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How is your relationship with your ex in-laws?

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To be totally honest STBXH's mother is one more reason why I decided to leave the relationship. I can't stand her. She is probably one reason he wound up so messed up in the head. We got into an arguement yesterday because she kept repeating herself on things she told me a million times. When I told her she has already told me all of this she threw a fit yelling and swearing saying I was mean to her and proceeded to hang up on me. She has never really had a relationship with R and the ONE time I left him alone with her for a mere 10 minutes, she proceeded to smoke right next to him. I could smell it the second I got back. It reeked of cigarettes. I don't trust her nor do I like her.

Needless to say I won't be pursuing a relationship with her once my divorce is finalized and if she wants to see R she will have to drive her butt to my place to see him because I refuse to go to her apartment and my ex will not be having anything but supervised visits with the children.

I never seen my future like this but his entire family is one hot mess. How is the relationship with your ex in-laws and how do you handle it if it is rough? I have never viewed it as fair to keep a child away from their grandparents but I cringe at the thought of having to be around these people.

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  • achase123achase123

    Well, with the exception of XMIL it is just ok.  We've had out moments, but I think a lot of this was due to XH's manipulation.  They didn't know what or who to believe.  XMIL is a completely different story though.  The woman is BSC and I've gotten into several screaming matches with her.  She kept repeating over and over again in our last phone conversation (in July) "well, I guess I'm just a POS, I guess I'm just an assshole grandmother" because I said that she never made an effort to see DS.

    It's much healthier for me to have zero contact with her.  It's up to them if they want to make an effort to see DS, but I am no longer reaching out to them in that way.  It took me a long time to get to this place but it's actually quite refreshing.

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  • jtrayersjtrayers

    ugh this is like reading my life lol.  My ex father in law does not really have a relationship with anyone and is an alcoholic and pot head.  My ex mother in law is the reason why my ex is crazy I swear...she has enabled him his whole life and basically told him he can do whatever he wants to no fault.  His sisters are the spawn of satan too....the whole family is exaclty like you said...one hot mess!!!  But yet all of this is my fault and I am wrong from keeping my daughter away!  

     

    Anyway...I am sorry it sucks.  You do whatever YOU feel is right.  Do not feel guilty for doing what you feel is best for your LO.

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  • LadyLissameLadyLissame member

    Actually, since STBX and I separated, my relationship with the in-laws has improved greatly. We are friendly towards each other. Whenever I drop off DS, they invite me in. STBX doesn't even do that (he lives with them currently).

    I sometimes wonder how much of our tense relationship was because of STBX. I know he lied to me for most of our relationship. I can't help but wonder if he lied to them about me, and to me about them (told me they hated me, etc). And now that I am talking to them directly, things are getting a lot better.

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