Would you get induced for this reason?

Sascha3 · December 2011

Some of you may know I have a 24 year old daughter (only 15 when I had her). She lives in Seattle and is pretty much the only family I have. We are very, very close. I would really love for her to be at the hospital when the baby is born. I only want my husband and I in the delivery room, but I want her to be the first person to meet the baby after she is born.

My doctor had mentioned he is open to induction one week early, at 39 weeks, which we had discussed if my husband was offered a new job out of state that he would need to start as soon as he could in the month of January. We are still waiting for word about the job, but I started to wonder if it may be a good idea to plan the birth so my daughter can plan to be there.

She can get 10 days off of work and they are willing to work with her on changing the dates around, but if I go into labor naturally, the chances of her making it to the hospital by the time the baby is born are slim to none. My labor with her was only 7 hours. I could just have her fly out on my due date, but I know most women don't have their baby on the exact due date anyways. If I go into labor before 39 weeks, then none of this matters anyways.

But what would you do? Would you schedule the birth to try to ensure that a loved one could be there or just let it happen when it happens?

Kristi_M1123 · December 2011

My cousin did that two years ago. Her step-son was visiting over Christmas break and they wanted him to meet his new brother before returning home (several states away) and not coming back until spring break. B is a perfect little boy... no problems with the roughly 39 weeks gestation.

lp0 · December 2011

I don't see anything wrong with being induced a week early as long as your doctor thinks it's safe for you and your baby.

rnkrs10 · December 2011

If you and your doctor are comfortable with it then go for it.

d-squared · December 2011

I agree, if Dr. is for it...Why not

GreeneyesP · December 2011

My SIL had a planned induction because DH had to go out of the country on business the week of her due date (he couldn't get out of it), so the Dr. induced her at 39 weeks. If you and Dr. are ok with it, go for it. Sounds like it would be a really beautiful moment, one that neither you or your daughter would regret.

trackchik6 · December 2011

i personally would only induce for a medical reason

miababy · December 2011

trackchik6:
i personally would only induce for a medical reason

This.

namara5532 · December 2011

To answer your question, I wouldn't choose to induce for anything except a legit medical reason. However, your circumstances are different. If the benefit of having your daughter around for the birth outweighs the risks of an induction, then go for it. 39 weeks is pretty reasonable to induce without risk of the baby being premature.

luckylindy · December 2011

namara5532:
To answer your question, I wouldn't choose to induce for anything except a legit medical reason. However, your circumstances are different. If the benefit of having your daughter around for the birth outweighs the risks of an induction, then go for it. 39 weeks is pretty reasonable to induce without risk of the baby being premature.

This.

FarmvilleLover · December 2011

Hmmm, I wouldn't personally induce for this reason, but I wouldn't judge someone that did. No real reason except for that I just want this baby to come on its own accord and not by induction unless it's medically necessary. I think your reasons for wanting to are reasonable though, so definitely do what's good for you! GL girly.

AnnieTater · December 2011

Although I want to avoid pitocin contractions and an increased chance of c-section if possible, I see why you would consider it. I bet the baby would be fine!

purpletulip · December 2011

I wouldn't personally induce, but I'm also not in your situation. It would be nice to ensure your daughter could be there, and like you said, you might want to for your husband too, depending on the job situation.
Good luck!

littlemonster417 · December 2011

Absolutely!

SoonToBeMsP · December 2011

I am not really into induction except for medical reasons, but in your case I'd say if the dr is ok with it, go for it!

shelbym · December 2011

I would and am. I am being induced at 39 weeks (unless she comes earlier) so we can have family in town to watch the other two. I was induced at 39 weeks with DD and it was a good and easy induction where we turned the pitocin off after my labor started going. I would say though that if your cervix isn't ripe I may not go for it because your body isn't ready yet. If you are dilated and your doctor thinks it is a good idea then yeah, go for it.

MrsLeanna · December 2011

As long as your body is ready for induction, then definitely. You're full term at 37 weeks. My daughter was born via induction at 38 weeks, no problems.

Thinkerbelle80 · December 2011

No, I would not schedule it. I would just call her when I go into labor and she can come down then. I wouldn't share pictures with others till she got there so she could still share in the special moment of meeting the baby face to face.

Sascha3 · December 2011

Thinkerbelle80:
No, I would not schedule it. I would just call her when I go into labor and she can come down then. I wouldn't share pictures with others till she got there so she could still share in the special moment of meeting the baby face to face.

That will likely be beyond my control. My husband has a huge family, and I am sure there will be 30 people in the waiting room, like every other birth in the family. His mom came to our elective u/s to find out the sex and his 14 year old sister had it all over facebook before I even got off the table and pulled my pants up. I am not looking forward to it, as I am a bit of a loner and would prefer quiet family time. But I realize if I start laying down rules like that, I will never hear the end of what a b!tch I was at the hospital.

