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I regret telling people I'm pregnant with twins "vent"
I had to tell work early because I wanted them to take it easy on me. I'm getting really tired of people looking at me like I'm some sort of science experiment. Two girls from another department ran into me during lunch and approached me. One was very happy for me and the other one stood there looking at me with her eyebrows turned up. The excited one says ," I asked your husband what he thought and he said"," I'm excited but I don't know!". I responded oh is that was he said and I laughed. The other one stared at me and said "well, he's nervous. Anyone would be! Arn't you?" I said no, I'm more worried about the pregnancy than taking home two babies. I'm excited about taking home two babies. She just looked at me like I was a freak and I should be on my knees screaming why me or something.
This is probably petty but it annoys me. It also annoys me when people say, "your pregnancy will be just fine". I guess they have a crystal ball. Yes, it will be tough taking care of two babies but can I just get through my high risk pregnancy first? Stop asking me about names and telling me to let them sleep together. I wish people would just stop talking to me and pretend they don't know.
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Re: I regret telling people I'm pregnant with twins "vent"
It's definitely annoying hearing the negative comments, and they keep coming...even now. I always get, "better you than me" or "I feel sorry for you".
After a while I guess you just let it roll off your shouders. I get alot of very nice comments too, and I think about those more than the negative ones.
This excactly. I always get, "ohhh PSSSHHH! You worry to much!". When I try to educate people.
NOBODY understands the risk of multiple pregnancy. It's so amazingly frustrating. Then when you try to tell them they just look at you like you don't know what you're talking about and shrug it off like it's no big deal.
I'm with you OP. I am so concerned with getting through this pregnancy and delivering 2 healthy babies that I haven't even had time to consider the ins and outs of bringing home two babies!
Best of luck to you for a H&H pregnancy.
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I told my work I was pregnant, but not that I have twins yet. I am waiting until after our 20 week ultrasound. A couple close friends at work know, but my bosses and co-workers in general don't know there are 2.
I have had some people (mostly older Dad's) react negatively...like "wow. Really? good luck with all that." I said to one person "yep! Crazy I know, but I can't really send one back."
On a related note, and sort of a vent, my MIL wanted to put that we were expecting twins in her Christmas letter. She asked H if it would be okay, he said yes. After he got off the phone with her, he asked me, and I just had a bad feeling about it. I don't know who she is sending her letters to, and even though we have told family and close friends we are expecting twins, there's something different about the Christmas letter. That and mostly the fact that my work doesn't know.
After I told him how I felt, H said, "that's fine I will text her back and tell her no," but I am sure she wasn't happy about it. I have no way of knowing since she never calls me directly. One of many decisions I'm sure she won't agree with.
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I'm already annoyed thinking about all the lovely pushy advice I got when DD was born. DH's family was saying "come on, give her some watermelon chunks!" at 5 months old. This would go on at family gatherings. I'm already pumped and fuming waiting to tear heads off next time around when the babies are here. I'm acting nuts right now I know but I really want to "stand my ground" next time around.
My sentiments exactly. I know it will be difficult having two newborns - I've already had newborns, so I know how hard it was with one! And I've already had a preemie (DD2 was born at 33 wk 5 d). What I don't know is if I'm going to end up on hospital bed rest, if they are going to develop TTTS, etc. etc. Some days I barely feel like I am going to survive the pregnancy. Less than 90 days until I reach 38 wks (the goal), so can I just focus on making it that far?
I hope things go smoothly for you the rest of the way or better. I can only imagine how I will feel in the next few months. Has the exaustion let up a little? Some days I feel like I can't function I'm so tired.
i had to go and see a specalist because my reg OB said that i was close to developing TTTS. when i told the people i work with about what was going on and the different things they can do to treat TTTS a lady said "well if i was you i wouldnt do anything and just let nature take its course" i wanted to punch her in the face and say, did you not just hear anything that i said.. hello my babies would both end up dying if not treated.. i feel your pain!!!
Exactly!!!! My hubby and I already have 3 at home and although we weren't expecting one more baby much less two we know we will survive. I really hate the "what are you going to do" comments. I mean what do you think I'm going to do throw them in a dumpster, put them up for adoption, give them away to friends or sell them...I mean come on. I'm going to have them, love and support them and enjoy my family. I mean just think of the family holidays and vacations we will have when they are older.
I don't know what kind of twins you are having but although it's a high risk pregnancy, you should try to enjoy it. Not everyone gets this experience and although it's not something that should be taken lightly and is very scarry it's an amazing journey we are all on. I don't know if it helps you or not but I was totally freaked out and in your same position not too long ago, I know I've had all the same fears you are having but I think now my biggest fear is that they will come early and have to stay in the NICU and trying to figure out how I'll fit behind the steering wheel of my car in the next few months. The "home with two babies' rarely crosses my mind either right now.
Best advice my doctor gave me was DON'T READ ANYTHING!!!!
Good luck to you!!!
Yeah, a lot of people really don't know what they're talking about.
I honestly haven't gotten that many negative comments about having twins; I get a lot more of the, "Oh, I always wanted twins!" type comments. Eh, I think any combination or spacing of kids has its pros and cons. It's not all-cute-all-the-time like some people think but it's also not horrible and certainly not deserving of the "I'd shoot myself if I had twins!" comments. Sometimes people just don't know what to say.
Yes!! I hate when someone says "OMG are you freaking out?"
Does it look like I'm freaking out? I'm having two precious babies not a two-headed cyclops monster from Hades.
I also hate: "Oh awesome. One pregnancy and you can be done with having babies." *** - I just told you I would probably have one or two more. " I would totally have my tubes tied after twins."
Well guess what - you aren't!!! So suck it! I saw a t-shirt online that said "Singletons are for sissies!" haha - tempting
AMEN! Although I am all kinds of big now and I love the " you look like you are 6/7 months pregnant - you are gonna be huuuuuge." Thanks...can't wait.
Exactly the same here. I had so had enough of the stupid comments that I finally said to some idiotic woman "I'm so glad I'm the person having triplets instead of the person who would say sh!t like that to a woman who is having triplets- that would be really awful"