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Is a "Sprinkle" Tacky?

aliyarinaldialiyarinaldi
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I just had a baby boy in May and my mother threw me a lovely baby shower in April.... however, now I'm pg with #2 and my friends are talking about throwing me a "Sprinkle" if it's a girl. I think it would be so sweet of them, but I JUST had a baby and feel like I would feel sorta selfish/guilty about it... I dont want to come across as tacky having 2 showers in one year... thoughts?
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    Yes, two showers in one year for two different kids is tacky (imo).  However, people will come on and blather on and on and on about how every baby should be celebrated and if someone wants to throw you a shower, let them...but honestly, I'd seriously side-eye someone who had two showers in one year for two different kids.   
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    I'd seriously side-eye someone who had two showers in one year for two different kids.   

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    Yes, it would be tacky. But I understand the spirit with which they are asking. If these friends wanted to take you out for a girl's lunch one day and happen to give you gifts, that would be fine. 

    I think in this case, something like a sip-n-see would be better. 

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  • mommabear17mommabear17 member
    I think having a second shower is tacky to begin with (and as much as people want to call sprinkles sprinkles, in most case they just give it a different name to make themselves feel better and less greedy).  I think it is quite tacky to have one for a second child SO close together. 
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    We only have one shower per mom where I live (usually).  I have gone to second showers (which is basically what a "sprinkle" is) and have to say if it hasn't been 4-5 years people "talk".  Obviously nothing is said to the MTB or even to the hostess...but amongst the guests (we were more forthcoming).  I would not have another shower.  If your friends want to have a get-together - lunch, etc. or even host a "meet the baby party" after your child is born then I say OK.  JMO
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Who would you invite?  Everyone invited to your first shower?  Yes - tacky.  But if this is just going to be a small gathering of truly your absolute closest friends - I'm not going to judge you as much.  A "sprinkle" means SMALL.  Very, very small. 

    I'll say this too- I really don't understand how having a baby of another gender means it's o.k. to have multiple showers.  You'll get clothes.  TRUST ME - you'll get clothes.  Does a party really have to be thrown in order to make that happen?

     

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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    To answer your question, yes.  A no-gifts get-together would be much, much more appropriate.
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  • aliyarinaldialiyarinaldi
    Thank you all for your input! I agree with the "side-eye".... I think I would feel the same way if it was anyone else, I just didn't know what to say to my girlfriends when they brought it up. I had like 50 people at my shower and if this "sprinkle" ever did happen, it wouldn't be NEARLY as big.... prob only 8-10 of my closest girlfriends, if that. Maybe I'll just suggest a nice lunch of something if they keep insisting, and say no gifts. Thanks again! :)
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  • ryry1977ryry1977 member
    Just getting together with your closest friends/family is nice.  I think every baby should be celebrated.  You can say no gifts:)  Of course I'm sure you will get them anyway!
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  • Sean+LyssSean+Lyss

    imagerhubarb123:
    We only have one shower per mom where I live (usually).  I have gone to second showers (which is basically what a "sprinkle" is) and have to say if it hasn't been 4-5 years people "talk".  Obviously nothing is said to the MTB or even to the hostess...but amongst the guests (we were more forthcoming).  I would not have another shower.  If your friends want to have a get-together - lunch, etc. or even host a "meet the baby party" after your child is born then I say OK.  JMO

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  • Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    Well lets just say my two kids will be 2.5 years apart and I don't even want a Sprinkle.  I've turned down three people who have offered to throw a shower for #2.  They have never heard of the etiquette issue of more than one shower and they think I'm the one being weird.  Sorry...I want no part in a Shower or Sprinkle.  I'm already a mom, I don't need to be welcomed to motherhood again.
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  • blush64blush64 member

    If they aren't normally done in your circle then you might get responses like those above. If they are normally done I would assume you wouldn't be asking.

     My family does have a shower for each child. (and has been for longer than my mother and aunts have been alive) No one would think to ask if they could have a shower for someone or if it was ok that a shower was being thrown for them because it's just always done. (family only though)

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  • sda6485sda6485
    I felt awkward about my family throwing a shower for #2. Our first will be turning 6 when #2 is born. After we had her, a family near by came in to some hardship and lost everything in a fire. The mother was very very young and had nothing. So, I donated everything of my daughters to her. I was then diagnosed with PCOS so knowing that IVF was an expensive option (that we couldn't afford) I thought #2 was completely out of the question. However, surprise! Found out in September (while planning our wedding for September 2012) that we are expecting. As for my bridal shower, from the beginning I have said I was not registering for gifts because we already have our own home and have furnished it and bought the things we needed for it. So, my bridal shower is to be a catered, sit down dinner with my closest friends and family just to celebrate them being a part of our special day. So, everyone insisted on a 2nd baby shower since we have nothing left and never actually thought we'd be here again. I suppose it's to each their own. But I think the luncheon would be a great idea with your friends. They will bring you things either way. Good luck!!
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  • ElishaChambersElishaChambers
    I had DS1 and 2 really close together too! I had 2 huge great baby showers for DS1.... But I decided to have a Baby- Q for DS2! We bar-b-q'd and it was co-ed! We had alot of fun and got gifts too!:)
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  • angelfire02angelfire02 member
    I threw a baby shower for a friend 7 months after I threw her a bridal shower.  When she got pregnant the second time I read that someone was throwing her a "sprinkle".  I personally would have been really annoyed if I had been invited (I don't think she ever ended up having one) but I felt like I had put in my time with her big events and it was time to move onto someone else's.  That probably sounds really witchy but what I mean is, most people who want to have numerous children will and if I was invited to a shower/sprinkle for every one, we would be at them all the time!  Your close friends will probably bring you girly stuff after the baby comes anyway, so in my opinion, you probably don't need to have another shower/sprinkle. :)
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  • BriarRose2BriarRose2

    Although sweet, I would vote tacky. I do believe gifts will be given to the new baby at the time of arrival.

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  • k12somersk12somers member
    I cannot believe people's passions about NO 2nd SHOWER! It's ridiculous, if someone wants to throw you a 2nd shower, which I am doing for my sister in law who has her 2nd girl coming soon in 2012, then whatever.  People who are "offended" or think it's being "greedy" can get a life and RSVP no.  Showers aren't to get gifts, they're to celebrate and I'll tell you what, in life there are too many disappointments, frustrations, stresses and depressing things.  I don't know a more happy time then becoming a mom, whether it's your first or fifteenth, so why not celebrate that?  It makes me sick reading all these mean and nasty posts to this.  Get a grip people!
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  • mommyaudramommyaudra member

    imagek12somers:
    I cannot believe people's passions about NO 2nd SHOWER! It's ridiculous, if someone wants to throw you a 2nd shower, which I am doing for my sister in law who has her 2nd girl coming soon in 2012, then whatever.  People who are "offended" or think it's being "greedy" can get a life and RSVP no.  Showers aren't to get gifts, they're to celebrate and I'll tell you what, in life there are too many disappointments, frustrations, stresses and depressing things.  I don't know a more happy time then becoming a mom, whether it's your first or fifteenth, so why not celebrate that?  It makes me sick reading all these mean and nasty posts to this.  Get a grip people!

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