Holiday parties and feeling self-conscious

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namara5532 · December 2011

I think you retain the right to feel self-conscious. Our bodies are going through a rapid change. Even with a legit excuse, it's a big shift to psychologically be ok with.

lauren.cus · December 2011

yup! I went to DH's holiday party last night too and felt the exact same way. I'm well aware I'm pregnant, not fat, but that doesn't keep me from missing my old body. I know how blessed I am to be pregnant right now, but I've been having a really tough time dealing with my new body lately too. Just know to other people you're beautifully pregnant!

kristenina · December 2011

You have the right to feel however you want to feel! Nobody can tell you how you're allowed to feel. As someone who is both fat AND pregnant (and I use the word "fat" here as a mere descriptor, not as a derogatory term) I humbly submit that one can be fat and beautiful at the same time, as well as fat and beautiful and pregnant at the same time. The terms are not mutually exclusive. Not to start a flame war, and not to police how you feel, but just to provide another perspective in which you are allowed to feel good about yourself no matter your size, whether it's temporary or not.

And - I'm sure you looked absolutely beautiful last night.

A S-ski · December 2011

I reserve the right to feel like a whale and biitch about it any time I want.

mudluscious4 · December 2011

I definitely felt that somewhat at DH's holiday party. It's still a little shocking to not have a waistline to speak of anymore. I miss pencil skirts especially...

neener3 · December 2011

Ohhh yes. DH keeps snapping "You're not fat, you're pregnant, and everyone keeps telling you how good you look, so BELIEVE them!"

Ever so helpful.

You can't help how you feel!

ames243567 · December 2011

Oh yes. you have every right!! I feel self-conscious at the grocery store let along parties and get togethers!

perfectoops · December 2011

kristenina:
You have the right to feel however you want to feel! Nobody can tell you how you're allowed to feel. As someone who is both fat AND pregnant (and I use the word "fat" here as a mere descriptor, not as a derogatory term) I humbly submit that one can be fat and beautiful at the same time, as well as fat and beautiful and pregnant at the same time. The terms are not mutually exclusive. Not to start a flame war, and not to police how you feel, but just to provide another perspective in which you are allowed to feel good about yourself no matter your size, whether it's temporary or not. And - I'm sure you looked absolutely beautiful last night.

Yes

SoonToBeMsP · December 2011

kristenina:
You have the right to feel however you want to feel! Nobody can tell you how you're allowed to feel. As someone who is both fat AND pregnant (and I use the word "fat" here as a mere descriptor, not as a derogatory term) I humbly submit that one can be fat and beautiful at the same time, as well as fat and beautiful and pregnant at the same time. The terms are not mutually exclusive. Not to start a flame war, and not to police how you feel, but just to provide another perspective in which you are allowed to feel good about yourself no matter your size, whether it's temporary or not. And - I'm sure you looked absolutely beautiful last night.

I want to hug you

AliW220 · December 2011

You are so totally not alone!!!

My SO also keeps telling me the "you're not fat, you're pregnant"... well too bad because I KNOW that I've gained more weight than I was supposed to. The baby isn't in my thighs or butt! It's a hard thing to deal with right now, on top of all the hormones, and stressing over being ready for baby, and every other single little thing that is on our minds at this point.

I totally know the feeling of looking at other ladies in their adroable outfits and thinking... "why can't I look that cute?" when you've spent 2 hours trying on every single combo of the 7 items of clothing that don't bust at the seams when you put them on. So frustrating. I hold onto that every woman who has ever had children has been through this, and just think how unflattering all the maternity clothes were even just 10 years ago. I try to be grateful for the good things, even though the hormones sometimes get the best of me.

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