Who should host the baby shower?

Krissyq21 · December 2011

My sister-in-law (brother's wife) is currently pregnant with her first baby. Is there a specific person who is "supposed" to throw her a baby shower? Am I the one to host it? Or someone else in the family? When I was pregnant with my first, my aunts threw me a shower...so I'm just a little confused lol!

heather_09_15_07 · December 2011

Whoever offers to, as long as it's not the expectant Mom herself. There is no rule.

EastCoastBride · December 2011

There is no "should" or "supposed". It's whoever wants to throw a shower and offers.

Of all the people who could throw her one, though, I don't know that I'd put you, her SIL, at the top of the list just because you are her SIL. I would imagine her mom, or good friends of hers, or what have you, would want to throw one.

If you WANT to throw one, though, there is no harm in offering or asking if anyone else has offered and could you contact them.

ImThisBabysMom · December 2011

My MIL and SILs are throwning me one. I have a good relationship with them all. On my side of the family my aunt is throwing it, but that is only because my mother passed away or else she would host it.

If you don't want to offer to throw one, don't. She should have family and friends who would be willing to throw one and will plan to I imagine.

Krissyq21 · December 2011

Thanks for the responses! I wouldn't mind throwing her a baby shower but I just didn't know if there were any "rules" or "proper ettiquette" to follow.

dojo1 · December 2011

Ask if someone has offered to host for your side (she might be having a shower for her side of the family already, but is unable to accommodate yours). If no one has and you feel up to it, it would likely be a very welcome gesture to even offer.

BallSox · December 2011

If you can afford the expense, the time and the stress and want to, throw it.

ryry1977 · December 2011

Anyone who wants to throw her a shower! Just not the mom to be herself.

rhubarb123 · December 2011

In the old days...lol...it was always an aunt a second cousin twice removed or some such thing. No one really close to the MTB ever hosted the shower (not the sister, SIL, mom, MIL, etc). Now it is basically whoever offers. I think families are so much more spread out that it makes it easier. If you feel like offering to host it then let her know. You might find out someone has already offered or you are the only one who has offered. You can also host it with someone else...if you want to include both sides maybe she has someone who would co-host with you. The only "rule" is that the MTB (or her DH) do not host their own shower.