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Err! I need advice!

QueenTQueenT member
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Is this wrong or am I being over sensitive?

Everyone at work knows that I am pregnant. I told them right away because I knew I'd be making appointments and would be taking time out of work (which is not like me because I've never missed a day of work). So that being said....yesterday I was making myself something to eat (a snack) and one of my bosses makes a comment (me and him were the only ones in the room at the time) "Don't you people eat at home?" So that annoyed me...because obviously he was talking to me...I WAS THE ONLY ONE THERE.  Then today I forgot some forms in the copy machine and the same boss says to me " Hello!! Is Alzheimer's all of a sudden a symtom of pregnancy?!" I nearly filled out! I said "Apparently it is" and walked away.

 

What do I do? I mean how should I handle this because it's going to be a long 9 months if I have to keep hearing that kind of stuff everyday. Am I being over sensitive or is he wrong for making those comments?

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  • chels4144chels4144
    Wow he needs to lighten up and that is verbally abusive. I would turn him in if he keeps it up.
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  • Mrs.ZipMrs.Zip
    Sounds like you work with some real asshats. Just hang in there. And keep firing right back. :-)
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  • ezeigler1ezeigler1
    Boss is a douche. I'd be calling HR about that.
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  • xGoingToTheChapelXxGoingToTheChapelX

    Yah that's rediculous. I agree with Chels-I would turn him in as well unless he lets up. Is there a FEMALE boss above him you could talk to? Someone that understands what you are going through?

    That guy is scum.

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  • QueenTQueenT member
    The good thing is I have 5 other partners that I can turn to with this if it becomes more of a problem. I'm just hoping he's going thru male PMS.
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  • heyyoheheyyohe

    Yeah..total asshat.

    I would call HR, b/c that's absurd.

    and actually, short term memory loss is common, so tell him to shove it.

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  • PeskyPesky member
    The comments are inappropriate and harassment.  Think about it -- if you had any other form of disability, would he also be making snarky comments about that too?  No.  Like it or not, pg is classified as a medical condition and should be treated with the same respect that other medical conditions are.  I would respond with "I'm sorry but that is an inappropriate comment about a medical condition."  If you are uncomfortable with a direct confrontation, I would approach HR about how to handle the situation as I'm sure it's against your co's policies.


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  • chels4144chels4144

    imageQueenT:
    The good thing is I have 5 other partners that I can turn to with this if it becomes more of a problem. I'm just hoping he's going thru male PMS.
     

     

    Haha, male PMS. Next time he asks you if something is a symptom of pregnancy you should ask him if being an *** is part of male PMS. Although you might be in trouble for that.    

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  • QueenTQueenT member
    Well that's the only thing I worry about. I've never been the type to let ANYONE talk down to me or walk all over me. But the second those 2 little pink lines show up everything changes and it's not about me anymore. I think I'm going to wait it out a few days and if it keeps up I'll be going to the big guy (the big boss)...he's all for the pregnancy- even asked to babysit :P
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  • shellbug79shellbug79

    You could be a little overly sensitive b/c you're pregnant but also he is being a little rude by saying those types of things.  Do you typically get along with him?  If so maybe try talking to him or talking to someone who can/will say something to him, I wouldn't put up with his sarcasm for much longer.  Maybe tell him also that during pregnancy a lot of women get really mean so he'd better hope that isn't the case with your pregnancy!

    Michelle

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  • hanna maehanna mae
    I agree, the boss is a jerk.  What he's doing is a form of harassment.  I'd ask him to stop and if he doesn't, I'd definitely be calling a higher up.
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  • mavilabridemavilabride member
    I don't know if this is necessarily verbal abuse but I do think this is a case of a guy making what he thinks are funny jokes but in reality insensitive kind of dumb comments.
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  • chels4144chels4144

    imagemavilabride:
    I don't know if this is necessarily verbal abuse but I do think this is a case of a guy making what he thinks are funny jokes but in reality insensitive kind of dumb comments.

     

    Anything that is said to you in the workplace that makes you feel uncomfortable in any way is verbal abuse. What he said is uncalled for and by the way it sounds I don't think he was joking.  

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  • Anita_69Anita_69

    Your boss could just think he's being funny.  I work with a lot of guys and they have a habit of saying stuff that others would consider very inappropriate.  I would give it a few days and see if he keeps it up...and if he does let someone know the issue. 

     On a side note...my boss saw a 100 calorie pack of cookies on my desk and asked if I was eating extra calories.

    Also known as *BreeBree13* Stupid bump keeps logging me in under my old name!
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  • Taye10Taye10
    Definitely keep a journal of all his comments/actions.  If it continues, I would definitely take it up with HR.
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