Moms of LOs that will only sleep when on you, come in

AllieCat16 · December 2011

I'm just curious if you have just accepted that your LO will only sleep on you so you just go with that at night or if you are trying to train them into sleeping elsewhere every night or for their naps. I'm just curious because last night as I was getting myself set up on the couch for the night with DS I wondered if I was just settling for the fact that I know I will get sleep this way or if I was depriving my child of trying to get use to sleeping in his crib. I questioned if I was being selfish...for wanting sleep

Raffes484 · December 2011

DS1 was like this and I just let him sleep on me. Having to take care of DD I needed to have at least some energy in the morning to take care of her. Sadly, DS1 didn't sleep in his crib during the night until he was at least 6 months old and didn't start napping in his crib until he was about 9 months old.

It sucked, but I also knew that sleep deprivation would make me an even more frustrated Mommy.

ACAsomeday · December 2011

LO doesn't sleep on me but he bedshares and will not sleep at night otherwise. During the day I can get him to nap on the couch for 3-4 hours while I am there in the room. A few times i got him to nap for like an hour in the pack n play but i think he can somehow sense that I am not near him because he wakes up pretty quickly. (or maybe its too quiet?? its in our bedroom...)

I have not really tried to make him sleep in his pack n play at night because, like you said, I need sleep. As it is he is waking up every 2 hours, so that's bad enough. I am planning to try to get him to nap more in the pack n' play during the day (we dont have a crib set up yet.) During the day his favorite place to nap is in the baby bjorn, on me, though.. I have to say though i LOVE the snuggles and part of me doesn't want to give it up. I love waking up with him right there next to me.

Twin.Peaks · December 2011

Emma is deff my most high maintenance baby. Would she prefer to sleep on me at all times? yes. Does she sleep longer periods at night if sleeping on me? yes.

It would be easier for me to let her sleep on me so I can get more sleep BUT in the long run (i know from experience) Ill want to shoot myself. lol

I have been transitioning her to the co sleeper. First it was on me until she was deep asleep them moving her to the bed between me and the co sleeper then with my hand on he rin the co sleeper and now I lay her in there still awake.

She is sleeping 5 hours, eating, then 3 hours in the co-sleeper now. GL

smilelari · December 2011

With DS we insisted on him sleeping in the bassinet and then moving to the crib at 6 weeks old. When he was in the bassinet we spent most of the night doing a pacifier/seahorse/pick up put down routine. No one was sleeping. When he wanted to eat I would take him to the nursery to change him and feed him. Sometimes it would be hours before I laid back down. When we moved him to the crib, we would only leave him there for part of the night and then he would join us. We needed sleep and getting him back to sleep was sometimes a very long ordeal. Luckily waking up next to a smiling baby boy was something that I ended up really liking even if it wasn't something we planned on. When we were ready to get him out of our bed we did the sleep lady sleep shuffle to get him to STTN. He was 14 months. Naps were rough. DH and I would take turns and one of us would hold him for the entire nap. We did that for a long, long time. We couldn't figure out how to get him to nap otherwise and naps were super important. This isn't something I want to repeat. It just isn't practical with another kid in the house. I can't remember how old he was when he actually started napping in the crib, but it was like magically one day he acted like he didn't want to beheld so we tried putting him in the crib and he slept. Little stinker never had trouble napping in the crib at daycare.

This time we decided to co-sleep from the beginning. Every night she sleeps while DH holds her and plays video games from about 8-9:30 or 10 when I go up to bed. Every night I put her in the co-sleeper. If she sleeps, then I leave her (last night she slept there from 10-3, woohoo!). If she fusses I grab her and put her in bed with me. I'm not very worried about it at this point. We'll probably move her to the crib by about 6 months, but we're good with co-sleeping part time indefinitely. We would have done it longer w/ DS but he wasn't doing the sleeping part of co-sleeping any more. I will be focusing a bit more on sleep earlier. naps are super important and they will be taking place independently when they start becoming more organized. I'll probably follow the guidance of my favorite sleep book - good night, sleep tight by Kim West (the sleep lady).

That was really long, but I think that for the first few months you do what works and gets everyone the most sleep. after that you have to decide what works for your family. at about 6 months sleep training and cio are perfectly fine. we don't do that because it's not our style and we're ok with sharing sleep space. I think it's good for LO to at least be familiar with her room and crib, but I'm not big on forcing it.

I would urge you to try sleeping someplace besides the couch. There are lots of crevices for LO to slip in to.

kelly2983 · December 2011

My LO slept on my chest for the first 3 weeks then we finally found something that worked - the "My Little Lamb" bouncer - with the vibration & music on. Around week 4 we put her in the bouncer or swing during the day & she would stay asleep for 1-2 hours. We then put the bouncer in our bed & at first she would wake up every 2 hours or so. She would also wake up when the vibration or music stopped so I would just keep turning it back on.

My LO is 6 weeks today & last night slept 7 hours straight in the bouncer with no music or vibration. I don't know if this was a fluke or not but it was amazing. I think easing her into it worked well and soon we will have to figure out how to get her into her crib.

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