Article on "Crying it out" Method

namara5532 · December 2011

https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/crying-dangerous-kids-one-expert-says-222400379.html

I thought I would share this interesting article about the "crying it out method". Basically, it says that babies are hard wired to have their needs met immediately and that not doing so could cause anxiety issues.

What do y'all think about this?

zestyfrog7 · December 2011

namara5532:
https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/crying-dangerous-kids-one-expert-says-222400379.html

I thought I would share this interesting article about the "crying it out method". Basically, it says that babies are hard wired to have their needs met immediately and that not doing so could cause anxiety issues.

What do y'all think about this?

What is most interesting to me is that they don't once touch on the age of the "baby" as to when this is a problem. For instance you would not let a newborn baby CIO, obviously they need to be fed and changed and that includes cuddles. But there is a point at a certain age that I believe a baby or child does need to learn how to put themselves back to sleep and or put themselves to sleep without being rocked or held.

So I guess I feel that this article isn't specific enough or in depth enough to really be used as a guideline.

By the way the CIO method or Ferber method we used with our daughter worked wonders but it did not mean that we never went in and soothed her. We just didn't pick her up and rock or bounce her. She is now a very happy little girl who is perfectly content putting herself to sleep in her big girl bed.

pcrock92 · December 2011

zestyfrog7:
namara5532:
https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/crying-dangerous-kids-one-expert-says-222400379.html

I thought I would share this interesting article about the "crying it out method". Basically, it says that babies are hard wired to have their needs met immediately and that not doing so could cause anxiety issues.

What do y'all think about this?
What is most interesting to me is that they don't once touch on the age of the "baby" as to when this is a problem. For instance you would not let a newborn baby CIO, obviously they need to be fed and changed and that includes cuddles. But there is a point at a certain age that I believe a baby or child does need to learn how to put themselves back to sleep and or put themselves to sleep without being rocked or held.
So I guess I feel that this article isn't specific enough or in depth enough to really be used as a guideline.
By the way the CIO method or Ferber method we used with our daughter worked wonders but it did not mean that we never went in and soothed her. We just didn't pick her up and rock or bounce her. She is now a very happy little girl who is perfectly content putting herself to sleep in her big girl bed.

I'm a FTM but I'm a full time nanny, and the family I nanny for told me they use the cry it out method to an extent. Like you mentioned there's a cut off age where you just need to let the child work things out on their own. Babies get started awake by things and at a certain age they need to learn how to put themselves back to sleep. You don't want to be going into your 8 year old child's room to comfort them back to sleep every night. Like I mentioned earlier, the family I nanny for uses this method and they have since their son was about 9 or 10 months old. He's a year old now and is much better about putting himself back to sleep already. You learn their distinct cries to know whether they're just crying because they woke up or if they're crying because they actually need something.

jason&robin · December 2011

I am not a fan of these kinds of articles. One researcher(that we know nothing about) comes out and says we will ruin our kids for the rest of their lives if we let them cio. I think that is just silly.

We followed the Ferber method where you go in at longer intervals over time to soothe them. After a couple of days, my kids were able to go to sleep on their own. Did I ever let them cry all night and never go check on them? Heck no! I still go in their rooms now at 4 and 2 because I know they need me because they normally don't cry for no reason.

At the end of the day, I think that helping your child be able to go to sleep on their own is a good service to them. Sure, there may be a few nights where it's tough...just like with PTing and getting rid of a paci and all those other behavior changes that they have to go through. However, I feel it's much worse to not empower your child to help themselves. I can't imagine how sad and scary it is for a baby to wake up all the time and feel helpless and alone. They don't know what to do to help themselves so they cry. I would never recommend doing this until a baby is older and showing signs that they are crying because they want attention. A parent knows when their baby starts taking advantage of the situation and that is the right time to look into options. Every family and baby is different but I think all kids need to be able to help themselves back to sleep or they won't be happy because they will lose so much sleep and so will the parents.

VABride2008 · December 2011

I think people need to use common sense. Like PP said, they don't mention age in the article. We did a modified CIO sleep solution for LO #1 and she sleeps great most of the time (except for teething and being sick).

DEBBIE33CASEY · December 2011

VABride2008:
I think people need to use common sense. Like PP said, they don't mention age in the article.

This. We didn't use any form of CIO for DD and she didn't start STTN until after her first bday. We just toughed it out and while it would have been nice to have her STTN I didn't want to do any sort of sleep training. To each their own. Now she does just fine

AliW220 · December 2011

VABride2008:
I think people need to use common sense. Like PP said, they don't mention age in the article. We did a modified CIO sleep solution for LO #1 and she sleeps great most of the time (except for teething and being sick).

The sad thing is that so many people don't have much common sense. Like seeing the news lately of people putting kids in dog kennels so they don't get into things, or shaking a baby because it wouldn't stop crying... the list goes on.

Just like every article out there, you have to take it with a grain of salt. There are lots researchers and doctors who have an "expert" opinion, but it isn't necessarily what's right or good for your family.

MrsLeanna · December 2011

I never ever let DD CIO, it went against every single instinct I had as a mother to ignore my crying baby. I did the No Cry Sleep Solution and she was STTN by 6 months. SHe had setbacks when teething or sick or just going through a phase but was back to her usual sleeping habits relatively quickly. I wanted her to know that when she needed me I would be there for her, no matter what. I never wanted my baby to be crying for me and not have me go in her room, the thought of her crying herself to sleep broke my heart. I would never do it now if she calls me in the middle of the night and can communicate her needs, I pay attention to her, I don't ignore her, why would I do it to her as a baby? Crying is the only way she knew to communicate, maybe she was cold or hot or just wanted attention, that was ok with me. I did not rock her to sleep, she learned to fall asleep on her own - I put her down fully awake and she soothed herself to sleep. I think some parents think the only way to achieve that goal is to let babies cry and it's not. If you want to do it, that's fine, it just wasn't something I could do.

Kristine Schilling · December 2011

This yahoo article was basically touching on a psychology today article. Its link is posted on the attatchment parenting board someplace.

It really doesnt discuss the facts of CIO methods. I am NOT a supporter of CIO, but I felt the articles were very one sided. CIO is not ment for newborns, but there are people who attempt CIO with babies under 4 months, which is just rediculous. Properly used CIO techniques will not harm a child. I have friends who have used CIO and their kids are not lunatics or mentally stunted, they are fine. But they read the books and got advice from professionals.

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