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slukd79
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Is my 2 year old behind? (long, sorry)
slukd79
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Developmentally she is doing great!
However I keep reading posts about other recently turned 2 year olds (mine turns at the end of January) that are sleeping in beds and are potty trained. Mine is in a crib and diapers. 
I have been hesitant to start on either one of these fronts because we have lived in 3 different places in the past 3 months (Arlington, Chicago, Chicago suburb.) I felt like her crib was her safe, consistent place in all the moves... She is just now (in the past week) putting one leg up and stating "out, out" when I put her down for naps or for the night. However she does not actually climb out. Do I wait until she actually crawls out of her crib? Does that mean she is ready to go to a bed?
On the potty training front, she tells me when she goes poop (she is accurate!) but does not want me to change her diaper. She is really interested when I use the bathroom. 
But again, I don't know if these mean we should try or not.
She sleeps beautifully and I am hesitant to mess with it. On the other hand, I feel like I have a limited window until No. 2 arrives in mid March to work on these things with undivided attention.
Thoughts, book recs? I am open to suggestions. Thank you.
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Re: Is my 2 year old behind? (long, sorry)
She's fine. My DD is going to be in a crib as long as we can keep her there. She occasionally naps in the bed (we've had it in her room since before she was born as a couch, more or less) but until she's actually climbing we're not moving her. T went through a phase of lifting her leg up like she might climb, but the girl doesn't like to climb onto our COUCH without a boost, so I am not too worried that she'll climb out of the crib anytime soon.
I'm not really thinking hard about PTing yet, either. She's interested in the potty but screams bloody murder if we actually put her on it, so I don't think it's time for us to try. I'd say try if you want but don't force it if she doesn't want to do it herself. I'm not planning to worry about it until DD is 2.5 or 3 (or until our DCP wants to start PTing).
So you have a little potty at home? Maybe I should get one to see if there is any interest?
Every kid is different. My son wasn't anything close to potty trained until he was three. You can always buy a potty seat and see how she responds.
We moved him out of the crib at 18 months because he could get out and I had visions of him landing on his head. He was happy to make the transition to a big bed.
We moved 3 times right around the time my son turned 3 and it set some things back.
If your DD is behind then my DS is too. He's 27 months and is still happily sleeping in his crib and in diapers (we cloth diaper).
I plan to keep him in his crib as long as possible--it keeps him contained, he sleeps well, and I see no reason to mess with it. Nor do I really want to buy another bed.
As for the potty training, we are taking baby steps in that department. He has actually started telling as WHEN he is peeing (as in, when he's in the act), which makes me think he's starting to feel and understand the whole concept. So hopefully that is a step toward actually being able to tell us before he goes. ETA: we do have a potty seat, and he will sit on it and go sometimes, but only if we happen to catch him at the right time.
But in the meantime, don't rush it! She's not behind, and you have totally valid reasons for not wanting to push either of these big life changes.
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If your kid is behind, then so is mine. He's still in his crib (which he loves and if it ain't broke I'm not fixin' it). AND he still uses a paci. He probably could be potty trained if we weren't so lazy, but that is mostly dcp's doing, not ours.
But he sleeps great, eats great, has an incredible vocabulary and imagination and is generally thriving. Why pick a battle and change things up just for the sake of changing?
Mine is still in a crib and diapers too! Like yours my DD tell me when shes gone poop and wants me to change her and we've tried sitting on the potty since she sees her sisters but really isn't too interested yet. My other too weren't potty trained untill about 3 so we still have time. We do have a small potty but she really just uses it as a stool to wash her hands at the moment
The crib thing...I think its more my fault, shes our last one and when I get a big girl bed for her that will be it....she will also just play with her toys and not go to bed bc shes done it before when sleeping at my parents house. But then that means my baby is growing up which is sad!
