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Unreasonable?

alohasopranoalohasoprano member
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I had an emergency c-section after 36 hours of active labor one week ago. This is our 5th day home from the hospital and I am still down, getting up to walk around but not much else. We've had lots of help from family and friends, especially with dinners. Some close friends of ours offered to bring us dinner tonight and we graciously accepted (we brought them dinner when their daughter was born). 

They just called my husband and asked if we could all make pizza tonight over at our house for dinner. We've done this with them before-they needed help making the dough and my husband is a baker so the last time they came over to make pizza it turned into my husband baking the pizza and me cleaning up. We told them thank you, but our place probably wasn't the best place to make the pizza this time around...

 

Is this unreasonable? I just feel like they offered to bring us dinner, which is very kind, but we don't have the ingredients for pizza (last time they wanted to bake pizza we ended up using up all of our flour) and neither DH nor I have the energy to clean up such a messy project right now... 

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Re: Unreasonable?

  • mrswhiskeymrswhiskey
    Not unreasonable at all. You are healing and your DH shouldn't have to worry about it either. If they want to bring you dinner to help you out, they should bring something that you guys don't have to be responsible for at all. IMO anyway. I had an emergency c-section as well and I'm 4 weeks PP. I'm just now really getting back in to cooking and cleaning.
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  • MAprincessMAprincess member
    I agree, not unreasonable.  The purpose of bringing dinner to someone who just had a baby was so they didn't have to do the work or clean-up.  It is meant to make things easier.  It sounds like what they proposed was going to be worse than anything.  You shouldn't worry about turning them down.  They should have come up with something easer for you to heat and eat with minimal clean up (and something that didn't require you to have house guests, frankly.)
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  • RedCardinalRedCardinal member
    Not unreasonable at all. We stocked up on frozen meals and plastic plates right after I had my C-section.

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  • biblionerdbiblionerd member
    Not unreasonable at all. It's douchy to say you're bringing someone dinner and then change your mind and say "oh wait, can you make it?". I'd just say, I'm sorry but with your c/s and a nb you don't have the ingredients or the energy to mess with it. 
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  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member
    I don't think you are being unreasonable.  I actually think it's pretty insensitive of them to even ask.  They offered to bring you dinner, not have you do the work and use up all your supplies.  What do they not understand about healing after surgery.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    Nope
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