Inviting others to ultrasounds?

johnson617 · December 2011

So my sister sent me a note asking if I was going to invite my mom to our a/s next week. I honestly hadn't thought about it since she lives over an hour away. My sister said that both her and our older sister invited my mom to theirs and she was so excited. I felt bad that I hadn't thought of it! So after talking with MH, we are inviting both our moms next week to the a/s. While I know MIL won't make it, she would have a 2 hour drive, we figure the thought of us asking her will be just as good to her. Have you invited anyone else or are thinking about it?

hopefulmom81 · December 2011

No. For me, the only people involved with ultrasounds and L&D are the two people that made the baby.

I share pictures afterwards, but those precious moments that will be so few in our pregnancies and lives are just for DH and I to share together.

I think it is a nice idea to involve others, but my pregnant after a loss mind starts thinking "what if there was bad news?" on top of wanting it to be a private happy moment with DH.

blueshamrock7 · December 2011

I am considering asking my FIL. Sounds weird, I know, but my mother and father as well as my MIL are all passed away and he is the only grandparent left. I know he would love to be present in that moment, but he may feel uncomfortable in the room (as I may as well). We were originally going to wrap up an I Love Grandpa bib (we have one in pink and one in blue) accordingly to tell him.

FyreFlyeRush · December 2011

hopefulmom81:
I share pictures afterwards, but those precious moments that will be so few in our pregnancies and lives are just for DH and I to share together.
I think it is a nice idea to involve others, but my pregnant after a loss mind starts thinking "what if there was bad news?" on top of wanting it to be a private happy moment with DH.

This

ClaireOtoms · December 2011

My MIL asked if she could come, and I begrudgingly said yes. Looking back now, I am so glad that she came along. She certainly didn't take away from the excitement or make it less special for us; she was over the moon about being there and certainly didn't get in between DH and me.

PotomacSt · December 2011

I don't want anyone but DH and I at ultrasounds.

That being said, my ILs are REALLY excited about my pregnancy because both of their kids are adopted and they've never experienced it before. I try to include them by telling them what's going on, showing them ultrasounds pics, and I even made an audio recording of LO's heartbeat on the Doppler that I shared with them. But I draw the line at them actually being there.

vintagejjane · December 2011

We invited my mom, she ended up not being able to make it. It was nice with just my husband and I, but we wouldn't have minded sharing it with my mother.

jmgcoggins · December 2011

I'm not, but that's because we are keeping the sex of the baby a surprise until our family Christmas. That, and the fact that my parents live 3 hours away and DH parents live 4 1/2 hours away.

I don't think we are going to be taking DS either. But we haven't really talked about it a whole lot. I just know that DS sitting in there for less then 10 minutes is going to be a huge thing to deal with, and we won't be able to pay attention to the ultrasound as well...let alone an hour and 15 minutes.

mrs+harlow · December 2011

I had my a/s yesterday and as much as I love my family there's no way I would have wanted them there for multiple reasons.

#1 while this scan is a opportunity to see the baby and it is very exciting it is a very intense thing for the tech to do. You are in there for about an hour. The tech will sometimes talk and tell you what is going on but most of the time they are focused on what they are doing. .I wanted my tech to be completely focused...what they are doing is serious. I also had to roll on each side with my shirt pulled way up multiple times for the tech to get the proper view of the baby...she would poke and prod my stomach and I had to cough as well...I'm probably a prude but I wouldn't be comfortable doing all that in front of family.

#2 the room we were in was big enough for myself, the tech and my husband. Personally if there were any more people in the room with all that diagnostic equipment I would have felt overwhelmed.

#3 I had phenomenal NT , triple and quad screen results. We were certaily not expecting any major problems yestersay. My LO has two colored plexus cysts on it's brain... Found out at the scan yesterday. Most of the time this is nothing but I wouldn't have wanted anyone but my husband in there to hear this news and talk with the peri/radiologist. I'm SUPER close with my family but those things at first are between my husband and I and for us to digest first before telling others if we want to.

I am going next week to one of those boutique ultrasound places with my mom and dad for them to see the baby and for us to have that experience together. I thi k this is a far more suitable and appropriate option than have family go to the anatomy scan.

EmilyP103 · December 2011

I would only feel comfortable inviting my mom. I probably won't, though. I think it's a great special moment to share with my DH and then later I can share the pictures we get with our family.

ErinR2012 · December 2011

No and Yes. It will just be me and my husband for the A/S ultrasound in a few weeks.

But we're having a 3D ultrasound done later (28-30 weeks?) at the same place my sister had one. I see that one as more "fun" and the place even has "stadium seating" (a few rows of chairs) for family and a big projector screen so everyone can see. My mom, and in-laws will be at that one. I went to my sisters and it was so cool!

JWhite1517 · December 2011

I had my a/s ultra sound on Tuesday, and my husband, mom, dad, and MIL were there. I did have the thought keep going through my head that if something were wrong I would want it to be only me and my husband, but the grandparents were so excited that I couldn't un-invite them. When we went everything went well, baby is healthy and we found out she is a girl, and it meant soooooo much to the grandparents and was such a great experience for them that I am happy I had them there. It's definitely a personal decision, but if you and your husband decide to have your moms there I don't think you will regret it.

okayestmom12 · December 2011

Like another posted said, the a/s will just be DH & myself but later on in the pregnancy, maybe we will schedule an elective 3/4d scan and invite my in-laws and parents to come.

Tippy05 · December 2011

hopefulmom81:

No. For me, the only people involved with ultrasounds and L&D are the two people that made the baby.

I share pictures afterwards, but those precious moments that will be so few in our pregnancies and lives are just for DH and I to share together.

I think it is a nice idea to involve others, but my pregnant after a loss mind starts thinking "what if there was bad news?" on top of wanting it to be a private happy moment with DH.

Agreed!

lyndsey774 · December 2011

Hubby and I have invited my mom and dad, and now I am thinking about my MIL....hhhmmmmm.....

PurpleSnapDragons · December 2011

Ours has a limit of 2 people besides the mom. Since all our parents live far away we won't invite anyone else. It's fortunate because we couldn't pick just one. But they made DVD of the whole a/s and you get to take it home so anyone who missed can see it later.

gigismomma · December 2011

H will not be here so a friend of mine is going with me. If I was home I think I would have just gone with H. My mom is not into the whole going to the doctor with you thing and I am sure if I asked MIL she would jump right on the invite. Maybe if I could I would take DD with me since she is 6. SHe enjoyed the 3D visit and that was almost an hour and a half.

appylovee · December 2011

I either go by myself, or take one of my best friends with me.

altachica · December 2011

We just wanted it to be something my hubby and I shared. We also felt like if there was anything wrong, we wanted to hear it and digest it first.

Luckily for us, it wasn't really something we had to worry about since our ultrasound place only allows 1 person other than the expectant mom to be in the room.

mmooki · December 2011

Hubby came to the first one. My anatomy U/S is the week between Christmas and New Years and my parents are going to be in town so both of them are coming to that one, along with hubby. The place I go to only allows 3 guests with you. My MIL lives near us so she can come to other ones. My parents live 150 miles away.

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