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question about "permission"

XMrsV2005XMrsV2005
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XH and I share joint custody -- temporarily. We have joint decision making and 50/50 parenting time.

He has been sick since thanksgiving and hasn't really had the kids much. I have tried offering extra parenting time for him since he hasn't seen them, but he hasn't taken me up on it. Not sure if that's relevant.

This weekend my extended family is celebrating Christmas, approx 2 hours away. Unfortunately, I am going to have to work and will not be able to go. It is my weekend scheduled to be with the kids, so I'm not asking for a change in the schedule. All I want is for my mom to be able to take the kids to visit my grandma and aunts/uncles/cousins/etc.

Do I need XH's "permission" to allow them to travel with my mom? The kids are 4 and 22 mos old. 

I am going to email my attorney but I don't know if she'll be able to respond immediately.

 

The nestie formerly known as MrsV2005. I just realized I have no recent pictures of me or the kids! Guess I need to get the camera out!
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Re: question about "permission"

  • JellymanKellyJellymanKelly
    I don't know what your agreement looks like, but at long as it doesn't say anything about your family not being alone with the kids, I don't see a problem. You said the place is 2 hours away - is it still within the same state?

    The only problem I see is if your agreement says anything about notifying your ex about their whereabouts. My friend's custody agreement states that, other than routine visits to her parents' house, if she takes her kids anywhere else (out of town) then she has to provide their dad with a written itinerary. She even has sole physical custody because he lives on the other side of the country.
    She's crafty - and she's just my type.
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  • LadyLissameLadyLissame member
    I guess it would also depend on your relationship with him. For instance, STBXH and I keep each other in the loop on any special plans with DS. For instance, I am planning on taking him to our zoo for the lights show soon. I will let STBXH know about that, or if I take DS any further than 30 min away. For me, its just a courtesy and in case something happens.
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