pointed out, nothing in my post said that I'm not thankful that I can nurse my child. I'm extremely grateful that I'm able to do it, but it doesn't mean that I don't have the right to be offended when people go out of their way to be rude to me.