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Anyone have a husband with a weak stomach and some fears about childbirth

ams_movesams_moves member
in May 2012 Moms

Hey All~

Just wondering if there anyone else here who has similar struggles and fears about husband and childbirth.  I'm just getting nervous and not sure what to do.....should I pick someone to be a backup support person? Does that let him off to easy that he doesn't even try to help me through the birth?  Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?

Amy

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  • Gingersnap_mamaGingersnap_mama
    Depends on how weak of a stomach he has, lol.  DH has a problem with seeing blood, but when DD was born, he stayed by my head and never watched the actual birth.  He was holding my one leg and counting during my contractions (I also had my mom help too, she was on the other side).  He ended up cutting the umbilical cord, which shocked me.  But honestly, I think he was so into the whole experience that he forgot all about being queasy.  Maybe when the time comes your DH won't even be phased by it all like mine was.  For this one, I don't think he will watch the birth either.
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  • Divashrink1982Divashrink1982 member
    My husband has a weak stomach, too - and a bad reaction to needles and all things blood-related. He wouldn't mind being in a different room for the birth because of that, but it is really, really important to me that he be there with me. The plan is for him to look just at my face throughout the whole thing and to be seated in case he doesn't feel well.
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  • anmileanmile member
    I tried to warn DH about how messy the child birth would be.  Be he totally blew me away and was so strong and amazed to see his son being born.  I told him over and over again how I needed him to be my rock and he was that and more.  Being in the moment seemed to have subsided his fears.
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  • pinkmoonlightpinkmoonlight member

    Me! I had to have my mom and my dad at the hospital. My mom was in the room my dad was in the room until I started pushing and then I kicked him out but he stayed in the waiting room in case DH needed a break. DH was at the head of the bed the entire time. I ended up needing an emergency c-section and DH told me straight up that he was not coming, my mom suited up to come in, however I ended up needing to be put out so she did not make it in.

    I am still on the fence if I am going to VBAC or have a c-section. If I have a c-section my mom will be in the OR with me. VBAC they both will.

     

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  • tnywndytnywndy
    I worry about this with my DH. He has a problem with his own blood let alone anyone else's. Plus, I honestly don't want him watching it...call me weird, but whatever. Not sure how we will attack the actual day...doctor has already warned the possibility of needing a c section so he may not have to worry about it at all!
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  • cwie828cwie828 member
    imagetnywndy:
    I worry about this with my DH. He has a problem with his own blood let alone anyone else's. Plus, I honestly don't want him watching it...call me weird, but whatever. Not sure how we will attack the actual day...doctor has already warned the possibility of needing a c section so he may not have to worry about it at all!


    I'm not gonna call you weird! I feel the same way. I just feel like once you see that, you can never look at a vagina the same way again, lol. My husband is hilarious with how squeamish he is about everything. I guess I'll be asking for a "modest" birth with sheets to cover all the gross things.
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  • kyynelkyynel

    If I were you I would get a back up person just in case, you never know how husbands will react to child birth. I mean the person they love most in the world is in extreme pain and there is nothing they can do. I would make him deal with everything unless it becomes way to much for him. Plus he probably wants to be apart of everything and may just "woman up" as I like to say.

    My husband doesnt have a weak stomach but weak minded. lol I am trying to do a natural water birth and if one time I say I want pain meds he would do it so, I hired a doula to say no. The only fear my husband has is of me braking his hand or punching him in the face during labor.

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  • aeonishaeonish
    I had to have a c-section the first time, so DH didn't have to witness anything too squicky thanks to the curtain shielding my lower half from him. I'm trying for a VBAC this time, and so he thought it would be a good idea to watch birthing videos on youtube to get an idea of what he's in for and now he's terrified. He says he doesn't know if he can do it, and I said "well, if you'd like to stay married and have an involvement in the child's life at all, you'd better damn well figure out a way." I'm not saying he has to have his face all up in my crotch like the doctor, but seriously. He just needs to get over it.
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  • racampbell1racampbell1

    imageDivashrink1982:
    My husband has a weak stomach, too - and a bad reaction to needles and all things blood-related. He wouldn't mind being in a different room for the birth because of that, but it is really, really important to me that he be there with me. The plan is for him to look just at my face throughout the whole thing and to be seated in case he doesn't feel well.

    My DH is exactly the same!  With DD we had a doula - if you have a DH that you're worried about, a doula is SO worth it.  They are not cheap, but my mom lives too far away to be guaranteed to be at the birth, so we're hiring the same person again.  Loved her, she was worth every penny and helped support DH and myself.  She also took some amazing pics of DD and us when she was minutes old, that I treasure to this day.  Of course if you have a trusted friend or relative that can be there for you, that's great too.  I highly recommend some type of back up support person, the LAST thing you want to be worrying about while in labor/delivering is your hubby.

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