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Keri MarieKeri Marie member
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What website is helpful for proper wording for things like:

"Baby shower at a restaurant, pay for your own food."

It's a baby sprinkle so we are all having a lunch/brunch together.

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Re: Invitation wording

  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    There is no proper wording for inviting people to pay for their own food.  Whomever is hostessing should find something (coffee & pastry, for example) within her budget and go with that.
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    If you're really having a shower then there should be a host and people should NOT pay for their own food. If you're having a SMALL (like 10 people or under) casual get together to celebrate with the mom I'd suggest something like

    "We're going to treat Jane for lunch on 1/15. Based on the menu it should be about $35 dollars per person. Please let me know if you can come."

    breath... it's a party to celebrate the baby, with no gifts, just a lunch with friends.

    I just need something along the lines of "no host lunch".

    There is no reason to be mad at my hostess for not wanting to buy 15 women lunch. It's a small informal party. 


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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
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    If you're really having a shower then there should be a host and people should NOT pay for their own food. If you're having a SMALL (like 10 people or under) casual get together to celebrate with the mom I'd suggest something like

    "We're going to treat Jane for lunch on 1/15. Based on the menu it should be about $35 dollars per person. Please let me know if you can come."

    breath... it's a party to celebrate the baby, with no gifts, just a lunch with friends.

    I just need something along the lines of "no host lunch".

    There is no reason to be mad at my hostess for not wanting to buy 15 women lunch. It's a small informal party. 

    This is really confusing. If it's no gifts, then it's not a "sprinkle."  If there's a hostess, then it's not a no-host lunch.
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
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    If you're really having a shower then there should be a host and people should NOT pay for their own food. If you're having a SMALL (like 10 people or under) casual get together to celebrate with the mom I'd suggest something like

    "We're going to treat Jane for lunch on 1/15. Based on the menu it should be about $35 dollars per person. Please let me know if you can come."

    breath... it's a party to celebrate the baby, with no gifts, just a lunch with friends.

    I just need something along the lines of "no host lunch".

    There is no reason to be mad at my hostess for not wanting to buy 15 women lunch. It's a small informal party. 

    Then don't use the word shower, because she's right.   Showers are the responsibility of the host/ess.  She actually gave you a pretty good example of what you would use if you were going to go that route.  Which I wouldn't, personally.  If you're going formal enough to have printed invitations and an official hostess, then you should be providing for your guests.  

    Small casual parties (imo) in the true sense of the word are usually word of mouth.  If your friend wants to get some friends to go out for lunch, she can call them.  "Hey, I was just thinking the other day that I wanted to take Keri for one last grown-up lunch date with just a couple of girlfriends.  I'm going to take her out for lunch at X Cafe on Y date and if you want to join us for lunch, that'd be great!"  

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    If you're really having a shower then there should be a host and people should NOT pay for their own food. If you're having a SMALL (like 10 people or under) casual get together to celebrate with the mom I'd suggest something like

    "We're going to treat Jane for lunch on 1/15. Based on the menu it should be about $35 dollars per person. Please let me know if you can come."

    breath... it's a party to celebrate the baby, with no gifts, just a lunch with friends.

    I just need something along the lines of "no host lunch".

    There is no reason to be mad at my hostess for not wanting to buy 15 women lunch. It's a small informal party. 

    Then don't use the word shower, because she's right.   Showers are the responsibility of the host/ess.  She actually gave you a pretty good example of what you would use if you were going to go that route.  Which I wouldn't, personally.  If you're going formal enough to have printed invitations and an official hostess, then you should be providing for your guests.  

    Small casual parties (imo) in the true sense of the word are usually word of mouth.  If your friend wants to get some friends to go out for lunch, she can call them.  "Hey, I was just thinking the other day that I wanted to take Keri for one last grown-up lunch date with just a couple of girlfriends.  I'm going to take her out for lunch at X Cafe on Y date and if you want to join us for lunch, that'd be great!"  

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    15 women is not a small, casual gathering. It's not like a group of 5 or 6 friends going out to lunch.  Some people's showers aren't that big.  Most people's showers are only slightly larger.
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  • emilydholmes1emilydholmes1 member
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    If you're really having a shower then there should be a host and people should NOT pay for their own food. If you're having a SMALL (like 10 people or under) casual get together to celebrate with the mom I'd suggest something like

    "We're going to treat Jane for lunch on 1/15. Based on the menu it should be about $35 dollars per person. Please let me know if you can come."

    breath... it's a party to celebrate the baby, with no gifts, just a lunch with friends.

    I just need something along the lines of "no host lunch".

    There is no reason to be mad at my hostess for not wanting to buy 15 women lunch. It's a small informal party. 

    Then don't use the word shower, because she's right.   Showers are the responsibility of the host/ess.  She actually gave you a pretty good example of what you would use if you were going to go that route.  Which I wouldn't, personally.  If you're going formal enough to have printed invitations and an official hostess, then you should be providing for your guests.  

    Small casual parties (imo) in the true sense of the word are usually word of mouth.  If your friend wants to get some friends to go out for lunch, she can call them.  "Hey, I was just thinking the other day that I wanted to take Keri for one last grown-up lunch date with just a couple of girlfriends.  I'm going to take her out for lunch at X Cafe on Y date and if you want to join us for lunch, that'd be great!"  

    100% THIS. If you have a shower with a host- it is their responsibility to provide. If it is just a get together honoring someone, you just tell people that. It is beyond tacky to send an invitation that says "come to the shower but bring a gift and pay for your own food". There is NO good way to say that. 

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  • dojo1dojo1 member

    If people have to buy their own food, they should be prepared for it rather than embarrassed (and more than likely peeved) when the cheque comes around so you basically have to be blunt. 

     PP have had some good suggestions on wording / calling it something other than a shower.  


    Quite honestly though, hosting a light afternoon tea for 15 does not have to be pricey.  If you shopped for some inexpensive cookies and made a couple of quick breads you'd have enough for everyone and likely could do it for around $30.00.  If you want to call it a shower, I would make every effort to host it like a shower, but again I would warn people on the invite.

    "Please join us for coffee and tea to celebrate _____________."


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