I really hope I have the baby in the middle of the night so I can have those hours to myself.

emmasue18 · December 2011

Actually, we are dealing with this same decision! My husband is due to get military orders to leave sometime between February and April (actually, we're all leaving and going to Texas). Because the baby won't be allowed to move (pediatrician is strongly against this) until six weeks, our OB offered to induce as early as 37 weeks. I was induced with DS at 38w5d and it was easy breezy! I was hoping for a more natural labor (with no pitocin) this time around, but we have to do what is best for us. I kind of like knowing the ETA of the baby. We're still thinking about our options. Good luck to you!! I would totally go for it if your doctor is up for it! You're very lucky to have a doctor that is willing to do that for you!! :-)

AfterAll · December 2011

For those reasons? I would if both the doctor and I were comfortable with it.

My doctor told me if I am dilated at all they will induce me at 39w if I want and I am toying with the idea as well. I know that having a newborn means plans go out the window and you have to just go with the flow, but having everything planned, especially when there are a thousand other factors is nice for so many reasons.

ambs21 · December 2011

I was induced at 39 weeks with DD due to my husband working an out of town project (for my entire pregnancy), and my Dr. didn't want me to be alone going into labor. It seemed like the best choice for us at the time, and I still think it was. I did not, however, progress and ended up with a c-section. I don't want to scare you out of anything, but I wanted to give you my experience to prepare you that it can happen. I would say if you are dilating on your own at all, definitely go for it. Considering your L&D with your DD was quick and without complication, your chances of it going the same this time are probably really good. Good luck deciding!

Sascha3 · December 2011

Thank you all for the input. I still can't make up my mind. If the baby comes before Christmas, she will have a very hard time getting here at all (she works in retail), so I am still thinking of leaving it to fate. Mostly because I am afraid of complications and a long labor. My first was really not that bad, and was hoping the second would be easier.

This would change, however, if my husband were to get the job that needs him to move as close to the first of the month as possible. There is no way I would make a decision that could make him miss the birth of our baby. In that case, I would absolutely get induced...no question. I would rather risk a c-section than him missing the birth.

JustSomeChick · December 2011

Sascha3:
Thinkerbelle80:
No, I would not schedule it. I would just call her when I go into labor and she can come down then. I wouldn't share pictures with others till she got there so she could still share in the special moment of meeting the baby face to face.

That will likely be beyond my control. My husband has a huge family, and I am sure there will be 30 people in the waiting room, like every other birth in the family. His mom came to our elective u/s to find out the sex and his 14 year old sister had it all over facebook before I even got off the table and pulled my pants up. I am not looking forward to it, as I am a bit of a loner and would prefer quiet family time. But I realize if I start laying down rules like that, I will never hear the end of what a b!tch I was at the hospital.

I really hope I have the baby in the middle of the night so I can have those hours to myself.

Since you want your alone time with your DH, daughter and your new LO, just don't tell anyone else you're in labor. They don't need to know, you have a right to your peace and privacy. Don't tell anyone about the labor, deliver your baby, have your daughter meet the baby and whatever else you want to do, and then let everyone else know you had the baby on your own time. Just say it was a a very fast labor and you and your DH were very busy and distracted.

As far as whether or not to induce, I personally wouldn't. But I'm pretty anti-intervention unless it's medically necessary. Do what makes you feel happiest and most comfortable, it's your body, your baby, and your choice.

Sascha3 · December 2011

JustSomeChick:

Since you want your alone time with your DH, daughter and your new LO, just don't tell anyone else you're in labor. They don't need to know, you have a right to your peace and privacy. Don't tell anyone about the labor, deliver your baby, have your daughter meet the baby and whatever else you want to do, and then let everyone else know you had the baby on your own time. Just say it was a a very fast labor and you and your DH were very busy and distracted.

If it was just my decision, I would. But I have to respect my husband's wishes as well, being as it is OUR baby. I can't just allow my one family member in and not his. I am sure his mother would be extremely hurt not to be called. And it is the kind of family where if one knows, they all know. I just have to accept that. I will ask for an hour or two of privacy, then let everyone else in as a compromise. I know my husband will be bursting with excitement for his family to meet the baby and I can't be selfish and make it all about me. There will absolutely be no family around when labor gets bad. I will be selfish then.

Rstar120109 · December 2011

I dont see a problem if the dr is ok with it and you being at 39wks, especially given your situation.. The only reason I'd plan on inducing is if (a - the dr is okay with it and i am reasonably far enough along (b- since we are a military family, the only reason Id do it is if my hubby was either home on leave from deployment or was about to leave on deployment. We managed to get lucky and he's gonna be home early, about a week before we are due, but definitely go for it, since you and her are that close, I think it would make a great day even better by having the people you love most there

Good Luck!

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