Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
Poor Alice! If I were you, I'd talk with her teachers on what they're going to do to prevent it from happening in the future.
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WTFFFF?
Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
Really?? They're one. You really think that a one-year-old biter should be kicked out of daycare because they're too young to understand how to appropriately deal with their frustrations? It's not the child's fault...biting does happen, but if it's happening this frequently, I'd say it's the fault of the teachers. They need to be supervising the biter much more closely to intervene before the biting happens. I don't think it's reasonable to expect a one-year-old to have a "three-strikes" rule regarding biting.
Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
I don't think a 3 strikes rule is even remotely possible for children that age.
My youngest has been the biter and the bitten off and on for the past year. It straight up sucksass, in either scenario. I spent a fair amount of time talking with our director about it and she said it's actually EASIER when it's a kiddo that bites consistently because they can bring in extra staff to shadow them until they outgrow the phase. It's the kids (like my Finn) that only bite once in a while that are harder to intercept. They can't have a teacher shadowing every child in the toddler room - that just isn't feasible.
It's not the child's fault...biting does happen, but if it's happening this frequently, I'd say it's the fault of the teachers. They need to be supervising the biter much more closely to intervene before the biting happens.
And that. I'm irritated with Alice's teachers for not supervising the biter more carefully. You'd think they'd be extra attentive today, for shitssake.
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anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
Yeah, I think its the teachers' fault, for sure. They need to be monitoring more closely and when they see a scuffle starting over a toy they should intervene BEFORE someone gets bit.
Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
Depends on the center. I have a friend who's little boy got kicked out of two centers due to his biting.
Yeah, I think its the teachers' fault, for sure. They need to be monitoring more closely and when they see a scuffle starting over a toy they should intervene BEFORE someone gets bit.
Did they tell you it was a scuffle? I tried not to worry about scuffles over toys so much(except that they DO need to watch more closely), but a few times my kid got bit just sitting there, and I wanted to make sure it wasn't the same kid doing the random biting
Mine was the chew toy for about 6 months before she became the biter. They encourage her to use her words a lot to express what she wants before biting, AND they watch her closely at the beginning of a toy fight so they can stop her and correct her before she bites. She actually stops herself now and says "no biting" most of the time.
Yeah, I think its the teachers' fault, for sure. They need to be monitoring more closely and when they see a scuffle starting over a toy they should intervene BEFORE someone gets bit.
Did they tell you it was a scuffle? I tried not to worry about scuffles over toys so much(except that they DO need to watch more closely), but a few times my kid got bit just sitting there, and I wanted to make sure it wasn't the same kid doing the random biting
Mine was the chew toy for about 6 months before she became the biter. They encourage her to use her words a lot to express what she wants before biting, AND they watch her closely at the beginning of a toy fight so they can stop her and correct her before she bites. She actually stops herself now and says "no biting" most of the time.
Yep. Apparently Alice and a boy were both trying to go through the door of the FP Laugh and Learn House at the same time. Alice was winning, so the boy bit her.
It's not the child's fault...biting does happen, but if it's happening this frequently, I'd say it's the fault of the teachers. They need to be supervising the biter much more closely to intervene before the biting happens.
And that. I'm irritated with Alice's teachers for not supervising the biter more carefully. You'd think they'd be extra attentive today, for shitssake.
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I am so sorry. That just sucks!! Hopefully the teachers will get their act together and figure out what is going on so they can try to intervene in the future.
Yep. Apparently Alice and a boy were both trying to go through the door of the FP Laugh and Learn House at the same time. Alice was winning, so the boy bit her.
aww... poor alice. that stinks! but i also wonder if that boy has a crush on her and doesn't know any other way to show his affection than to bite?
Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
I don't think a 3 strikes rule is even remotely possible for children that age.
My youngest has been the biter and the bitten off and on for the past year. It straight up sucksass, in either scenario. I spent a fair amount of time talking with our director about it and she said it's actually EASIER when it's a kiddo that bites consistently because they can bring in extra staff to shadow them until they outgrow the phase. It's the kids (like my Finn) that only bite once in a while that are harder to intercept. They can't have a teacher shadowing every child in the toddler room - that just isn't feasible.
Uhhhg. That sucks. It must be so heartbreaking for you =(
A HUGE reason I haven't started Emily in any MDO program is because she was a biter until recently and so many have the 3 strikes rule. Abby was a biter too. I was a biter. We're just hot tempered women I guess.
I have to agree though. Sometimes, but not always, adults are to blame when babies have the opportunity to bite each other. I know when Emily was at the peak of her biting, she got Kate (Kiarox's daughter) at least twice. Many many more attacks were prevented although I can only imagine the momma bear coming out!