We have an insert for the regular toilet (because I think little potties are nasty because you have to empty them, so I don't want to buy one unless there's absolutely no other way to get her PTd before she goes to college :P). I have pulled it out maybe twice in the past 4 or 5 months. She prefers to sit on top of the toilet with the lid down (fully clothed) for now, or just watch me go and not get involved herself, and that's fine with me.
DS is also sleeping in the crib and wearing diapers.
For the crib, we are planning to transition him to a bed after the holidays. The recommendations we've heard are that you should give it a few months before the new kid arrives, but honestly if you don't want to tackle it, you can keep LO1 in the crib since LO2 can sleep in a bassinet, pack-n-play, co-sleeper for the first few months.
For PT, we do have a little potty and put DS on it before his bath - sometimes we get a pee and sometimes we don't. I think it's coincidental. We're waiting for some more readiness cues or for daycare to tell us he's ready.
no, she is not behind!
I think the majority of 2yo's are still in cribs and diapers. Maggie was potty trained at 2y9mo and we didn't change over to a toddler bed until 3y3mo. With the bed, if it is not broke why fix it? I mean there is no harm in trying if you think she is ready but don't push it. Same with the PT'ing, give it a try and if she isn't ready then wait a little while and try again.
Molly is 2.5 and still in crib and diapers. We plan on PT'ing after the holidays and the bed is probably going to wait until we move after her 3rd birthday.
DD started climbing out of her crib a year ago but now she sleeps on the floor because she hates the bed.We have tried two different toddler beds and a full-size bed that she got to pick out. She prefers to make a nest out of pillows and blankets in the doorway of her room and sleep on the floor.
And, she is potty trained but her BFF at daycare has gone on a potty strike and now DD is on the same strike so she will only use the potty if she has a pull-up on (yep, pull-up on that she can take off to go to the bathroom) but has an absolute panic attack if we even bring up the suggestion of underwear.
Why is nothing ever easy at my house?
Wow, thanks!
I think part of my guilt is that I felt like I was rushing her to grow up just because a sibling is on the way... But she is still my baby and I am content to leave her so. I just didn't know if I was growing complacent with a good thing when I should have been prodding her along a bit more.
Last follow up question: If you left your first child in the crib-- did you purchase a second? Use a pack and play? Thanks again.
Right before 2, my DS was still definitely in his crib and diapers. We took the crib rails off because he could easily climb out AND in to the crib (not that he did it often or anything). We went on vacation in September, a month before he turned 2 and we had no choice but to put him in a full size futon bed for a week and he slept GREAT there. Had we not had that experience, he might still be in a crib! As for the PTing, he kept asking to go right after my DH would go (from say one, DS has stood to pee, never sat down). So we got him very comfortable with using the toilet (never a potty chair). We let him casually use the toilet (we were fairly inconsistent) for about a month, and then a few days after he turned 2, he started telling us he needed to poop so we let him sit on the toilet for that too. If DS hadn't been the one to really be into this, we would have let it go, at least until the beginning of next year, although it was pretty important to me to get him PT'd before DD arrives in March, because there would probably be no chance that I could PT him in the first six months of her life, so then that would have put DS at age 3 and beyond.
So, I'd say he was 80% potty trained and then DH took the helm and used the 3-day method and brought that closer to 100%. I can't say he's 100% because he wears diapers overnight and occasionally he'll let out a drop (literally, it's kind of amazing) of pee and then yell "need to pee! Need to pee!" it's hilarious. Oh and the other day he just pooped his pants. I have no idea why, and it was unbelievably gross but it happened. I imagine that isn't the last time
It is so, so hard not to compare where your kid is with others of the same age. I do it all the time. I also tried to transition DD to a bed in the hopes we could free up the crib for the new baby, and it was a complete disaster when none of us slept for 3 weeks. So she's back in the crib with a crib tent because she had definitely mastered climbing out. She sort of uses the potty sometimes, but I don't push it at all because I don't want to traumatize her!
Regardless, your DD is totally fine! As for possibly having to deal with these things after the next one arrives, we'll be in the same boat. But I learned the hard way that it's worse to push things on them too early.