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F/U to my Thanksgiving drama

twh2006twh2006
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As you recall the SIL told my MIL something that made her pull me off in front of Magic Kingdom and yell at me.She was upset we didn't drop my mom like a hot potato and spend all our time with her. It should also be mentioned she wasn't invited, she hijacked our vacation we've been planning since June.

SIL was beating around the bush in telling my husband what started it. Today she called him and said I didn't hug her to welcome her fast enough. DH told her I was busy getting ds checked into the barber shop (there were at least 30 people there) to get his first haircut.

Honestly I didn't even see her. But it should be mentioned as soon as I did I said "Hi!" but didn't physically hug her.

They ruined my thanksgiving. I literally spend three days weeping out of confusion as to what I could have done to start it.  They want to have Christmas this coming Wednesday! At MIL's house.  I told dh no rather quickly I think I shocked him at how quick. I told him they ruined Thanksgiving I wasn't taking a chance with Christmas and that we will work things out before Mardi Gras (this is as big as Christmas if not bigger here).

SIL is feeling guilty because her mom is crying and depressed that no one wants to see her this Christmas. I should mention here that her sisters won't talk to her either over something else my SIL did.  SIL tells Dh "No one is talking to Momma because of me "  I told dh she needed to examine that.  She's is crazy. Period.

Y'all I hate that this is happening but I just don't have anything to say to either one of them. It's crazy to be upset over something so trivial.  Please chime in and give objective advice.  Should I suck it up and pretend it didn't happen and risk the holidays? Or should I just stick to the orginial plan?  I know this can't be avoiding and I do plan on addressing it I just don't want to do it right now. It's just been a couple of weeks.

 

Thanks for reading this craziness!

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Re: F/U to my Thanksgiving drama

  • SammysuSammysu
    Considering that her normal behavior is craziness, I would say NO to Christmas with them as well but plan something with your MIL on the side with just your family and her.
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  • laney75laney75

    I'd probably suck it up for Christmas, and maybe keep your visit short (tell MIL in advance).  Then I'd limit visits with them if they are this strange/dramatic.  If you skip this Christmas, it sounds like you will be ruining MIL's Christmas, while you said they ruined your Thanksgiving.  

    Try to be the bigger person.  And also have a heart to heart with your husband to ensure you're on the same page on future plans with them. 

    We just had some recent drama with my SIL/MIL except we weren't directly involved (SIL went off on MIL via email, for not very good reasons) and I'm deciding that going forward I'm keeping my distance from SIL/BIL.  They are very self-centered and I don't want to be a part of their issues. 

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    imageEmilyVReese80:

    I am NOT a touchy feely person and get crap for this...I feel like you don't like me bla bla bla. I hate to hug!!!! (my DH and kids are the only exception) Anyway, your post reminded me of the people in our family that give me crap for that...and I've never denied anyone a hug, I just try to avoid them.

    Anyway....I realize that has VERY little to do with what you're talking about...sorry.

    I think, since they don't want to do Christmas ON Christmas, I would just go and play nice. I'm sure it's important to your DH that ya'll spend time with his family.

    This is me.  I also remember my DH's friend getting all pissy with me for not hugging him when we met at Grand Central after work for drinks.  I said hello, but didn't come around to his side of the table to hug him, so he was offended for awhile and it was a big blow out.  Oy vey!   My MIL is similar and I just don't give her the energy anymore.  It sounds like Xmas is being celebrated on Wednesday and not Xmas and that you might be doing something else on Xmas anyways?
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  • twh2006twh2006

    Dh wants to pretend none of this happend. Especially since he had it confirmed it was his psycho sister (I told him I felt this was coming from her).  It's crazy, her parents and her brother will not correct her poor behaviour. NONE of them. They just turn their heads.  Like for our Christmas dinner (this one on christmas with his dad/stepmom at our house) she's bringing her boyfriend's kids.  She's married y'all with three kids ages 9, 7, 5 to their dad. Crazy dysfunction with her.

    Yeah...I'll be spiking the eggnog. JERRY!! JERRY!!

    And Kitcat the reason all of this fuss is happening at Thanksgiving and now this Wednesday is his mom is leaving for a cruise on Christmas so we just need to cater to her schedule. UGH.

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