How is your SO with babies?

bigbear · December 2011

Does your SO have any experience with babies?

My DH does but at the same time he acts like a kid and sometimes lacks the common sense I wish he had. For example last night we went to our nephew's 2nd bday party. All the adults were playing with him but in an adult way making sure he doens't hit his head on the corner of the table and things of that nature. lol

DH on the other hand, rubbed a baloon on this little guy's head and he fell over giggling and hit his head on a chair. Then he picks him up and starts throwing him in the air without even really having a good grip of him in the first place and then he almost hits his head on the ceiling 3 FN TIMES!! Everybody cringed and he would just say "oh I totally had him" eventhough it was obvious he had no clue how high he was throwing this kid. And to do the same thing 3 times was just insane.

I just feel like he doesn't really think when he does those things even when he's reminded of having to be more gentle even b/c he was doind that when the boy was a newborn!

So I don't think he'll be an irresponsible father in no way but I do worry sometimes why he's acting so... well dumb! LOL

So just checking I guess to see if anybody else is noticing similar things...

baloneydisc · December 2011

DH doesn't have a ton of experience with babies (neither do I). We do have a niece that just turned 6-months old though. We were at the hospital the day after she was born and have seen them about once a week since then. DH is so cute with her, he constantly wants to hold her, play with her, change her diapers, feed/burp her. He calls my niece his "practice baby"! He's very careful with her.

bigbear · December 2011

elainelbuck:
DH doesn't have a ton of experience with babies (neither do I). We do have a niece that just turned 6-months old though. We were at the hospital the day after she was born and have seen them about once a week since then. DH is so cute with her, he constantly wants to hold her, play with her, change her diapers, feed/burp her. He calls my niece his "practice baby"! He's very careful with her.

OH how cute!!!
I hope my DH will be more gentle since we are having a girl

MrsKujawski · December 2011

My DH is great with kids. Kids seem to like him a lot too, esp. little ones. Part of it is cause he's goofy with them and part of it is cause they can see themselves in his glasses LOL.

He practices on my nephew who's 15 months... it's super cute... he carries him around and talks to him and whatnot. It makes me melt.

LuckyTraveler · December 2011

My DH is GREAT with kids. However, he and I have very different ideas about baby proofing the house. Additionally, my brothers' families are even more anal about baby proofing (at least, one set is very anal, the other set is more do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do, but I digress) than I am. It is starting to cause some tension.

Tracilaroo · December 2011

My husband won't even hold other people's babies. He's afraid he'll drop them and kill them.

AugustSkye · December 2011

DH is great with kids. Probably because he's very mature, responsible and caring by nature. He's been that way since he was a child (I don't know how he puts up with me, I'm a total hot head... but I digress).

Anyway, he loves playing with his nephews and niece. He can't wait for DD to get here. He wants me to show him how to fix her hair and let him dress her. He's even excited about changing her diapers! If I didn't know better, I would say him he's dreaming and if he knew anything about babies he would change his mind! LOL.

But I'm lucky to have a husband who already loves his daughter so much!

DEBBIE33CASEY · December 2011

Besides our own DH had no experience with babies whatsoever and was honestly uninterested. He had fun goofing around with some of the 5-7 year old boys after church before going home but that was about it. He's been wonderful with DD, though, and even though he's not the first to hold someone's baby and will infact pass on holding other's infants, he is an amazing father. But he also does a lot of dumb stuff.

I swear his idea of watching DD is merely listening for her to cry or for the sound of something breaking. He's very much more low key than me and I cringe sometimes when I come home from the two of them being alone together. But I realize everyone's parenting strategy is different and no one specific is right. As long as there is love and safety there everything will be fine!

Sascha3 · December 2011

Mine is amazing. Much, much more comfortable than I am. He was number 5 out of 12 kids and most of his siblings now have kids. He has been around more babies in one year than me in my whole life. I have been around very few babies and until I met him, probably spent quality time with 3 in my whole life. I am so glad I have him or else I would be terrified.

bigbear · December 2011

Maybe I'm being too harsh on him huh??

He is more than happy and excited for our little girl and he is a very gentle and carying person. He has babysat other friends' kids and his cousin's boys, has changed diapers and all that fun stuff. He even said he'll gladly cut our LOs nails since I'm totally freaking out about that LOL

Maybe I'm just overprotective... But that throwing in the air just makes me so nervous. I'm sure he'll do just fine. I KNOW he will. It's probably also different when it's your baby. But I think I just need to let him be. He'd never do anything to harm the baby and I have to know that we will both make mistakes and our daughter will fall and get hurt at times, all kids do!

I think I have to relax LOL

bigbear · December 2011

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bigbear:

elainelbuck:
DH doesn't have a ton of experience with babies (neither do I). We do have a niece that just turned 6-months old though. We were at the hospital the day after she was born and have seen them about once a week since then. DH is so cute with her, he constantly wants to hold her, play with her, change her diapers, feed/burp her. He calls my niece his "practice baby"! He's very careful with her.

OH how cute!!!
I hope my DH will be more gentle since we are having a girl

There have been studies done where the same baby was dressed in pink or blue and then given to a test subject. The adult was rougher with the "boy" (throwing in the air, more violent stories were told, etc) and more protective of the "girl" (said things like "you're too pretty to do that, held her more often) even though it was the same baby wearing different color clothes.

How interesting! But I guess I can see that, especially with guys. Thanks for sharing! My DH is actually a very gentle and sensitive person but he always plays so tough. I'm thinking he'll probably just completely melt when he sees her

GreeneyesP · December 2011

My DH has a child from a previous relationship, so he's pretty baby savvy. That being said, he likes to tell me what his DD liked or didn't as a baby, and since his ex didn't bf, he thinks I'm coo-coo for trying. But all in all, he's really good with LO's. I lucked out there. Now if I could only get him to do dishes.....

pcrock92 · December 2011

Mine has little experience with babies, but a lot of experience with young children (like 7 years & up) because he's had to watch a lot of his younger cousins. As for babies, he asked to "borrow" his cousin's newborn a few times and watched her (I was there & he asked me a million questions since I've nannied for 6 years lol), but he refused to change her poopy diaper. He's so cute and sweet with babies, though.

pcrock92 · December 2011

Mine has very little experience with babies, but a lot of experience with young children (like 7 years & up) because he's had to watch a lot of his younger cousins. As for babies, he asked to "borrow" his cousin's newborn a few times and watched her (I was there & he asked me a million questions since I've nannied for 6 years lol), but he refused to change her poopy diaper. He's so cute and sweet with babies, though.

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