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This is what I deal with...
DS had a check up at the pedi today. As per our decree, I texted XH how it went.
Me: "Dr. went well. DTP, MMR, and chicken pox vaccines. Hemoglobin was 12.4 so much better. X% height, Y% weight. Back at 18 months."
XH: "Alright, good to know. Hope is isn't short and fat like I was!!! With that big belly it isn't looking good! Thanks for letting me know how it went! I look forward to hearing how his iron level is at!" (yes, that's alot of exclamation points)
Me: "His belly sticks out bc of the curvature of his spine. All toddlers are like that and it'll fade as he grows. Iron level was 12.4 which is good."
XH: "Oh my goodness, I was being sarcastic as I know just as much about child development as you, also you said his iron level wouldn't be in until later, thanks for the anatomy lesson though. I was just hoping we could smile as we talk about the boy but that's not gonna happen...wow"
Me: "Wow. Not sure where all that came from."
XH: "Just trying to express my gratitude and have a laugh about our boy, I wish we could do that from time to time is all CPA. If the roles were reversed you would understand is all."
Me: "I made a statement and you jumped all over it for no reason, taking it completely out of context."
It's like a switch gets flipped...I wasn't trying to throw anything in his face, I was simply telling him a fact that I recently learned and found interesting but he took it as an attack. What does SP say? Is he first class on the crazy train or did I say something inappropriate that seemed sarcastic and judgmental?
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Re: This is what I deal with...
Seriously..I don't think he's being crazy at all.
He made a joke about your kid's big belly. You corrected him like he was talking sh*t about your kid.You replied a if he is stupid. He replied as if he was offended. He wanted to make a joke and laugh about something silly.
I think you absolutely would understand where he's coming from if roles were reversed. He's not in control and you're trying to make him feel stupid for trying to be friendly and funny. God forbid he wants to laugh and smile when he's talking about his kid with you.
THIS!! You were being mean and looking for a fight.
Very good point. I agree with this.
I'm not trying to make him feel stupid at all. I truly thought he didn't understand why. I never thought that I was being condescending by explaining it.
I do understand that written communication may have been taken in a way that was unintended though, based on some of the responses of the ladies here and reacting based on the written words only, knowing no back story.
I kind of agree with this poster. I read the messages you (original poster) shared with us and thought that perhaps you came off a bit too harsh on him. I don't know you or your backstory so I'm sure that you might have LOTS of reasons to be on the defensive and respond that way (trust me I understand). However, from an outsider point of view: I think he was just making light of the situation. I do understand that you were just trying to be matter of fact with your response but text messages being that they're supposed to be relatively short.. can often times be misread. You can't provide intonation to a text message and what can be intended to be funny or just casual can come of as unintentionally rude at times!