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WHAT THE HECK ARE GRAND-PARENTING CLASSES?!
mlebates
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My husband just texted me and said his parents are going to be taking grand-parenting classes... I think it's SO WEIRD!! I honestly don't know how to react to such a thing. I mean this will be their first grandbaby but still... Is there such a thing as over excited or over preparing??
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Re: WHAT THE HECK ARE GRAND-PARENTING CLASSES?!
My husband and I live in Wyoming and his parents live in Kentucky, so I'm not really sure how it would benefit them. PLUS they are both nurses... I still think it's weird. lol
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My parents and in laws went b4 my DD was born. It was awesome. They taught them about new saftey stuff and allergy rules. Just general stuff. My mom has been a nurse for a very long time and she even learned a few things.
They also talked to the grandparents about not coming to the hospital unless invited and things like that.
They have them at my hospital too - Friends and Family I think they call it. Just baby basics for people that haven't had babies in 20+ years. I think it's great cause it might prevent your MIL from saying "well, when I had kids, we ..." and you having to say "Yeah, but they learned that was bad..."
ETA: I think they also go over things like basic first aid for choking and stuff.
we dont have any in our area and i wish wish WISH they did. i am very uncomfortable with my inlaws skills and very uneasy about my husband's idea of them being our main source of day care. their food sanitation, home cleanliness, nutrition habits... leave much to be desired and I hate that it is such an awkward area to voice my opinion.
The day she said that my son should sleep on his stomach my heart skipped a beat.
it might be awkward for you but at least they are willing to learn.
As much as my first reaction would be to roll my eyes if it were my ILs, I will agree with the PP who said it will probably be a good thing.
I have heard of many people having conflict with parents and ILs about "how they did things" twenty years ago and how things are done now. Hopefully when this info comes from a professional third party, it may put out some of the future fires. Luckily, my ILs and parents knew that I would not respond well to challenges and know that I educated myself really well before hand but there were lots of conversations about how things were different. Like bumpers, giving a newborn water, myths about BF, carseat safety, back to sleep, daycare, etc..
THIS! I think it will only be better for you and your husband. It's been a LONG time since they were new parents. Things have changed and they have to remember that you are the parents. This will be a nice reminder for them that you won't have to do
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While the idea might seems weird, think about it. Your MIL/FIL are going to be learning what you have been learning. I think it is great to be told by a professional what has changed and WHY it has changed. My MIL/FIL live 13 hours away from us and if would make them feel involved, then by all means...let them do it. It might make you feel more comfortable when they are visiting.
I think too, if they go over boundaries and things like that, it would be worth its weight in gold. My MIL doesn't really have boundaries when they come to see us and wish that someone would have set her straight on it because now it is me doing it (since DH refuses) and half the time I feel it makes me look like a big biitch.
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WHY IS IT AWKWARD? Do you have In laws? Have you ever had to discuss with your DH that if FIL watches LO he has to be explicitly told that Ice cream is not dinner? And that if we show up one more time and DS has not been put to bed that he won't be allowed to babysit anymore? Yeah, it's awkward. We certainly don't blindly agree with anything, but when you have to teach your parents, or in-laws, how to be parents again it's kind of awkward. And it's even more awkward to tell them that if they don't take what you're telling them to heart and learn the lessons, they won't be allowed to have one on one time with the baby anymore. Yeah, it's awkward to say the least.
We're lucky. MIL is a nanny and has been staying up to date on child care rules throughout the last several years, so she knows what it takes. But FIL was a hands-off parent for the infant time and really had no clue what it took to take care of a baby. But he desperately wanted to be allowed to babysit sometimes when we wanted a few hours away. NOW it's okay for him because DS is easier. But I wish he had been able to take a grand-parent class to teach him some things that he never knew in the first place, because he was pretty hands off with his kids until they were old enough to be "fun".