I'm sorry. L was also the brunt of a biter for a while this past year. It bothered me and DH. After a while, it bothered DH more than me. I talked with the teacher. It happened to be her son that was the biter. He was having a bunch of development issues that he was seeing ECI about. The biting has since stopped, and I hope the boy continues to get better. A lot of times it occurred over a toy scuffle. It really does suck, I agree. IMO, I didn't think it was worth it to get frustrated with the teacher. I know she was working on it and did what she could to prevent it. I don't know if I would have been quick enough to stop it if the scuffle happened quickly. I just imagine what it must be like as the mom of the biter.
Again, I'm sorry it's happening.
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WTFFFF?
Aren't there three-strikes rules or something? I mean I know it's not that easy to train kids' behavior so young, but what do you do if it becomes a perpetual habit??
Ugh, that sucks
Poor baby girl.
Do they have a plan to prevent it from continuing to happen? I don't even know how daycares deal with that stuff.
Really?? They're one. You really think that a one-year-old biter should be kicked out of daycare because they're too young to understand how to appropriately deal with their frustrations? It's not the child's fault...biting does happen, but if it's happening this frequently, I'd say it's the fault of the teachers. They need to be supervising the biter much more closely to intervene before the biting happens. I don't think it's reasonable to expect a one-year-old to have a "three-strikes" rule regarding biting.
I don't think a 3 strikes rule is even remotely possible for children that age.
My youngest has been the biter and the bitten off and on for the past year. It straight up sucksass, in either scenario. I spent a fair amount of time talking with our director about it and she said it's actually EASIER when it's a kiddo that bites consistently because they can bring in extra staff to shadow them until they outgrow the phase. It's the kids (like my Finn) that only bite once in a while that are harder to intercept. They can't have a teacher shadowing every child in the toddler room - that just isn't feasible.
It stinks, for sure.
Suck. Major, major suck.
And that. I'm irritated with Alice's teachers for not supervising the biter more carefully. You'd think they'd be extra attentive today, for shitssake.
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anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
Yeah, I think its the teachers' fault, for sure. They need to be monitoring more closely and when they see a scuffle starting over a toy they should intervene BEFORE someone gets bit.
Depends on the center. I have a friend who's little boy got kicked out of two centers due to his biting.
LLCG I'm so sorry. Poor A.
Did they tell you it was a scuffle? I tried not to worry about scuffles over toys so much(except that they DO need to watch more closely), but a few times my kid got bit just sitting there, and I wanted to make sure it wasn't the same kid doing the random biting
Mine was the chew toy for about 6 months before she became the biter. They encourage her to use her words a lot to express what she wants before biting, AND they watch her closely at the beginning of a toy fight so they can stop her and correct her before she bites. She actually stops herself now and says "no biting" most of the time.
Yep. Apparently Alice and a boy were both trying to go through the door of the FP Laugh and Learn House at the same time. Alice was winning, so the boy bit her.
Its a mystery.
aww... poor alice. that stinks! but i also wonder if that boy has a crush on her and doesn't know any other way to show his affection than to bite?
Yep. Agreed.
Poor Alice. It sucks. I also had one that was bit and then ended up biting a few times himself. It was in an older classroom, but still it sucks.
It sounds like there needs to be a bit more supervision in her room. *hugs to mama and alice*
Uhhhg. That sucks. It must be so heartbreaking for you =(
A HUGE reason I haven't started Emily in any MDO program is because she was a biter until recently and so many have the 3 strikes rule. Abby was a biter too. I was a biter. We're just hot tempered women I guess.
I have to agree though. Sometimes, but not always, adults are to blame when babies have the opportunity to bite each other. I know when Emily was at the peak of her biting, she got Kate (Kiarox's daughter) at least twice. Many many more attacks were prevented although I can only imagine the momma bear coming out!
I'm sorry. L was also the brunt of a biter for a while this past year. It bothered me and DH. After a while, it bothered DH more than me. I talked with the teacher. It happened to be her son that was the biter. He was having a bunch of development issues that he was seeing ECI about. The biting has since stopped, and I hope the boy continues to get better. A lot of times it occurred over a toy scuffle. It really does suck, I agree. IMO, I didn't think it was worth it to get frustrated with the teacher. I know she was working on it and did what she could to prevent it. I don't know if I would have been quick enough to stop it if the scuffle happened quickly. I just imagine what it must be like as the mom of the biter.
Again, I'm sorry it's happening.