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Vent - I think my wife might leave me (said TIC)
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I say that TIC but I've been in the dog house for the past week. I thought I got out last night but then this morning I'm back in. In the last week I:
- accidentally let her dental insurance lapse - in my defense I paid the bill (which was a combo with her life and vision) every month she was gone but in October the bill dropped $5 and I didn't notice. It was some error on the state's part and it's been fixed now but still, I got in a bit of trouble for not noticing.
- I haven't done the Christmas cards - in my defense I wanted to use a particular photo of DD and K vetoed it. So then I was at a loss and figured we would just go pick up plain cards and not send out a photo.
- Somehow the account for our car payment was linked to my SSN when she is the one that pays the bill and paid for the car - in my defense I never set up the account. I think the company used my SSN as a default since my name is first alphabetically and I'm on the loan too.
- Her car battery died this morning - in my defense (see a theme 
) she has a wiring short that requires the left blinker be left on when the vehicle is in park. I drove the car last night and I SWEAR I put the blinker on when I parked. Well she just called to say she's missing her 9:30a meeting b/c the battery is dead. She's known for a month she needed to get this fixed.
Each of these things alone really isn't a big deal and both she and I know that. However she has been sick since she returned and is working a job she hates so everything seems 100x worse than it is. I feel awful that little things are upsetting her and I understand why they would but god I wish crap would just stop happening. Thanks for listening to my vent. :-)
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Re: Vent - I think my wife might leave me (said TIC)
I have to agree with 2brides, however I am K and C is you (and 2brides).
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm....I wonder if age plays a part?
I just wanted to say: I am right here keeping you company in the dog house! I had to turn the volume down on my work phone yesterday, S was yelling at me so loudly.
I say we all just skip town for a few days and meet up at a spa or something. We need a break from all this stress!
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Absolutely! Whether we like it or not I think sometimes the 'adult' and 'child' roles gets played. Or at least when I mess up I feel like I'm definitely in one of those categories
I've been told many times that this is simply due to life experience. I feel K is more set in her ways and she explains she has had more time to figure out what she likes and now that she knows she isn't into compromise.
I'm sorry you got yelled at but I really appreciate that you shared there. I've said it before but I hate the rose-colored glasses attitude that sometimes dominates these boards. Relationships are puppies and rainbows all the time.
And if we go to the spa are we leaving the yellers at home?
(I still luv ya S!)
OMG. We are married to the same woman.
Funny, but in my relationship with K the tables are turned a little bit. I'm (considerably) younger, but I deal with all of the big decisions/things - i.e. getting a mortgage, refinancing, making sure bills are paid on time, dealing with medical stuff for J... I guess what I mean is that, more often than not, I feel like I'm responsible for being the "adult". K's an absent-minded professor, so I guess I knew what I was getting into, but sometimes I wish I had a bit more help with the big stuff. To be fair, she has been trying to help out lately.
I am responsible for all of this stuff too (well, we pay bills separately but L couldn't tell you the first thing about our mortgage or re-fi) - but it is more of an..I dunno...an attitude. Especially when we get into disagreements..ok, fights.
But somehow we've made it work for 11+ years.
Oh, that would never fly with me. More power to you.
L does her fair share of kid care (when she isn't writing) but the researching of mortages/re-fi/gifts/vacations/etc is up to me since 1) I have the time at work to do it and L doesn't and 2) I like to do it and she doesn't
This exactly. She doesn't know when our bills are due, how much our mortgage is, or how to access her bank account online... *sigh*
tdmklm - I get what you're saying but the conversation here wasn't about responsibility. 2brides, TWB/N2A, and I all have similar relationships on many levels. 2brides is right that this was about a certain attitude (for lack of a better term) and way of thinking. Age difference? Yes, partly because of that. But I also get a sense that K, L and N2A are very similar in personality. Hell all three went after their PhD so I believe there is something innately similar about them. Of all my friends, here or IRL, I feel as though these two couples mirror my relationship the closest and that I can 'get' where they are coming from in vents (and habits) almost 100% of the time.
Oh, I apologize. I guess.
No, no apology needed. I understand what you and TMM are venting about as well. Even though K is significantly older there are times that I'm the position to look like the uber responsible 'adult'. It's just two separate vents that's all. Yours are totally valid, just different then the original vent path we were on. :-)