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Pity party and help: Toddler sleep issues

2vthokies2vthokies
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Oh, wise bumpies!  Please help.  DD2s sleep has turned to crap (almost 15 months).  Seriously bad.  She used to be the BEST sleeper (you may remember me posting before).  Sleeping 6 hours the day she came home from the hospital, etc.  She had a rough period in July when she got strep and then HFM back to back.  We got back on track when our pedi told us to move her to one nap and keep it no longer than two hours.  Things were back to normal and then she started teething again two weeks before Thanksgiving...then got RSV a week before Thanksgiving...and is still teething and nothing helps (ibprofen, camilia, etc.FWIW, she only has 8 teeth so I feel like she may be working on a whole bunch of teeth at once.).  She's like a newborn.  Down around 7, up at 12, up at 2 up and 5 and then up around 7 for the day.   I had sinus surgery a week ago and DH tried the first three nights to just go to her instead of me responding and she screamed bloody murder till I came in to nurse her.  I've thought of putting her down later, but she is clearly tired by 7.  I've tried putting her down earlier, nada.  At DC she only naps for an hour or so...doesn't make her more tired.  At home she naps for two hours...doesn't help the night sleep.  I'm exhausted and I have to go back to work tomorrow and I'm still not fully recovered from my surgery (super tired and still some sinus pain). She can totally self-soothe she just doesn't want to.  She used to HATE being rocked to sleep.  Now I have to nurse and rock.  It's so bizarre.  I am planning to BF until she's 18 months, but had figured at this point we would only be BFing in the morning and evening (like I did with DD1).  Since she is still BFing at night I'm pretty much day weaning because I am sick of pumping and need some sort of break. Has anyone Ferbered an almost 15-month old?  I've never Ferbered so I don't know how it would work for an older child or if it would work. Is this something I need to ride out?   Oh, and I can't co-sleep.  I am a light sleeper and every movement she makes wakes me up, plus she thinks sleeping in my bed equals fun time and she ends up just crawling around and playing. Any thoughts?

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Re: Pity party and help: Toddler sleep issues

  • mommmyzmommmyz

    We had to re-Ferber DS last January when we had a bunch of similar circumstances. He got RSV in December and was of course so sick from that he had lots of help going to sleep, so he got used to it. We did Ferber when he was about 6 months old, but I won't lie, it was A LOT harder at 15 months, mostly because he could stand up, walk around the crib, and call out for us. Worth it for sure, but it took 40 minutes or so the first few nights. We can't co-sleep either because DH is the type who hits/kicks in his sleep and I am a really light sleeper (crazy combo!). I feel your pain! For us re-Ferberizing worked in about 5 nights at 15 months.

     If you do think it's teething I'd be hesitant to do Ferber until you thought you might be in the clear for a while, but if she's getting a lot it might be too hard! But, Ferber pretty much works the same way for an older child, say good night, and then let him cry, increasing the amount of time you wait to go in by a few minutes at each interval. His book is pretty helpful for sleep in general. Shorter intervals did not work well for us when DS was older, but I think it depends on the kiddo.

     Good luck!

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  • SofkaSofka

    I've been wondering how you are doing!

    We had to re-Ferber DS at 14mo old, it worked much better than the HUGE FAIL at 10.5mo old. Right now we are in the midst of the 18-mo wakeful but we had a good 3 mos of STTNing.

    Good luck!

     

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  • 2vthokies2vthokies

    @mommyz - I am worried that it is teeth related, so I am hesistant to Ferber.  She has her 15 month check up next week so maybe I'll just hold out until then. 

    @Sofka - hey there!  Sorry, I haven't been ignoring you. I'm okay.  I ended up not going back in today.  After my follow appointment this morning I felt terrible.  I'm going to work from home tomorrow and then go from there.  I'm scared to Ferber - I'm afraid it might wake up K Tongue Tied

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  • SofkaSofka

    I was afraid of that too but we have a lot of white noise in E's room and his screaming never woke her up.

     

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