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Work Land Mines

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So I work with a guy that I know has been ttc for 2+ years.  I don't know the extent of what all they' ve gone through, but I know it must have been a rough/long journey.  Well today they announce they're pregnant.  I'm over the moon excited for them - so I ask the EDD and turns out its very close to my EDD last year.  And I immediate think omg don't do it - don't tell people.  They're only 10weeks along and I announced at Christmas (at 12w) and the next day lost the baby.  I can't help but feel like they're going to go through the same pain.  He was called out while presenting and basically told approx 100 people at work today.  I am really really nervous for them, and also really jealous.  Right after he told us, another coworker asked me if I was pregnant too.  Since we got married close to the same time, we should be on the same "schedule"  Oh what a day.  I hope I'm totally wrong, and I hope I can join them with a bfp soon.  Otherwise I might be really bitter...

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  • morkmork member
    Oh, to be naive again.  I hope you join them with a bfp soon too.  ((hugs))
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  • firefightersgalfirefightersgal member

    We've been TTC for three years and had two losses.  (The last one was a chemical pregnancy).  However, I'm pretty sure I'll run screaming through the streets if I ever get another BFP.  While I'm very much aware of the potential for another loss, I still won't be able to contain my excitement.

    I'm sorry you have to deal with feelings of jealousy.  I would feel the same way...and seem like I do nearly every day while I watch the world move on with BFP after BFP.  ((hugs)) 

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    I hope you get your bfp soon. Dh and I have gotten to the point of being married for so long people just assume we don't want kids.

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member

    imagemork:
    Oh, to be naive again.  I hope you join them with a bfp soon too.  ((hugs))

    This. I'm rooting for you.

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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member

    I totally understand the fer of other peoples pregnancies. I hate that our mind automatically goes there! 

    {{{hugs}}} I hope you can join them with a BFP soon! 


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  • 1220winterbride1220winterbride member

    Yikes, I can't imagine how elated they are but seriously 10 weeks and announcing to 100 people? I wonder how the wife feels about that. Too soon to announce in my opinion. (although I will tell a lot of people; including y'all!)

    Hope you two get on the same schedule in no time!


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  • cmumamacmumama member

    Wow...10 weeks is definitely early to announce to that many people at work.  I had only told 1 person at work, but she was my bff there.  I'm actually glad I told her b/c it was nice to have her support when I m/c'd.

     I hope you get your next BFP soon.

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  • lavrillavril member

    Thank you ladies!  I heart you all.

    As for 10 weeks, when he said that I just wanted to shout - stop!  don't do it!  It doesn't matter if you saw a heartbeat today, it can be gone tomorrow.   Ahhhhh I feel sick with worry for them when I think about it!  I didn't tell a soul at work, and am so thankful for that.  I couldn't have handled all the sympathetic glances or having to explain anything.  I can't imagine a whole division of people.  Hopefully he will never have to worry about it.

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    BFP #1 11.4.10, EDD 7.12.11, HB 12/9/10, MMC 12/27/10; 11w6d
    BFP #2 9.12.12, EDD 5.24.13, Baby Boy Born 5.15.13!!
    My Ovulation Chart
    3 Clomid (100mg) cycles + TI + Trigger = BFN's, Femara + Trigger + IUI#1 = BFN
    Femara + Trigger + IUI#2 = BFP!
    "Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." ~Gandhi
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