Community› The Bump Message Boards› Pre-School and Daycare
Pre-School and Daycare
New Discussion

XP: Need advice on 4th birthday party etiquette

NikkiBenzoNikkiBenzo member
in Pre-School and Daycare
I am having a party for my daughter who will be 4 on the 19th.This is my first kids party. I have some kids coming who have infant siblings who are not old enough to partake in the festivites but I am assuming that their parents will bring them. I am planning on making a special goody bag for them that is age appropriate. Is this the right thing to do or should I not give them anything? Also, it is a Hello Kitty theme so the goody bags are pink with Hello Kitty on them - can I give these to the boys too? I really don't want to have to buy new ones just for boys. I made sure that there is boy stuff in those.And lastly, I have two older girls coming - 10 and 13. What do I do about goody bags for them? Do kids that age expect goody bags? I was thinking of buying them a book as a party favor.
Image and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPic Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers Lilypie First Birthday tickers

In my bag: Nikon D90; 35mm 1.8, 90mm 2.8 macro (my fave), Lensbaby Composer with macro extensions. BFP after 13 cycles and one ectopic. Lost left tube 5/19/10.
Report Reply to Post

Re: XP: Need advice on 4th birthday party etiquette

  • UsedToBeGoldieUsedToBeGoldie member

    don't make goodie bags for the babies - that's not needed at all.  We used to bring the twins to parties for DS1's friends when they were really little, and would have felt bad if parents made goodie bags for them.

    for the boys- no special bags needed... at that age they don't care - and if they do- screw them, lol.  having boy "stuff" in them is enough.

    and the older kids - i'd just get them some candy.

    I used to be Goldie_locks_5 but the new nest is so screwed up that I was forced to start over.
    image
    imageimage
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • SpenjaminsSpenjamins
    I get gift bags for all of the children BUT we usually have max 10 kids total. Small things, though. For Halloween I got the babies pumpkin socks for the Target dollar bin and some baby snacks. I agree that it is not necessary.
    image
    Report Reply
  • CalliopiCalliopi
    I would use Hello Kitty for all the kids.  As the PP said at that age it doesn't matter.  For the babies I usually pick up something from the dollar bins at Target like a pair of socks.  For the older kids I've gotten a small craft from Joann's.  Parents have always appreciated it and said it was thoughtful to take into consideration the older kids.
    Report Reply
  • smitt2619smitt2619
    I think it is just fine to give treat bags to all ages, including babies, but it depends on the group and how you know everyone and what your circle of friends might expect.  Definitely do the same bag for everyone - the kids don't care about the bag just the stuff inside.  I agree, good idea to give something for the older kids.  Books might be tricky (what kind??) but I don't shop for kids over the age of about 7, so don't really know.  Something small. 
    Lilypie Fifth Birthday tickers Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • franciscazfranciscaz member

    I would do something like this for the babies: Hello Kitty Coloring & Activity Book .  It is a nice gesture to do something.

    Don't worry about separate bags.  I've never seen the boys get something different from the girls unless it is a gender specific clothing article (like princess heels). 

    Mom to Harmon 1/17/08 and twins Rachel & Callum 8/28/09 Photobucket 29o0v13.jpg
    Report Reply
  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    I actually just had this issue this weekend when we did DD's 3rd birthday; I had 13 kids, 11 preschoolers and 2 toddlers and 4 boys.  The party was a Dora theme, but I used the same bags for everybody.  Everyone got 2 pieces of candy, a bouncy ball and squishy little animals; the girls got Dora lip gloss bracelets and jewelry, the boys got little army men and water pistols.  For the younger toddlers (no babies) I just switched out the candy and balls and gave them little bags of goldfish and fruit snacks instead.  I didn't get anything for my nieces who are 10 and 13.

    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • KristinKDKristinKD member

    I have followed the lead of other friends who have given gift bags for DD2 and now always have gift bags for little siblings too. For DD1's fourth birthday, I gave books as party favors, so I had baby books for the little siblings and $5 B&N gift cards for the older siblings, except none of the siblings ended up coming.

    I think the Hello Kitty bags are fine for boys. I was worried that DD1's one little boy friend wouldn't like the Cinderella theme of her party, but he wasn't even fazed by it.

    I would guess the older kids won't necessarily expect something, but would appreciate getting something. A book or a small gift card would be nice.

    Emily 11.29.2007 | Kate 4.3.2010 | James 8.22.2013
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"