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SIDS risk at 9+ months?

EveKing79EveKing79
in Babies: 3 - 6 Months
My cousin's wife and I both had babies this year. My LO is 3 months, and her daughter is 9 months. I am not particularly close with this woman, but I am with the rest of the family. A little bit of background- my cousin was deployed in Iraq for the past 6 months, and his wife got into the habit of sleeping with her LO in the bed with her. She is a bit more of an AP than I am, but I guess co-sleeping (co-bedding?) worked for them. When my cousin returned home, he wanted baby out of the bed! They transitioned her to a crib, and a few days ago, his wife posted a picture of her daughter sleeping face down in the crib surrounded by all kinds of stuff- a ton of stuffed animals in the crib, a big satin blanket (not breathable) and some kind of a fleece mat for sleeping on. I am wondering if SIDS is still a risk at this point, and if so, should I say something? We put our DS down with nothing but his swaddle and the crib sheet, but he is much littler. My cousin's daughter is very mobile, starting to stand, etc..I know if she is safe to sleep on her stomach because she can roll over, but is it still dangerous to have a  bunch of stuff in the crib at this point? I have no idea and wouldn't want to offend her by mentioning it, especially if it is not dangerous when they are that old.
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  • suzyqjmusuzyqjmu member
    While I am sure that the risk is down quite a bit by that age and mobility, I can't imagine taking the chance of having all of that stuff in the crib. I heard no blankets until one year, but if you are going to use one, I would use a breathable one. And why take the chance with the stuffed animals? The crib is for sleeping, not playing anyway. I hate when I see photos like this. I see it on FB all the time. Sometimes the babies are so young and I cringe. I don't know if I would say anything. I have never said anything before because it has never been anyone close enough to me (usually people I went to HS with). I did say something once when someone posted pics of themselves feeding their baby some orange veggie at 8 weeks of age! I was horrified. It was someone I was never close to, but who had ended up on my FB anyway. I wrote a private message about how I didn't wanted to judge her parenting skills, but that solids were not recommended at that age. I suggested that she talk to her pedi about it if she hadn't already. Maybe you bring up the SIDS thing in a private message asking her about what she thinks. Say something about noticing that she has so much stuff in the crib. Pretend you need the advice ... ask what age she thinks it is ok for you to start putting things in your LOs crib. Then that opens things up for you to write back later and tell her you did some further research and it isn't recommended until age one (or whatever you find). That way it seems like you are sharing found info with her, not attacking. Sorry I rambled on so much. Not much sleep last night. Brain not working.
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  • WeWearCombatBootsWeWearCombatBoots
    Its not your place to tell her how to parent. If you say anything, you will more than likely offend her. And the fact that there is a PICTURE means their LO is being supervised in the crib. You could send a subtle message if you want to by posting an article about SIDS and stomach sleeping and all that on your OWN facebook wall and hope she sees it(assuming you are facebook friends), but I don't think it is necessary. At 9 months, the baby will wake up and be able to move away if something is over their face, and they probably flipped themself over in the crib. 
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  • Matt DvorakMatt Dvorak
    I am always in the same room as LO during the day, even while he is napping. He might fall asleep on my bed while I sit on the computer right next to him. I might throw a blanket over him and there might be a toy or two laying around. At night I have him very safe. Don't be so quick to judge a fb picture.
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  • mrswalkertobemrswalkertobe member

    imageWeWearCombatBoots:
    Its not your place to tell her how to parent. If you say anything, you will more than likely offend her. And the fact that there is a PICTURE means their LO is being supervised in the crib. You could send a subtle message if you want to by posting an article about SIDS and stomach sleeping and all that on your OWN facebook wall and hope she sees it(assuming you are facebook friends), but I don't think it is necessary. At 9 months, the baby will wake up and be able to move away if something is over their face, and they probably flipped themself over in the crib. 

    I agree. While I think you have great intentions, I think it would be a little judgey to say something.  At 9 months, they can move around and get into and out of awkward spots. I know if someone said something to me about how I parent I would be upset regardless of their intentions.

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  • lanboblanbob member
    Maybe it was just set up for the pic?
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