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My DH and gift giving

TelycoTelyco
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Boy he sucks at it :) I always just send him a link and he buys it. If I don't he'll run out after work on Christmas Eve and not be home until late.

This is the first year we are putting up stockings and I am sure he won't buy anything for mine...he probably has no clue that I am thinking of stuff for his. If I remind him this year he'll just forget again next year.

So would it be mean to not say anything and then let him realize it on Christmas morning when three stockings are packed full and one is empty? Alright, fine...yes...that would be mean.

I should focus on the many other ways my DH is thoughtful and not the one where he is a complete bonehead (like when he didn't get me anything for my first Mother's Day...well, he did get me a case of "my" beer and a card when he ran to the store that day. Although I was pregnant  with Leah and didn't know it yet)....but darn it - I want a thoughtful gift!

I guess this was a stupid petty vent. Sorry!

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  • TinyPinkBugTinyPinkBug member

    My DH can be the same way, sucks at gift giving.  But then once in a blue moon, he blows me away with some awesome, tear jerking gift that makes me feel like crap for not getting him something super awesome.

    I would just buy YOURSELF your own stocking stuffers.  Get stuff you want, fill it with his and if he questions, say Santa filled it for you and you love it all!  Splurge!

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  • jewelsonujewelsonu
    not stupid at all. I get upset about the same thing.  My dh is bad too.  My favorite thing is the stocking and dh just walks down walgreens first aisle and buys what he can grab.  I put a lot of thought into the stocking i just want him to one year as well
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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    It's not stupid.. sometimes we just want to feel special and appreciated!

    And I can relate.. I try to drop hints, but now I just have an Amazon wishlist.  I have to make it quick and obvious.  For the stocking, how hard is it to grab lots of chocolate or something.. maybe you can make a joke like, "honey, for Christmas I want a stocking full of chocolate" and be cute/funny.  Seriously, I'm telling DH I want Dove chocolates with the peppermint white fudge flavor topping.

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  • dle927dle927 member

    My DH was going to get me a license plate frame this year.  I discovered his plan when I was on Amazon and saw the "recently searched items."  I stopped that dead in its tracks. (It was going to be my only or one of 2 gifts too.)

    So yeah, I know how you feel.

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  • TelycoTelyco
    Hahahahaha... Well at least he put some thought into it!
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  • dle927dle927 member

    The day before he told me he was going to get me something I needed but I just didn't know it.  Pretty sure I know I don't need a license plate frame. 

     

     

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  • festivusfestivus
    Totally relate. DH has many great qualities, but thoughtful gift giving is not one of them. So far, the only gift he has for me is something I picked out, told him I liked, and then offered to order since I was already buying something from the same site online. Honestly, I'd give up my disappointment about my own gifts if he would take on buying gifts for his VERY quirky aunts and uncles!
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  • wendyjwendyj member
    Can completely relate. I learned the hard way not to go without giving him some hints. He tries, but is just so off the mark. It really doesn't hurt to keep reminding him. If anything, you could just say, "OK, how about we limit stockings to $30" or something like that. That way he gets the hint without it sounding like nagging.
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  • sunnygirl05sunnygirl05
    I think we can start a club here ladies....my dh is pretty bad too at gift giving. However, I'm not really any better so I probably have no room to complain.  My dh and I are pretty lame when it comes to giving each other gifts.  We either decide not to do it or we just get something small for each other from the kids. 
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  • TelycoTelyco
    I like the idea of setting a limit for stockings- hopefully that will start him thinking. And I honestly don't care WHAT it is...he could put a penny for each year we've been together- anything that shows he put a little thought into it. Not just an "oh sh!t" moment on Christmas eve. If he has time to read articles about the crappy buffalo sports teams, he can browse amazon for crying out loud :)
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  • Court0026Court0026 member
    imagedle927:

    The day before he told me he was going to get me something I needed but I just didn't know it.  Pretty sure I know I don't need a license plate frame. 

     

     

    Too funny!  You know, because it wasn't my DH :)

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  • NikColeNikCole

    My DH is the same way. And then when he does try and do something thoughtful he'll buy a gift that I really don't like/love... but I have to pretend I do because I feel bad!

    This year I gave him a very extensive list, and bookmarked links to what I like.

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