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LoveyFNR
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I hate him more than ever now.....
LoveyFNR
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I had my hearing for my Order For Protection this morning and my STBXH decided he wanted to FIGHT it. That piece of shiit is denying me simple protection. I have a hearing on the 29th where I have to provide SOLID evidence that he is a threat and a danger to me.
Isn't him being charged with terroristic threats enough!? They still dropped the domestic abuse charge but still, the order is only for me and not our child so I don't understand why he just won't let it happen. Then that assshole had the balls to ask if he could have a visit with our son. Um, seriously? Fvck off.
The only witnesses I have ever had of his abuse is 2 of HIS friends. Two people that tried to convince me to retract my statement and do jail time to get him out. There is no way they would ever testify against him.
I am completely terrified and heartbroken. I just want him to leave me alone forever. I am a total and complete wreck. I know he is just trying to tear me down and it's soooo hard to keep fighting. Especially when the courts keep working in his favor.
I want to give up and I can't. 
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Re: I hate him more than ever now.....
I'm sorry to hear this. Do your best to dig up any documentation, pictures, any items he may have broken, police reports, etc. that will help support your case. My XH did this for the first OOP I obtained against him when I first left. I had to show up at a hearing to defend why I needed the OOP for me and LO; XH showed up with a lawyer (when I saw he had a lawyer I seriously started to worry as I didn't have a lawyer and didn't even think to get one for the OOP hearing). Ultimately, the judge ruled in my favor as XH didn't have much to say except the usualy excuses and denial of any wrong doing. I know what you're going through and I know it's tough, but you'll get through it. Good luck!
It is certainly understandable that you would hate him more than ever.
But he would be crazy not to fight a restraining order being put on him. Once there is a restraining order it is a huge red flag on a person's record forever and the consequences are huge. If there is any evidence of the abuse, find it, but it may simply end up being your word against his, in which case you will need to give factual accounts of what he has put you through. Hopefully they will be persuasive.
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