Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
marissa422
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Re: Painless contractions...at what point do i go in??? advice please!
As of last Saturday, I'm also home on bed rest (and on 20mg of Procardia every 6 hours) after having those painless contractions. I still feel a few contractions a day and I'm sure there is more uterine activity that I'm probably not feeling. My doctor said to call/go in if I feel more than 5-6 contractions in an hour or if the contractions change (I'm assuming this means become more intense or painful). In my case, I'm pregnant with twins and they won't do anything more to stop labor at this point if it happens.
I agree that for your own peace of mind that you should call or go in to the hospital if you are in doubt about what to do. Don't worry about bothering the doctor or the hospital - that's what they are there for.
thanks everyone, you're all right..better safe than sorry! however, ill wait till they are continuous. i guess if im just having a few then they stop that i wont worry about it.
gin7914-funny how similar we are! minus the twins, im only smuggling one in there :P and im not sure, but am under the impression that if i go into labor they also wont stop it since they already were able to put it off for a week on the mag. Dr. said at this point, they've done everything and if i start contracting again that its saying something...so i guess knowing that i can go at anytime now is a little scary!
also did anyone have the fetal fibronectin test? i got that last week and it came back positive - i know a positive result is inconclusive but also prepares that we COULD deliver within the next two weeks. so im wondering if because of my already pre term labor and everything else, if it really will happen sooner than later...
I have "silent labor" too. This is my second baby and the first time, I went to the hospital because I felt 'weird' and was 8 cm dilated. By the time I got to the hospital I had to breath through the contractions even though I wouldn't call it painful.
I was in the hospital last week for pre-term labor but it stopped after be re-hydrated. The advice I got from a nurse that has helped me is if I am getting contractions to take 2 tylenol and have a hot bath or shower and lie down. The real thing will keep going and get stronger but false labor with slow and stop. It has worked so far. I also have to take an ambulance back to the hospital in case I don't make it all the way there.
I am just waiting till I know for sure I am in labor and then calling 911.
I had the ffn test at 28 weeks and it was positive. I am now 34wks.
I wouldn't put too much stock in the ffn test. my friend got a + ssn at 27 weeks w/ both her pg and made it to 38 weeks with both of them.
As for contractions my ob said to go in if I had more than 5 in one hour even if they were painless. At least I would call if I were having that many and see what they want you to do. When you start feeling them drink some more fluids and get off your feet.