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January 2012 Moms
AugustSkye
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Super annoyed.
AugustSkye
member
I'm generally pretty laid-back, but tonight I'm tired and pretty irritable. I posted a Facebook status about being anxious to wear non-maternity clothes (just like I posted about in 3rd Tri) and the people who commented on it were supportive and understanding.
Then my childhood friend decides to put in her two cents. Don't get me wrong, I love her dearly, but she's a pretty bossy, know-it-all person in general. She decides to post "U will still wear sweats and tees lol... U will be too tired and not rlly care"
Yes, I know that having a newborn will wear me out. Yes, I know that there will be days, possibly several, when I don't feel like getting out of bed, much less getting dressed. But come on! She was in high school when she had her daughter, so she had to juggle her daughter, school, and social life.
It rubbed me the wrong way because I am by no means under the illusion that I will feel FABULOUS every day. It's more the fact that I want to be able to go on a date with my husband, or anywhere important, really, and have something that fits me comfortably OTHER THAN sweats and elastic-panel jeans! Ugh!
I know it's totally irrational to be upset over something that small... I guess it's just my mood paired with my friend's personality and how crappy I've been feeling today. But venting did make me feel SO much better! Know-it-alls are my pet peeve. LOL.
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Re: Super annoyed.
That'd annoy me too. That's akin to someone who likes to post on my facebook status whenever I complain about the sleep deprivation who reminds me that it'll only get worse. Yes, I know a newborn will keep me up at all hours of the night, but that's no reason to marginalize my suffering right now, especially since I'm in a lot of pain at night.
I think people like your friend and the lady who keeps posting on my status think they're being funny or witty. I agree with deleting her comment, or you could send her a private message telling her you don't appreciate those kind of comments right now.
That would annoy me too: Going back to non-maternity wear has also made me anxious, and if someone made a comment like that to me I would want to deck them! I have someone I know that who posts comments such as that on my facebook wall a LOT- I just delete the bad comments- they're doing it to get attention and be funny but it's not very thoughtful to the feelings of the person they're writing about- and it's my page so I don't feel guilty in doing so. I don't want to read through comments like that when I'm feeling this pregnant!
In all seriousness, your friend's comment may likely be coming from her own insecurities of how she would handle the situation if she were in your shoes. I think the best option here is to filiter that annoyed energy and use it to rock the non-maternity wear after pregnancy: show her and everyone how fabulous you are that you can pull off both being a mom and dressing the way you want!
Thanks ladies! I was afraid I would get flamed for being upset over something so seemingly insignificant. Guess I forgot that I'm part of a (mostly) drama-free board! LOL. Makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone.
To PP, I really HATE the "Oh, just wait!" comments too. It's definitely one of the things about pregnancy I hate most.
These kind of comment annoy me too - Yes we are FTM's but we are not stupid! We knows thing will change and are in no way shape or form that it will all be a walk in the park but come on, why do people feel the need to make dumb ass comments about something as petty as clothing?
At my previous job (within the same company I am in now) I was told that I would not be able to cope as a FTM and that it is goig to be the most difficult thing I will ever have to do. She then went on to tell me that I wont even be able to find the time to shower and get out of my PJ's (???). Why? Because she didnt.
Really? You found motherhood so difficult that you could not even find the time to keep yourself clean and dressed?! I said to her that I thought she was the one with the problems, not me. DH then kicked in (we work together) and told her that obviously, unlike her husband, he is a helper - There will be 2 of us raising the child, not my wife alone
DH's aunt is always that same glimmer of unsolicited advice that i cringe at.
"thanks for your suggestions" is what she normally gets.
But for your friend I'd throw out the, "I'm just looking forward to having options!" There's nothing she could say to step on tha!
Just like namara said, it's just like people that say "just wait until ...".
Yes, I get that having a baby is a lot of work and money. Yes, I get that I will lose more sleep than I am losing now. Yes, I get that I will be down and out for some time, but I want to wear NORMAL clothes. Yes, I get that those clothes will get spit and poo on them, but I don't care because they will be NORMAL.
lame. fwiw this is my second baby and I dressed WAY better after my first was born than before. I felt like I wanted to put the extra effort in so that DIDN'T end up in sweats all the time.
Don't get me wrong, I love me some sweats! but come on. that is such a stereotype that you DON'T have to fall into.